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Saw this linked from the Legacy of Home blog and didn't see anywhere that we've discussed it before. Holy moly, just the first post is making my head hurt. This person homeschooled?!? Between the spelling and the content, good god. Mrs. White is the site administrator and I'm wondering if she wrote the about sections, because that's the only part that doesn't look like it was mashed out on a keyboard by a third grader.

conniehultquist.blogspot.com

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A sample of dear Connie's writing.

OMG i guess i like to live dangerously!! The Ladies are on the grp

discussing whether it is right or not for women to preach and take

spiritual authority over men..Well to me it is like this.."Well yeah you

cud ride a cow to town to get groceries...But ya got a horse so why dont ya

just ride it ? The cow is busy with giving milk and quietly chewing her cud

and eating grass in the back 40..But still ..yes she is strong enuf to

carry our Harriett to town..The cow is as smart as a horse...well able to

do the deed.. But ladies it wud be alot easier to ride a horse????..The

Bible says a woman shud wear a covering to show she is under her husbands

authority.. i think this is one reason women have so much trouble with head

aches and nervous problems..and female problems.,,Wives and Mothers belong

at home ..They need a spiritual covering of peace,,They are not made to

bear the burdens of men..Our men are getting so stinkin lazy

spiritually..You Christian feminists feed your Baboons tons of bananas

..and they hardly have to go to work..Now ya wanna feed them spiritually

too? Why dont ya just put a big pacifier in his mouth and let him watch tv

all day while you go to work...Then he comes home from work ,,if he goes at

all..and he starts a fight with you so he can go play tv games at the

neighbors...How much more will you do for this baby before he runs out on

you? The wise woman wud see thru all of this...She wud see that she is the

weaker vessel..She will see that her place is in the home..Her gifts are

the hidden gifts ..the quiet meek spirit is her confidence..In quietness

and confidence you will find your peace..The works of righteousness is

peace and the effects of righteousness is is quietness and assurance

forever..Isaiah 32....

What? :pink-shock: Good grief woman. Paragraphs are your friend.

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Her marriage testimony is intense: happyhousewifery.com/connie/bring-him-home.html

So for the first decade or so of her marriage her husband was in and out of prison and was a general deadbeat when he was out. After his longest stay he got out and decided to turn his life around, at which point they became mega-Christians and had another bunch of kids. I imagine she believes that her ardent housewifery is what got her husband on the straight and narrow, and she has to keep it up to fend off disaster. I don't want to snark too much on someone who's obviously had a rough life. But seriously, just send the kids to school.

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Mrs.White is Sharon White, Connie is a different person.

Connie Hultquist has a blog called A Revival For Homemakers found here: conniehultquist.blogspot.com

Connie also writes at HappyHousewifery.com

Mrs White has a blog called The Legacy of Home found here: thelegacyofhome.blogspot.com.au

Mrs White is Connie Hulquist's site administrator.

We already have a thread going on Mrs White here: viewtopic.php?f=8&t=25425

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Is it just me, or is she alluding that women are cows? At home, giving milk, chewing cud, you know bovine-like.

I'm not sure how I feel, after cats, dogs and cows are my favorite animals. But around here, if you call someone a cow, you are likely to get your face ripped off.

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A sample of dear Connie's writing.

What? :pink-shock: Good grief woman. Paragraphs are your friend.

Here's what I took away from this: 1) Next time I have a headache or any of them thar female problims, I needs to git me one of them thar headcoverings to take 'em away; 2) Don't feed my husband, who is actually a baboon, a banana. He will not want to ever do anything again.

Ok. Got it. My life is now complete if I practice this dogma.

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When my grandfather was a boy living on a farm, he trained a cow to let him ride it around. He'd stand on the cow and use a stick to gentle indicate which direction he wanted to go. There's a great picture of him we have of him standing on the cow.

When his father would have him go to one of the fields that was a ways away, Grampa would get up on the cow and not have to waste energy getting to where he needed. Said it was also helpful for getting the cows put to pasture because he could see further and tell if a cow was straying.

Grampa never did ride the cow to town, but I bet he could have. He always liked cows more than horses.

That's the only thing that post made me think of. Grampa rode a cow all the time.

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I forgot one. 3) Us womenfolk need to stop riding cows. That makes us not wanna wear a headcovering. Thats when all them female problims start. Ridin' horses is much better 'specially ifn you wanna git to the store. Plus, your husband can be the proper headship then.

I have no idea what the rules are for skipping the horses and going straight for automobiles. Anyone know how that works?

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I ain't got no words fur this. I cain't say nothin'.

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I ain't got no words fur this. I cain't say nothin'.

Would she perhaps pronounce nothin' as nuttin'?

PS. Spellcheck had a very difficult time with that spellin'.

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I forgot one. 3) Us womenfolk need to stop riding cows. That makes us not wanna wear a headcovering. Thats when all them female problims start. Ridin' horses is much better 'specially ifn you wanna git to the store. Plus, your husband can be the proper headship then.

I have no idea what the rules are for skipping the horses and going straight for automobiles. Anyone know how that works?

Based on what we learned from CM, cars operate by magic. Since magic is witchcraft, clearly only witches drive cars.

And based on the theology of the Revival for Homemakers, witches driving cars should suffer by living... (or something)

Meanwhile, I"m going to go through my recycling and get my old cans to make bread in... it is the holy way of our ancestral women... who wore head coverings...

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When my grandfather was a boy living on a farm, he trained a cow to let him ride it around. He'd stand on the cow and use a stick to gentle indicate which direction he wanted to go. There's a great picture of him we have of him standing on the cow.

When his father would have him go to one of the fields that was a ways away, Grampa would get up on the cow and not have to waste energy getting to where he needed. Said it was also helpful for getting the cows put to pasture because he could see further and tell if a cow was straying.

Grampa never did ride the cow to town, but I bet he could have. He always liked cows more than horses.

That's the only thing that post made me think of. Grampa rode a cow all the time.

My grandfather had a few old cows that were tame enough to ride, including an old steer that was bottle raised (my oldest sister begged Pop-pop to keep him so he steered him and kept him as a pet/supervised project for us kids. Pop-pop's a pragmatic man as most farmers are, except when it comes to the grandkids :lol: ). We were always crawling on old Puppy (the steer, yeah, my brother named him) or the two mama cows who were friendly and just letting them plod around as they would. :D

So am I not a proper womenfolk for riding a cow in my youth?

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My grandfather had a few old cows that were tame enough to ride, including an old steer that was bottle raised (my oldest sister begged Pop-pop to keep him so he steered him and kept him as a pet/supervised project for us kids. Pop-pop's a pragmatic man as most farmers are, except when it comes to the grandkids :lol: ). We were always crawling on old Puppy (the steer, yeah, my brother named him) or the two mama cows who were friendly and just letting them plod around as they would. :D

So am I not a proper womenfolk for riding a cow in my youth?

No,not proper. You're a Christian liberal woman...and so am I, I guess even though I'm not liberal at all politically. I'm wondering where she slots folks who somewhat care about proper grammar and spelling?

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There was an note about she had some email machine instead of a computer when she first started writing, so she's write cud and wud to save space. So, she may be slightly more literate than she sounds.

Sorry, but I can't get on board with cheering her marriage testimony. What about her kids? She kept conceiving them with a man that she knew was a repeat offender, and kept the kids in a position where they would constantly be focused on his absence and disappointed by him. By focusing on him so much, I also have to wonder if she was able to properly focus on getting her own life together and being there for the kids. Even if he cleaned up his act years later (which may have been simply a product of getting older), how were the kids impacted by their childhoods?

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Sometimes I wonder if I would have ever gone the way of a woman like this.

To me, my vows were sacred and holy. I bought Stormie Omartian hook, line, and sinker. I was part of an online praying wives group that shared requests for failing and hurting marriages and one night every week at the same time, all the members were to pray over the requests. I went to the Christian marriage counselor alone, who urged me to get my husband under my roof as quickly as possible and then work things out from there.

I believed marriage was a triangle of three legs - God, my husband, me. If two legs wanted the marriage to succeed, surely the the third leg would eventually come to his senses?

My husband, proclaiming loudly for the traditional model of SAHM, all the gifts God would send, and homeschooling, flipped his switch about a month after marriage to where I owed it to him for me to work while he stayed home and watched porn (yes he really said porn) because his parents never gave him regular college years. I owed him years of not having to work, he was 28 at the time.

He kept leaving, disappearing. We got married, I got pregnant a few months later, he left for the duration of the pregnancy and first year of our child's life. He came back for six weeks, left again, came one time for visitation, showed him the positive pee stick and have never, I do mean literally, never seen that man's face again, not even in divorce court.

I believed and prayed with all my might for that marriage to work. I prayed for Godly men to cross my husband's path and help my husband become the Godly man he pretended to be in order to get me to marry him. Except he would have been okay with living together, but I would not live with a man unless married.

I might have continued that way for years but hubs was able to obtain a divorce, and somehow for me, that brought me to my senses. I was not going to wallow in years of praying for and believing in a marriage that no longer existed. Oh, I could have continued to insist that in God's eyes I was the true wife, the real wife, the marriage was still binding in a spiritual way.

But I also knew the Bible said that God sets every authority on the earth, and that authority exists, and my life was now bound by a divorce decree with joint custody that I never agreed with or wanted.

Maybe the only difference between me and Connie is that my husband didn't just keep leaving me stranded with children, he divorced me and left me in all ways that a wife can be left. The Bible said he's worse than an unbeliever.

I know what it feels like to cling tightly to a hope and a dream and be willing to do almost anything to keep them. I also wonder how this affected their children. How did they cope, were they able to function as adults?

For a long time I was angry with the advice I'd received to take my husband back and expect nothing of him. He had drained what little savings I had. I feel that he should have demonstrated that he was able and willing to function as an adult - employed, pay bills, keep up a home. His big excuse to me, the one time I did talk to him, was that he hated having to pay bills every month, and when he left me he was to able to find other women to live with, women who worked and paid his way. He hopped through 3 or 4 women til we got legally divorced.

If anyone in that kind of situation asked me for advice, I'd tell her not accept him back into her home or bed so readily. Bed last of all. I'd tell her that he should meet certain standards and criteria, and that at all times there should be a savings fund that he cannot access in the event he leaves again.

I would tell her to encourage the father/child relationship. Allow visitation. Don't tell the kids about all the problems with Daddy. Focus more on what the children need than revenge on your husband.

But yep, if not for the divorce I might have ended up just like Connie, and sure, her husband probably came home because he was old, tired, and used up to use her up til he dies. Somewhere there has be a line between keeping your marriage for Jesus and the realities of life in the world.

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Can I just say that as a Believer, I'm appalled at the "advice" you were given. I have had to help several things go through counseling - all were advised to get out of the home and fast and all were advised by Christian counselors. BUT they had degrees and credentials and were real therapists.

I'm so sorry you were led down that road. Your husband was never faithful to you to begin with so no, you did not have to stick around through all of that.

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There was an note about she had some email machine instead of a computer when she first started writing, so she's write cud and wud to save space. So, she may be slightly more literate than she sounds.

I wondered about that. Maybe my millennial ignorance is showing, but what the he'll is an email machine?

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I wondered about that. Maybe my millennial ignorance is showing, but what the he'll is an email machine?

I'm 56 and don't have a clue what she is talking about.

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She says at one point that she didn't want to get a divorce because it would ruin her Christian testimony later on. Hmmm...

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http://landel.com

Found this my googling email machine. I have no idea what type of market there is for this. Seems a little ridiculous. It is suppose to be for seniors who want bigger keys, but it still has a small screen. Ive seen better options for people that don't want to learn much about technology too.

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There was no charge for my tablet when I signed up for a $15/month data plan. And you can get keyboard for a tablet. The tablet and keyboard would still be bigger than this e-mail machine.

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I'm 56 and don't have a clue what she is talking about.

My now-deceased grandpa got one of these at the end of the '90s, I believe. Could have been the early aughts...but it was supposed to be something that wasn't as "complicated" as a computer, was cheaper, and would allow contact with tech-savvy grandkids. Obviously, the market for this type of product was EXTREMELY limited.

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