More Joshley: Still hiding - Part 16

[theinvisiblegirl]

17 hours ago, Bushes of Love said:

When one of my grandmothers' died about 20 years ago my family (including my grandfather) went for an Indian meal after the funeral. We were so jovial one of the waiters asked what we were celebrating. If feel sad that my grandfather is no longer with us and that side of the family has kind of fallen apart (no falling outs, we just are dotted around the country) because every get together was a bloody good knees up!

Oftentimes, funerals are the only time large portions of the family see each other. While they're sad occasions, they don't have to all be tears and sobs. Sharing some laughter can really help, especially after the wake or funeral. After my grandfather's wake, we went back to my grandmother's house for a big dinner with family I had never even met before, and it was very upbeat. Granted, I was very upset because my grandfather and I were very close, so I took a lot of time away from the dining room to sit in a dark room and just think/be alone, but the option for happiness and a break from the grief was there whenever I was ready, which was nice.

12 hours ago, coffeebean7 said:

I find it ironic that Josh's craigslist listing for the Humvee has " Jay" as a contact person but if you google the phone number in the listing it goes to Josh Duggar's car company. You would think he'd had enough of using fake J names  ok Internet stalking over

You mean... Josh gets to use a computer again? Surely Anna must have to stand over his shoulder at all times with the word "Nike" on the tip of her tongue to shout at any moment should anything questionable come up?

13 hours ago, coffeebean7 said:

I find it ironic that Josh's craigslist listing for the Humvee has " Jay" as a contact person but if you google the phone number in the listing it goes to Josh Duggar's car company. You would think he'd had enough of using fake J names  ok Internet stalking over

I always thought my Internet sleuthing skills were amazing, and then I tried to navigate Craigslist and found absolutely nothing  Hats off to you and any others that can sleuth from Craigslist. I salute thee.

[coffeebean7]

11 hours ago, theinvisiblegirl said:

Oftentimes, funerals are the only time large portions of the family see each other. While they're sad occasions, they don't have to all be tears and sobs. Sharing some laughter can really help, especially after the wake or funeral. After my grandfather's wake, we went back to my grandmother's house for a big dinner with family I had never even met before, and it was very upbeat. Granted, I was very upset because my grandfather and I were very close, so I took a lot of time away from the dining room to sit in a dark room and just think/be alone, but the option for happiness and a break from the grief was there whenever I was ready, which was nice.

You mean... Josh gets to use a computer again? Surely Anna must have to stand over his shoulder at all times with the word "Nike" on the tip of her tongue to shout at any moment should anything questionable come up?

I always thought my Internet sleuthing skills were amazing, and then I tried to navigate Craigslist and found absolutely nothing  Hats off to you and any others that can sleuth from Craigslist. I salute thee.

I only found it because someone posted the price of the car and craigslist lets you search by price. It took no time.

[chris]

1 hour ago, coffeebean7 said:

I only found it because someone posted the price of the car and craigslist lets you search by price. It took no time.

See, I just searched for "Humvee" and looked for one that looked similar to the one Josh was in in the People magazine photos

[JesusHDuggar]

I hope Josh is sticking to the automotive section of Craiglist and staying away from the personals. Yikes!

[sophie10130]

9 hours ago, JesusHDuggar said:

I hope Josh is sticking to the automotive section of Craiglist and staying away from the personals. Yikes!

Yeah it seems weird that Craigslist is an allowed website. Unless he's hired a social media coordinator on staff at the side of the road car lot 

Jk it's probably Jana.

[chris]

18 minutes ago, sophie10130 said:

Yeah it seems weird that Craigslist is an allowed website. Unless he's hired a social media coordinator on staff at the side of the road car lot 

Jk it's probably Jana.

Unless she know how to write in multiple voices, it's not Jana putting them up. 

[sophie10130]

5 minutes ago, Hiddenomaha said:

Unless she know how to write in multiple voices, it's not Jana putting them up. 

oh man, I didn't see the actual craigslist ad. Now I AM curious!

[EmCatlyn]

3 hours ago, Hiddenomaha said:

Unless she know how to write in multiple voices, it's not Jana putting them up. 

Jana may just be posting what he tellls her to.  Or maybe it is Anna who is working with him on the Craigslist ads.  Josh is supposedly still working on his porn-addiction, etc. I doubt he would be encouraged tto use CL without supervision.

[infooverload]

Then again the family and Anna may be of the mind he has sufficiently punched his forgiveness ticket. I am stealing the idea of the forgiveness ticket from the YouTube video called What Can the Duggars Teach Us About Sex by Darrell Ray. I didn't agree with all the points presented, but it was interesting to watch.

[EmCatlyn]

49 minutes ago, infooverload said:

Then again the family and Anna may be of the mind he has sufficiently punched his forgiveness ticket. I am stealing the idea of the forgiveness ticket from the YouTube video called What Can the Duggars Teach Us About Sex by Darrell Ray. I didn't agree with all the points presented, but it was interesting to watch.

One would hope that they are not hovering over Josh all the time, but I got the impression that in order to continue his pray-therapy to conquer his porn addiction, he would need to avoid situations where he would meet with temptation.  If I were in his place, I would avoid CL.  Just reading the personals could be the first step down the slippery slope... 

 

 

[Bad Wolf]

Pickles has pictures of Josh in FL with the Kellers. He's smiling with Anna.

[MatthewDuggar]

4 hours ago, Bad Wolf said:

Pickles has pictures of Josh in FL with the Kellers. He's smiling with Anna.

From this article:

http://www.inquisitr.com/3122757/josh-duggar-is-all-smiles-with-keller-family-in-florida-spends-time-with-in-laws/

 

[paulypepper]

4 hours ago, MatthewDuggar said:

From this article:

http://www.inquisitr.com/3122757/josh-duggar-is-all-smiles-with-keller-family-in-florida-spends-time-with-in-laws/

 

Who's the photo bomber?

[theinvisiblegirl]

The picture from the article - the one with the photo bomber - is old. That was featured on the episode of 19KAC when they went to California. It also produced such classic moments as Josh trying to be a trapeze artist and the outrageously awkward visit to the home for unwed mothers. Anna was still pregnant with Meredith then.

[Sweet Fellowship]

I'm getting tired of seeing Smugs'... smug face all over the tabloids. I regret hoping he'd come out of hiding. 

[Mothership]

I can believe that the Kellars are tolerating Josh.  Ma and Pa never gave up on him or at least on Anna staying with the Duggar name and cash-cow.

As for her siblings, they did the one thing that you should never do with a domestic issue in the family--spoke negatively (and VERY publicly) against Josh just to watch Anna stick with him.  Sure, they were right and sure they hoped that she'd come to her senses, but now they're stuck trying to be supportive of her, to perhaps more gently persuade her to leave or to just continue to have a relationship with her because she's a sister and it's all over social media that Josh is a pig.

If they're going to be supportive of Anna and the M-kids, then they have to suck it up with Josh, her apparent headship, at least for now.  I really do hope that they're gently hoping to present her with another point of view and with alternatives for her or at least for the kids.

 

[theinvisiblegirl]

3 hours ago, Mothership said:

I can believe that the Kellars are tolerating Josh.  Ma and Pa never gave up on him or at least on Anna staying with the Duggar name and cash-cow.

As for her siblings, they did the one thing that you should never do with a domestic issue in the family--spoke negatively (and VERY publicly) against Josh just to watch Anna stick with him.  Sure, they were right and sure they hoped that she'd come to her senses, but now they're stuck trying to be supportive of her, to perhaps more gently persuade her to leave or to just continue to have a relationship with her because she's a sister and it's all over social media that Josh is a pig.

If they're going to be supportive of Anna and the M-kids, then they have to suck it up with Josh, her apparent headship, at least for now.  I really do hope that they're gently hoping to present her with another point of view and with alternatives for her or at least for the kids.

 

I don't entirely disagree, but in average family disputes the most public you're getting is a scathing post on Facebook, not something with national media attention/scrutiny like Daniel got when he commented on Jessa's post. And, seeing so many people coming to his sick brother-in-law's defense, I can see why he felt the need to say something so publicly. It can't be easy to care about your sister as much as he seems to and then see a bunch of leghumpers saying that Josh is an okay guy.

[ksgranola1]

I thought Daniel & Josh were such good ol' back-slappin' friends. Wasn't he the one he was racing in the Rv's?

[2manyKidzzz]

18 minutes ago, ksgranola1 said:

I thought Daniel & Josh were such good ol' back-slappin' friends. Wasn't he the one he was racing in the Rv's?

 

18 minutes ago, ksgranola1 said:

I thought Daniel & Josh were such good ol' back-slappin' friends. Wasn't he the one he was racing in the Rv's?

I thought that was the pecan thief. 

[ksgranola1]

I get them confused. There are too freakin' many of them.

[marmalade]

On 5/20/2016 at 8:27 PM, socalrules said:

The smiles don't bother me because it could just be also that they rarely are all together as a family and they wanted a nice picture together. You don't have to be crying every moment  in order to prove you are grieving. Hell, some funerals involve stories of the person or pictures that make people smile and laugh. I have gone to a repast after my own grandmothet's funeral and laughed and smiled with people. It doesn't mean I wasn't mourning the greatest grandma in the world, because she was the greatest. 

Based on the comments, it seems that the divorced sister's boyfriend is in the picture. Kind of surprising. It's funny that the Kellers are so fundy, yet their kids seem to be going against the grain anyway. Is there anyone left in the lifestyle other than Anna and Priscilla? 

I think the guy in question is Mike Keller's brother. It was his mother who passed, and the guy bears quite a resemblance to Pere Keller. 

[JenniferJuniper]

On 5/20/2016 at 11:02 PM, Chicken bones said:

If it was a picture taken at a funeral, the smiles... well, remember these folks aren't known for their appropriate emotional responses. (Keep sweet and smile everyone!)

They should be in very deep mourning because Grandma Keller was Roman Catholic so barring a deathbed conversion, she has gone to straight to hell's fires.  It's a shame Derick and Jilly Muffin weren't around to work their anti-papist magic before she died, but they're too busy trying to convert far-away Catholics who can't understand a word they say.

[socalrules]

I would pay to see a Duggar go into a Catholic Church and try to convert people by trying to teach them the Gospel. Better yet, try and convert a priest or nun. I think they would never approach anyone they think actually has a iota of knowledge about the Bible because they are not capable of actually having a discussion about God, just spouting talking points. 

[Toothfairy]

So is Josh watched 24/7. What happens at night? They really think he's cured?

[47of74]

On 5/20/2016 at 11:18 PM, MarblesMom said:

I have been to several funerals where the grieving told great, funny stories about the deceased... and we all laughed.  The deceased WAS human, and had a personality, after all.  Nothing wrong with laughter while remembering the person!

I went to an Asian funeral (I am sure I have commented on this before), where a professional photographer took pics of various people posing by the open casket.  Freaked me out, but if that is the custom, ok.  They were not joyful.  Respectful.

But I have never, ever, seen a family gather and grin at a funeral for a group family pic.  Ever.

Maybe it happens IRL and I just haven't seen it yet.

My aunt died last September.  At her wake the deacon who officiated at the wake service encouraged people to share memories about the deceased.  One of my cousins was trying to get something out about her favorite aunt and got upset because she couldn't find the right words.  My brother knew things were getting a bit too serious so he told the story about how following my sister's wedding reception there was a small after party in the best man's room.  Anyways my brother said my aunt and another aunt - the aforementioned cousin's mother - showed up for the after party.

The next morning before we left for the funeral Mass we gathered in the other viewing room at the funeral home and took a bunch of group photos since it was probably one of the few times all of us were in the same place.  Nieces and nephews, siblings, in laws, etc.  (She and my uncle had no children of their own).  The funeral home that my uncle used for my aunt's services is an old 19th century mansion so it made for a nice setting for group photos.

I have photos of my paternal grandparents and my aunt in their caskets.  My mom also had photos of her mother in her casket.  No pictures of people posing by the casket.  I guess I wanted the pictures as it was the last time I would ever see them in this life.  If I live as long as my Grandparents it'll be another half century until I see my deceased family again.