Seewalds 19: Dust Bunnies and Babies

[JillyO]

48 minutes ago, Four is Enough said:

As I grew up, my father constantly called me by his mother's first name, however, saying I looked and acted like her. She had the best resting bitch face ever... and so do I. I have to say.

Growing up, I apparently also looked a lot like my paternal grandma, to the point where some in my family (particularly my aunt) called me "little Marianne" (Marianne being my grandma's name). I'm about a foot taller than she ever was though.

[HereticHick]

On 3/10/2017 at 10:38 PM, send*the*ferrets said:

 

Re: The Shack- the church where my 4yr old attends preschool did a book study on it and went to see the movie together. Interesting that one "Christian" group is totally for it, and one so against. I don't know the groups conclusions on the book, but a lot of the other moms enjoyed the book study. I'm atheist so don't go, although the book does pique my interest. 

Yes, very interesting! I walked by my local Christian bookstore this weekend and I pretty sure they had the Shack book prominently  displayed in the window!!

[fluffernutter]

9 minutes ago, HereticHick said:

Yes, very interesting! I walked by my local Christian bookstore this weekend and I pretty sure they had the Shack book prominently  displayed in the window!!

I'm thinking it's the fact that god was a black woman instead of a white old man with an awesome beard and some Zeus-like robes who looks like someone's santa-gramps that has Bin's whitey-tighties in a wad.

[Georgiana]

15 minutes ago, JillyO said:

Growing up, I apparently also looked a lot like my paternal grandma, to the point where some in my family (particularly my aunt) called me "little Marianne" (Marianne being my grandma's name). I'm about a foot taller than she ever was though.

My great grandma S died about a year before I was born.  Which was probably for the best, because as a partially Native American woman who spent her entire life passing so as to be received in "good" St. Louis society, she would not have taken kindly to her eldest great granddaughter coming out of the womb with loads of black hair and bright brown eyes: an undeniable papoose.  

The nicest thing my grandmother (her daughter in law) has ever said about my appearance is that it is "Nice that Harriet's exotic looks came back at a time when they could be in fashion."  If it sounds like I am the only member of my generation without blue eyes and one of only two non-blonde cousins...you are correct.  To be fair, she has described my naturally platinum blonde cousin's looks as "rather boring, played out" so maybe her compliment to me is nicer than it appears (and she's dead wrong, of course, the natural atomic blonde of my cousin is incredibly rad and rare).

My great grandmother was also a notorious flapper who went out with a different beaux every night of the week except Sunday, when she received them all in her parlor (because she was still a member of decent society! ).  She had one very serious gentleman who was rather controlling.  He tried to tell her how to wear her hair, and told her if she EVER bobbed it, he would leave.  Well, Harriet was having none of that and IMMEDIATELY chopped her long, shiny dark hair into a bob.  He was as good as his word and left her....only to end up in jail for mob connections a few years later.  Moral of the story: if a man tries to control how you style your hair and is willing to leave you over it, let him.  You have to weed out the bad ones somehow.  

[snickers34]

3 minutes ago, fluffernutter said:

I'm thinking it's the fact that god was a black woman instead of a white old man with an awesome beard and some Zeus-like robes who looks like someone's santa-gramps that has Bin's whitey-tighties in a wad.

What's so obnoxious about their opposition to this movie is that, by constantly having some weird purist view of their faith, they're specifically turning people off to being a part of their faith. If they actually gave a shit about 'saving' people, they wouldn't take such a dismissive and judgmental tone. More evidence that they don't actually care about saving people, just judging them.

[2manyKidzzz]

I just don't want to go to a movie about a child dying. I am in the happy movie, or true history mode at this time. Made up sad stories are not my thing. Shallow me.

[fluffernutter]

5 minutes ago, 2manyKidzzz said:

I just don't want to go to a movie about a child dying. I am in the happy movie, or true history mode at this time. Made up sad stories are not my thing. Shallow me.

Nothing shallow about that. Ever since I had kids i can't stomach kids dying or violence in movies. And if I'm going to actually spend the money to go to a movie, i want to have fun. It's my brain-candy time.

[Exposedknees]

19 minutes ago, 2manyKidzzz said:

I just don't want to go to a movie about a child dying. I am in the happy movie, or true history mode at this time. Made up sad stories are not my thing. Shallow me.

Child dying, Cancer, Ultra Violence, Child abduction, Scary....I just can't watch these movies. Too much real drama in my life I guess. 

I make no apologies for it- you shouldn't either. 

[nokidsmom]

1 hour ago, Georgiana said:

My great grandmother was also a notorious flapper who went out with a different beaux every night of the week except Sunday, when she received them all in her parlor (because she was still a member of decent society! ).  She had one very serious gentleman who was rather controlling.  He tried to tell her how to wear her hair, and told her if she EVER bobbed it, he would leave.  Well, Harriet was having none of that and IMMEDIATELY chopped her long, shiny dark hair into a bob.  He was as good as his word and left her....only to end up in jail for mob connections a few years later.  Moral of the story: if a man tries to control how you style your hair and is willing to leave you over it, let him.  You have to weed out the bad ones somehow

I love this story about your great grandma!    She sure was willing to put that statement to the test.  And I bet she loved the bob too. 

Mr. No's grandmother was a flapper and we heard all kinds of stories about her and the speakeasy hopping she did.   She had her share of beaux too.

[Million Children For Jesus]

3 hours ago, fluffernutter said:

I'm thinking it's the fact that god was a black woman instead of a white old man with an awesome beard and some Zeus-like robes who looks like someone's santa-gramps that has Bin's whitey-tighties in a wad.

Exactly. If the Octavia Spencer role had gone to Tim McGraw or Tim Tebow, or any other Christian Tim, Ben would have had two thumbs up. But he's not racist or anything because he has his token black friend, Flame. Usually when young kids are dumb, I excuse it on youth, but I don't have any hall passes for Ben. He's that type of dumb that people don't age out of: ignorant, self righteous, and hateful. Yuck.

[Fundie Bunny]

I doubt the problem Ben has with that movie is that Octavia Spencer is black, the problem is that she has no penis

[singsingsing]

I don't think it's that fact that God is a black woman, it's the fact that God is a woman, period. It undermines their entire belief system. It goes against a literal interpretation of the Bible. And if God is a woman, where does that leave male authority? 

[BadMammaJana]

3 hours ago, fluffernutter said:

Nothing shallow about that. Ever since I had kids i can't stomach kids dying or violence in movies. And if I'm going to actually spend the money to go to a movie, i want to have fun. It's my brain-candy time.

Lord of the Flies was on this weekend. My husband was watching and changed it when I came in the room. He knows the drill. It was the scene where Piggy is crying. Ugh, even that scene is burned in my brain, I wish I could hold him and rescue him (and the other boys) from the island. The crying probably wouldn't have bothered me if I didn't know what happens to him later. 

[SassyPants]

5 minutes ago, BadMammaJana said:

Lord of the Flies was on this weekend. My husband was watching and changed it when I came in the room. He knows the drill. It was the scene where Piggy is crying. Ugh, even that scene is burned in my brain, I wish I could hold him and rescue him (and the other boys) from the island. The crying probably wouldn't have bothered me if I didn't know what happens to him later. 

A Lord of the Flies reference in a Duggar Forum is just so appropriate.

[send*the*ferrets]

4 hours ago, 2manyKidzzz said:

I just don't want to go to a movie about a child dying. I am in the happy movie, or true history mode at this time. Made up sad stories are not my thing. Shallow me.

So many of my friends are obsessed with "This is Us" and I just can't sign myself up for crying every week. More Big Bang Theory, please! 

[Million Children For Jesus]

20 minutes ago, BadMammaJana said:

Lord of the Flies was on this weekend. My husband was watching and changed it when I came in the room. He knows the drill. It was the scene where Piggy is crying. Ugh, even that scene is burned in my brain, I wish I could hold him and rescue him (and the other boys) from the island. The crying probably wouldn't have bothered me if I didn't know what happens to him later. 

Ugh. I read that book in grade school. It took decades to erase it from my mind. Now it's back. 

My kids are astonished that I don't recall tragic endings from classic novels, but I have a self-preservation skill for creating alternative endings where nobody gets hurt. Eight Below? All the dogs lived.

As an adult, I can't handle violence or general meanness in movies. My now ex-husband always had to watch movies first so he would know when to fast forward through certain scenes when we watched together. We never went to the movies, only DVDs. Casino ended up being a 45-minute movie, and it was still really good. Proof that we don't need so much sex and violence to tell a great story. Not that I'm a fundie, just super sensitive. 

He used to say there was only one genre of movie I could watch. The Drew Barrymore genre. If it didn't have Drew Barrymore, he assumed it was too mean for me. I do love her. She's really fun and not mean. 

[MargaretElliott]

I know how you guys feel about harsh media. I'm usually okay with that kind of thing, I've watched Breaking Bad and The Walking Dead, The Handmaid's Tale is my favorite book, and I love speculative fiction... so I tried watching Black Mirror. I got through the first episode and a half before I shut it off and laid on my couch, staring at the wall and crying in silence for an hour. I felt physically ill. It was horrible.

After I summoned the will to live again, I marathoned the Magic School Bus. Existential despair is no match for childhood nostalgia.

[unicorncastle]

So many of my friends are obsessed with "This is Us" and I just can't sign myself up for crying every week. More Big Bang Theory, please! 

Omg same. I just can't handle it. I'm sure it's a great show, but I need happy, funny, light shows.

[nst]

Give me an episode of Felicity any day of the week 

[Million Children For Jesus]

9 minutes ago, nst said:

Give me an episode of Felicity any day of the week 

Up Network needs to run Felicity reruns. They already have The Gilmore Girls. 

[Tangy Bee]

7 hours ago, 2manyKidzzz said:

I just don't want to go to a movie about a child dying. I am in the happy movie, or true history mode at this time. Made up sad stories are not my thing. Shallow me.

I just stick to comedy and few action flicks. Rather laugh than cry.

[2manyKidzzz]

Well, in the true history but really miserable category, we saw Hacksaw Ridge. I looked it up and the main character, Desmond Doss, really saved 75 fellow soldiers in the South Pacific. My husband was SHOCKED I wanted to see a bloody movie. Well, I closed my eyes of course. 

This man was a totally devout Seventh Day Adventist. And he puts Derick to complete shame. It was a miracle. True and through. And if you see it, now on Netflix or something, there is on YouTube this man, Desmond Doss, on the show "This is Your Life". Humble, humble, humble man. Jill and Derick are clowns compared to this man. 

I am not a 7th Dayer, nor do I espouse their religion, this is a disclaimer. 

[Coy Koi]

8 hours ago, fluffernutter said:

Nothing shallow about that. Ever since I had kids i can't stomach kids dying or violence in movies. And if I'm going to actually spend the money to go to a movie, i want to have fun. It's my brain-candy time.

It would have seemed to me like I would be like that, and I'll bawl like a baby watching Law & Order: SVU when a child is hurt...but I'll still watch it. Or reading news articles about child abuse, or anything like that. It disturbs me greatly, but I sill do it. But when it comes to animal abuse, as soon as I know that's the subject matter, I'll immediately nope the fuck out and try to put it out of my mind. I really like animals and I love my pets but I'm not one of those people who genuinely loves animals more than humans, so I don't know why my boundaries are where they are. I love my cat but I love my kid infinitely more, so it makes no sense to me.

[Bethella]

5 hours ago, send*the*ferrets said:

More Big Bang Theory, please! 

Did you catch that they've ordered a Big Bang Theory prequel show "Young Sheldon"?

https://www.yahoo.com/tv/big-bang-theory-prequel-young-sheldon-picked-straight-193606391.html

[frugalitymom]

43 minutes ago, Bethella said:

Did you catch that they've ordered a Big Bang Theory prequel show "Young Sheldon"?

https://www.yahoo.com/tv/big-bang-theory-prequel-young-sheldon-picked-straight-193606391.html

I'm so excited to see it, especially with Jim Parsons doing the voice over.