Lori Alexander 55: God Frowns Upon Lying, Lori

[Briefly]

7 hours ago, ladyicantxplain said:

I'm not as bothered by the content of her sexual assault post today as I am by the fact that she is USING her sexual assault post to draw further attention to her VIRAL post!

The mirror always points back to LORI.  When does the mirror shine back the image and reflection of JESUS CHRIST in her writings, so that HE gets the glory for healing the abused and oppressed?

No, we only see links to HER viral post and then get to hear about how offensive HER viral post was to survivors of sexual assault (though I am quite sure it was offensive to most of the real Church of Jesus Christ, who saw it for the religious and self-righteous, sanctimonious SHIT-PILE that it was/is!).

As a survivor of sexual assault numerous times during my past (including early childhood), I wish she would showcase JESUS CHRIST in any writings about this topic.  There is healing. Complete healing. Through Jesus Christ.  She briefly touches on this when stating that old things are passed away, and the woman in Christ is a new creation. She encourages women to know who they are in Christ.  But she doesn't tell them HOW, and she doesn't tell them that Jesus Christ heals completely.  She doesn't guide them in how to obtain this healing FROM Him in practical ways.

Instead, she quotes women she interviewed from her chat room.  A place where I have personally read horror stories from wives who are being HURT physically by their own "Christian" husbands during sex IN MARRIAGE. These women have cried out for help from Lori and been told, in my words, something akin to, "Suck it up, Buttercup - sex is your DUTY!"  I have private messaged too many of these women and comforted them through the horrible advice given in the "chat room."  So I cannot really be impressed by anything Lori is now writing about sexual abuse, until I see her publicly repent (in writing) to the women she's told that they "must keep having sex" with their evil and abusive husbands.  God, I wish I had saved all those conversations.  The thought of this makes me feel slightly ill.

No, Lori.  You have no business writing a piece on sexual abuse and assault.  You have not exercised righteous judgement from the Spirit of God when counseling women who have been sexually abused.  A couple of bible verses about identity in Christ is not enough: it's not ministry in the fullness of Jesus Christ.

Get trained in ministering to these women and then I might receive something you've written. Until then, I pray for the 80,000 or so women in your church (yes, it is an online CHURCH Lori pastors).  I pray they have discernment from the Spirit of God. I pray they find real healing in Christ if they have been abused sexually or otherwise.

Yes, I am offended at Lori's writings. Just like Jesus was offended when He went into the temple and turned over tables WITH A WHIP!  That's called RIGHTEOUS INDIGNATION, and it is HOLY and right: it is to be every Christian's response to religious garbage being spewed from pulpits.

 

Is that chat room something that she can be reported for?  She is monstrous.  I'm infuriated at her doing that.  I guess I should not be surprised, though.

[EowynW]

I think chatroom screenshots should be collected and a huge post released one day. 

[klein_roeschen]

7 hours ago, Hisey said:

Reading Alyssa's post made me worried I have hypothyriodism. Can I ask what your symptoms were, and what the pill did?

My hypothyriodism was found around 10 years ago. I got a new gyn and he tested me because I'm overweight. He was the first to ever consider this, while every other doc noticed my high weight, but never considered this. I didn't had any other symptoms I remember, only that I was overweight allmost all of my live. So I suspect that I have this condition since childhood, but no way to prove it. The test is pretty easy, go to your doc, get blood drawn and tested. When the test confirmed it, he send me back to my general practioner, who put me on L-Thyroxin and send me to a nuclear medicine doctor, who made an ultrasound and a szintigraphy of my thyroid gland and confirmed the diagnosis. These 2 tests where made to look if my gland is enlarged and to look if there where some changes notable who needed to be treated, like hot spots, who can easely and fast develop into cancer. But thankfully nothing, my gland is only lazy and produces not enough hormones. Taking L-Thyroxin everyday is the standart treatment. L-Thyroxin is the pre-state of the thyroid hormone and when taken, your gland will make the working Triiodthyronin out of it and so supplement your body with the hormones it lacks and you will need to take it for the rest of your life.

[Hisey]

6 minutes ago, klein_roeschen said:

My hypothyriodism was found around 10 years ago. I got a new gyn and he tested me because I'm overweight. He was the first to ever consider this, while every other doc noticed my high weight, but never considered this. I didn't had any other symptoms I remember, only that I was overweight allmost all of my live. So I suspect that I have this condition since childhood, but no way to prove it. The test is pretty easy, go to your doc, get blood drawn and tested. When the test confirmed it, he send me back to my general practioner, who put me on L-Thyroxin and send me to a nuclear medicine doctor, who made an ultrasound and a szintigraphy of my thyroid gland and confirmed the diagnosis. These 2 tests where made to look if my gland is enlarged and to look if there where some changes notable who needed to be treated, like hot spots, who can easely and fast develop into cancer. But thankfully nothing, my gland is only lazy and produces not enough hormones. Taking L-Thyroxin everyday is the standart treatment. L-Thyroxin is the pre-state of the thyroid hormone and when taken, your gland will make the working Triiodthyronin out of it and so supplement your body with the hormones it lacks and you will need to take it for the rest of your life.

Thanks for explaining! I hope the medication helps you.

[SilverBeach]

6 hours ago, refugee said:

Must be nice to have that choice. I don't mean to sound self-pitying. I haven't been able to find a general doctor "in network" yet.

You should complain if there is no internist in network in your plan. The plan sponsor should negotiate better. I do appreciate my coverage but I'm not accepting substandard care regardless.

[Hisey]

2 hours ago, EowynW said:

I think chatroom screenshots should be collected and a huge post released one day. 

I agree! Can anyone help with this? Once Lori realizes that her chatroom cruelty will be screen shot (and since she reads here, she'll find this out quickly), she'll tone down her crap, the way she tones down her blog. That will be good for the vulnerable women who ask for help there. 

Instead of hearing, "It doesn't matter if sex hurts, woman, it is your godly duty," she'll say, "Share your symptoms with the group and we'll see if anyone can help. We want you to be able to have sex with your husband as soon as you are able."

When she knows we're watching, she'll behave better. Right now, that chat room is a "safe space" where she can be as ugly as she wants.

[SuperNova]

The type of services that Alyssa offers are predatory and I really wish she would just stop. There are people out there who feel like no one else can help them, regular medicine has failed them and they want answers. I remember when I first got sick and just couldn't accept that I was never going to be the same again. I refused to believe that this was my new normal. I've had every kind of alternative treatment that I could find and there was always someone just like Alyssa who had a carrot to dangle and take my money. 

Why is the Alexander family a bunch of know it all, pseudo-intellectual "experts"? What a pack of insufferable a-holes.

[refugee]

1 hour ago, SilverBeach said:

You should complain if there is no internist in network in your plan. The plan sponsor should negotiate better. I do appreciate my coverage but I'm not accepting substandard care regardless.

I will look into that. I know we had a fantastic oncologist (can't say enough good things about that particular doctor; best MD I've ever dealt with in my admittedly limited experience) when someone in our family went through surgery and chemo. The coverage was good after we fulfilled our (ouch) high deductible. 

[WhatWouldJohnCrichtonDo?]

6 hours ago, EowynW said:

I think chatroom screenshots should be collected and a huge post released one day. 

I don't know the rules about posting screenshots from a private chatroom anywhere else, but it is against the rules on Free Jinger. We can't post screenshots or exact quotes from any private social media accounts, or other private types of communication. From the guidelines:

Spoiler

I agree that Lori needs to be held accountable for the vile things she says. We just have to do it ethically. 

[hoipolloi]

6 hours ago, EowynW said:

I think chatroom screenshots should be collected and a huge post released one day. 

Guys - if the chatroom is private you may NOT repost any of it on FJ, including screen caps, images, or verbatim quotations from whatever is said there. As a reminder, our guidelines do not allow posting private information. Paraphrasing of what you read or learn on private social media or in members-only fora or chatrooms IS allowed. Please read the linked guidelines for specific info. Thank you.

 

[cara]

2 hours ago, SuperNova said:

Why is the Alexander family a bunch of know it all, pseudo-intellectual "experts"? What a pack of insufferable a-holes.

There's a certain confidence that comes from being white, privileged and good looking. Makes you feel like you can do and be anything you want. 

[delphinium65]

Today Lori is yammering on again about problems with daycare.  It's pretty much another pile of crap, but she does have one point that I have to admit...well, she's not completely wrong.  She says 'I encourage every mother who is working outside of the home to figure out exactly how much income she brings home after deducting the costs of daycare, wear and tear on the car, extra clothing, gas, food that she can’t prepare from scratch, not having time to compare prices and shop frugally, and so on. The amount that she brings home may be much less than she thinks and she may be able to find a way to live simply and frugally within her husband’s income.'  Don't get me wrong, Serena Lori can take her 'woman, stay home and submit!' bullshit and stick it where the sun don't shine, and living within one income isn't the Holy Grail of marriage, but I think taking a moment to add up costs versus benefits is a good idea.  Of course those costs and benefits should include whether a wife/mother wants to work outside the home, whatever satisfaction she may derive from her job, etc, and one size answer does NOT fit all as Lori seems to think it does.  

[wallysmommy]

This uneducated moron knows nothing of servant leadership.  She has never picked up a leadership theory book in her life.  Servant leaders in organizations do not abdicate their authority to others.  She seems to know one style of leadership that she preaches as the model for marriage -- authoritarian dictatorship.  This style supports her passive-aggressive laziness with which she is so comfortable.  Christ taught servant leadership, and he is used as the role model in most texts I have read on the topic.  Servant leadership was part of the conceptual framework for my doctoral study, so to see her twist the theory for her own self-righteous ignorant teachings aggravates me to no end.

[Momto2Princesses]

I wonder which daughter or daughter in law pissed in Lori's wheaties... 

[lilwriter85]

19 hours ago, SilverBeach said:

Or a cart of groceries at Aldi! Lori Alexander is a pampered extravagant heifer who has nothing in common with her fangirls.

One of the things that has really bugged me over the past few years is that Lori thinks she has a lot in common with many of her  fangirls and the other thing is the fangirls who have posted about not having much money don't realize how little Lori has in common with them. 

[Hisey]

6 hours ago, cara said:

There's a certain confidence that comes from being white, privileged and good looking. Makes you feel like you can do and be anything you want. 

I don't know. I work at a school for homeless kids and there are plenty of white, privileged, nice looking ladies who drive up to this sketchy neighborhood and spend their days trying to help the kids. They don't think they can do everything and be anything, quite the contrary, they know there is little they can do, but they do it anyway.

I know white, privileged, good looking kids who grew up with abusive or neglectful parents now and are really struggling. Struggling with self hate or cutting or bulimia or depression. These are my daughter's friends and while the world might think they have it all (they are young, pretty, etc) they are unhappy and certainly don't act like Alyssa or Lori.

I don't think we can say that a whole group of people are like Lori, simply because they come from the same "group." I think Lori is just Lori, and Alyssa, I'm afraid, is just Alyssa. 

We were all rooting for Alyssa here, and I was too, so I never said what I was thinking. I was thinking that she seemed awfully narcissistic with the constant professionally-shot pictures of herself, posted up on all her social media. Someone told me it was a ballet thing, and maybe it is, but she isn't a ballerina anymore. She's a dance teacher. Maybe she needs to do this so she'll continue to get professional sponsorships, like with toesox, but I don't know. Seems a bit much.

[lilwriter85]

I've always been mixed on Alyssa. But, I'll say I'm still rooting for her because she gives off more of warm vibe than Lori's other kids. 

[Momto2Princesses]

In case there was any doubt that "A lady of reason" is a judgey bitch... well she spells it out today. She is a judgey bitch. 

[klein_roeschen]

3 minutes ago, Momto2Princesses said:

In case there was any doubt that "A lady of reason" is a judgey bitch... well she spells it out today. She is a judgey bitch. 

Do we know if this poster is a real person or just Lori's nasty side as a sock account? I get vibes of the latter.

[Alisamer]

She considers daycare workers "unconcerned strangers"? WTF?

The kids I kept as babies in daycare have their own kids in school now, but I still remember most of their names. I remember one who was the result of a rape at a party. I remember one whose mother was a young teenager, but who was doing a great job at parenting her. I remember one who was Cuban-American, and spoke a little later than some others because she was growing up bilingual. I remember one who looked like a tiny old man, and really enjoyed having stories read to him. I remember the toddler and baby brother who ended up in DCS care, after a visit to the hospital found multiple broken bones in various stages of healing in the infant. I remember we took photos and kept records of the toddler's bruises, just in case, because we were worried about them. 

Lori and followers - you do not feed, change, hold, rock, snuggle and read to a baby 5 days a week and remain an "unconcerned stranger", any more than Lori's nanny was an "unconcerned stranger" to HER children. Daycare providers are partners in a child's care. They communicate with the parent, share concerns, help with learning skills, and celebrate milestones. They know the baby and it's schedule. And sometimes, they have to protect children who are in abusive situations.

[Momto2Princesses]

28 minutes ago, klein_roeschen said:

Do we know if this poster is a real person or just Lori's nasty side as a sock account? I get vibes of the latter.

 Good question. I'm not sure. I know she has been around for awhile and is usually the first to post on her blog. 

[SongRed7]

2 hours ago, Momto2Princesses said:

I wonder which daughter or daughter in law pissed in Lori's wheaties... 

I wondered this too.  Speculation bus here.....but it does seems she's watching Erin's kids a lot more than usual. And Alyssa a while ago posted some  pics of her watching the kids as well... So while it may not be Erin per se....according to Lori's standards, isn't she spending an awful lot of time away from her precious "seed."    I though Lori commands mothers to be with their children 100% of the time.  HMM? makes one wonder what is going on..

[Hisey]

49 minutes ago, SongRed7 said:

I wondered this too.  Speculation bus here.....but it does seems she's watching Erin's kids a lot more than usual. And Alyssa a while ago posted some  pics of her watching the kids as well... So while it may not be Erin per se....according to Lori's standards, isn't she spending an awful lot of time away from her precious "seed."    I though Lori commands mothers to be with their children 100% of the time.  HMM? makes one wonder what is going on..

Erin has a jewelry making business that she loves and that's growing. She's also pregnant with her fourth. It sounds like she dumps her kids with Lori as much as possible.

[Koala]

More from "Lady of Reason".  This one made my blood run cold:

Omg, she's winking about elder abuse?  Holy god...what kind of monster does that?  It's like she's gleeful at the thought of pain being inflicted on a helpless person.  

Now that I think about it, if shit starts going "full circle", Lori might be better off in a nursing home.

Lori- Beat her babies with a strap.  Left them hungry/unchanged through the night from 3 weeks on because SHE needed HER sleep.  Denied them food/convinced them certain foods were a sin.  Shamed them for their weight.  Made sure they were afraid of her.  

In fact, the ONLY kind thing Lori ever did for her kids, was to hire a nanny to be the mother that she never was.  

If Lori's kids did to her what she did to them, they'd all be in jail.  Let that sink in for a moment.
 

[squiddysquid]

21 hours ago, refugee said:

just take this heavy-duty prescription painkiller and call me when you're ready for me to do your knee replacement"--I sought other advice, and so far, I still have my knees).

If you have a "regular" doctor who asks you questions and talks to you longer than five or ten minutes in an appointment, I envy you. Some of us don't have the choice to go to a doctor like that.

I don't have a "regular" doctor, I work at a hospital, this our standard doc question form:

current issue; past medical history, family history, risk profile "life style", sleeping/eating habits, psych, then standard check organ system by organ system, referral letters, past hospital stays (nurses, physio, social work, psych, specialist consults go into more detail after that)

Since we have had a raging opiod crisis all over (not just US...) for quite a few years now, you'd get into serious legal trouble for just prescribing "heavy duty" painkillers. The good clinical practice guidlines tell us to stick to NSAIDs and physiotherapy whenever possible.