Duggars by the Dozen 29 - A Very Inappropriate Lawsuit

[cascarones]

Gah, not looking forward to those years. I'm surprised my parents are still sane, they had a gaggle of moody teenagers and there was a period where one of my brothers was in a full leg cast, doctors were trying to figure out what was wrong with me (migraines, unusual presentation) and moved my grandmother in. 

Looking back, I think my grandmother might have been hardest for my Mum. Being a caretaker for someone declining into dementia is no easy task, especially when they're confused at where they are and who the teenagers are or pissed and insisting they can live on their own. I got quite into hippie fashion and wearing my Mum's old clothes, because sometimes she'd just think I was her (we look nothing alike) and that was a lot easier on everybody. It made us grow up and not be selfish little shits a lot faster or alternately take her rabble rousing words to heart. "I'm too old to care and you're too young to know any better. So we can do as we please." 

[WiseGirl]

23 hours ago, Chocolatedefrauded said:

What gets me is the self-absorption- like I have an armful of laundry or the puppy is trying to herd the cat & my lovely child wants me to drop everything and fetch her water immediately. I yell, "does it look like this is a good time?!" Then she says that I never do anything for her & I don't love her & all I care about is the puppy! So aggravating. 

This. May we both survive this stage with our sanity intact. Sounds like a night at my house!  

Living the dream!

[onekidanddone]

On 8/10/2017 at 0:02 AM, Coconut Flan said:

Don't ever be afraid to confiscate phones, controllers, ipads, etc.  Hold them for the ransom of good behavior.  Plus remember it doesn't last forever, it only feels like it.  

Once my kid gave me some real 'tude I just gave my my "look".  She walk to her room handed me her phone and walked away.  I didn't have to say a thing.

[Percy]

I never confiscated phones.  I did get ' you can't tell me you never played on your phone in class when you were in school'.

After I stopped laughing, I had to explain that mobile phones were a relatively new thing.  The first mobile phone I had was when she was 10 months old, and it was the size of a brick. 

Fining them a dollar for each towel I found on the floor of the bathroom soon solved that problem.  My girls are tight with their money.

Having a written roster on the kitchen door for who's turn it was to cook, clean up and feed the animals is something we have kept to this day.  If they want to go out with friends on their night to cook, they either need to swap nights with someone else or cook in advance.

[feministxtian]

I would take the power cords to various "toys" with me to work. My kids knew that as long as I was yelling, they were ok. HOWEVER, when I got real quiet and my accent got thicker they knew that death was in the cards. To this day they swear that I could reach back to the third seat in the van, and backhand the girls in the backseat, get the boys in the middle with the forehand and never take my eyes off the road. Now, I don't remember having this particular skill but...there may be a couple years in there where I was so exhausted all the time I just don't remember...

[Chickenbutt]

I can only say, thank goodness my kids are grown. You all are bringing back memories I have blocked out for my sanity. This is making me giggle. Good luck to you all. Each age has its rewards and challenges and anyone who says "that would never happen with my child" or "I would never" deserves everything they get. 

[Gobsmacked]

On 10 August 2017 at 0:53 PM, Chocolatedefrauded said:

My usual response is "I didn't know your legs were broken. You know where the kitchen is, right?" It is the second request that gets me yelling.

My response is " what did your last servant die of?" Normally shuts them up. 

[JMO]

1 hour ago, Gobsmacked said:

My response is " what did your last servant die of?" Normally shuts them up. 

This is my favorite.  I'm saving this one in the back of my brain.  

[DarkAnts]

2 hours ago, Percy said:

I never confiscated phones.  I did get ' you can't tell me you never played on your phone in class when you were in school'.

After I stopped laughing, I had to explain that mobile phones were a relatively new thing.  The first mobile phone I had was when she was 10 months old, and it was the size of a brick. 

Fining them a dollar for each towel I found on the floor of the bathroom soon solved that problem.  My girls are tight with their money.

Having a written roster on the kitchen door for who's turn it was to cook, clean up and feed the animals is something we have kept to this day.  If they want to go out with friends on their night to cook, they either need to swap nights with someone else or cook in advance.

I told my students that their crotch could not possibly be more interesting then the topic at hand. The students were adults so that might make a difference.

[WiseGirl]

19 hours ago, DarkAnts said:

I told my students that their crotch could not possibly be more interesting then the topic at hand. The students were adults so that might make a difference.

Yeah, you have to clean this up for middle and high school, but there are ways.

[wikinggirl]

Completely of topic, but Krista, the kind of liberal Duggar friend (she's helped with a ton of the weddings) is in my city. As in in Oslo, Norway. Way up north in the heathen, socialist Scandinavia. 

[Carm_88]

On 8/10/2017 at 9:23 AM, Chocolatedefrauded said:

My usual response is "I didn't know your legs were broken. You know where the kitchen is, right?" It is the second request that gets me yelling.

My Dad used to say "You're younger then I am." My friends mom had a magnet put on the fridge with a button on it, like one from a shirt, it said "Press button for maid service, if maid does not come, get it yourself!" 

[Greendoor]

On 7/3/2017 at 2:39 PM, VelociRapture said:

Just want to throw out there that not every guy raised in a "traditional" nuclear home is a dud. 

I think if a boy is raised in a household where the work is divided fairly between both parents, as my husband was, then you're more likely to end up with a grown man who can take care of himself and his family. So parents of all children, but especially boys, do what you can to divide work evenly and work as actual partners. It'll help teach your children that they should not only be expected to pull their own weight as an adult, but that they should expect the same from any partner they choose to be with (if they're interested in romance. If not, same applies to a platonic roommate.)

I agree with what you are saying for the my brother. my ex and my son.  It is the prayer of my life he meets a young woman, not a girl or a princess.  

 

[Trynn]

Or you could get all passive aggressive like I did with my boss the other night. He was supposed to be working, but he was watching youtube instead and asked me to bring him a glass of water.

I filled a cup with ice and told him to wait.

[cascarones]

On 8/10/2017 at 4:53 AM, Chocolatedefrauded said:

My usual response is "I didn't know your legs were broken. You know where the kitchen is, right?" It is the second request that gets me yelling.

My Mum would use this, it was such an automatic response she was still saying it when elder brother was in a full leg cast, his hollered responses and their resulting banner was often quite funny. Just when she got used to waiting on him hand and foot the cast came off, but boy did he milk that for as long as he could even after he'd done all of his physical therapy and was back out there scoring goals.

[singsingsing]

On 8/12/2017 at 7:25 PM, Carm_88 said:

My Dad used to say "You're younger then I am."

Ha, that was (and still is!) one of my mum's favourite sayings!

[MarcyMM]

12 hours ago, Trynn said:

I filled a cup with ice and told him to wait.

That...is hilarious.

[front hugs > duggs]

Ugh I wish I had y'all as parents! I think my dad believed his kids were there to wait on him hand and foot! I get being helpful around the house and respecting your parents, but he'd actually make me fetch things solely for his convenience and on behalf of his laziness. Even just yesterday, he told me to text my cousin on his behalf, and tell cousin to let my dad know if my uncle needed anything (currently in hospital). I was driving and my dad was in a casino, so please tell me why he couldn't just text my cousin in the first place.

Sorry. I've mentioned before I had very very selfish parents. I just can't believe it's still happening!

[Markie]

I cannot really understand the push for all fundies (especially duggars) to become ministers, missionaries, or to have some sort of "ministry." Why can't they just chose a job or profession and be as Christian as they like in their own families? Millions of Christians are able to hold down secular jobs while keeping their values and beliefs. Does the focus of JimBob's "So You Wanna Court My Daughter" questionnaire revolve on if the guy has some sort of "ministry?" Ben, who was a devote Christian and enrolled in College, had an autoglass repair sideline business. That seems to have been dropped in favour of his declaring his desire to minister. 

[karen77]

37 minutes ago, Markie said:

I cannot really understand the push for all fundies (especially duggars) to become ministers, missionaries, or to have some sort of "ministry." Why can't they just chose a job or profession and be as Christian as they like in their own families? Millions of Christians are able to hold down secular jobs while keeping their values and beliefs. Does the focus of JimBob's "So You Wanna Court My Daughter" questionnaire revolve on if the guy has some sort of "ministry?" Ben, who was a devote Christian and enrolled in College, had an autoglass repair sideline business. That seems to have been dropped in favour of his declaring his desire to minister. 

It's because they only seem to have 1 interest, Jesus... so they are only attracted to people with this same fervent interest, and thus, that is the pool of suitors you end up with.

[candygirl200413]

Wasn't sure if this was the appropriate place to share but it reminded me of the Duggars

Spoiler

 

 

[Chocolatedefrauded]

9 hours ago, cascarones said:

My Mum would use this, it was such an automatic response she was still saying it when elder brother was in a full leg cast, his hollered responses and their resulting banner was often quite funny. Just when she got used to waiting on him hand and foot the cast came off, but boy did he milk that for as long as he could even after he'd done all of his physical therapy and was back out there scoring goals.

This is pretty funny! 

[nastyhobbitses]

On 8/10/2017 at 0:02 AM, Coconut Flan said:

The proper response to get me water is did you forget where the kitchen is?  

I found yelling counter productive with my crew.  Deadly quiet was the key and firmness.  Remember you hold all the cards - the credit cards, cash, checkbook, and car keys.  Don't ever be afraid to confiscate phones, controllers, ipads, etc.  Hold them for the ransom of good behavior.  Plus remember it doesn't last forever, it only feels like it.  

The two best punishments/incentives I've seen are to change the WiFi password every day and give it as a "reward" for completed chores and good behavior (exceptions made for homework assignments that require the internet), and to take away chargers for electronics. You can use your iPad all you want, but once it's dead, it's dead until you behave yourself.

My mom used to respond to requests for things I could get myself with "'Fraid not, your highness".

[MamaJunebug]

Since it's only Hollywood gossip this probably doesn't deserve its own topic, so here it is: Boob The Hoarder

I've seen a few references to the family having multiple warehouses and I've watched enough hoarders shows on tv to know that it's not at all unusual for hoarders to have outbuildings full of stuff.

One of the potential initiators of obsessive compulsive hoarding disorder seems to be surviving a period of great want, or a traumatic event. If Boob's dad (RIP) indeed was an inconstant provider, there you (might) go.  All anecdotal evidence, of course.

[nastyhobbitses]

1 hour ago, MamaJunebug said:

Since it's only Hollywood gossip this probably doesn't deserve its own topic, so here it is: Boob The Hoarder

I've seen a few references to the family having multiple warehouses and I've watched enough hoarders shows on tv to know that it's not at all unusual for hoarders to have outbuildings full of stuff.

One of the potential initiators of obsessive compulsive hoarding disorder seems to be surviving a period of great want, or a traumatic event. If Boob's dad (RIP) indeed was an inconstant provider, there you (might) go.  All anecdotal evidence, of course.

Well, he and Michelle certainly are child hoarders. Wouldn't be at all surprised if they hoarded other stuff too.