Do unmarried fundies know anything about their bodies?

[Jana814]

I bet some of them don't know much of anything. I imagine some of them have some real interesting wedding nights.

I'm sure!

[Mela99]

I sincerely doubt they know much of anything -- and even then it's preceeded by "you don't need to know more because you're not married, too young, etc."

If they're anything like my uber-Catholic mother was, questions are not to be asked, will not be answered, and the word sex will get you a slap across the face.

I didn't know about my period until it showed up and didn't figure out the logistics of sex until about 17, when we got a free trial of HBO...

[Antimony]

There wasn't in my house. I had no idea what one was, much less that I had one and what it did until after I was married! :pink-shock:

There was in mine! I put my mother through the ringer as a child because I read everything even her novels.

I was 12 and she was folding socks and we were watching TV and I just asked, "Hey, what's a clitoris?" and I thought she was gonna die. But she explained.

Same year, I asked, "What's a rim job?" and her face just flushed so fast. She explained so of course I asked, "Why do people do that?" and she just said, "It feels good to some people."

When I was 10, I was looking for something and stumbled upon her vibrator and accidentally turned it on and couldn't turn it off and I didn't know what it was so I brought it to her and again, thought she was gonna die. She told me it was a gag gift though! "It's something adults give each other at ladies only parties as a joke sometimes."

[SportsgalAnnie]

There wasn't in my house. I had no idea what one was, much less that I had one and what it did until after I was married! :pink-shock:

Im Jealous! ugh My mom threw a dear abby pamphlet at me that explained pretty much everything when I was 15 :shock: :embarrassed:

[Mama Mia]

There is a fantastic episode of Orange is the New Black where the women in prison are all discussing their , many, misconceptions regarding female anatomy. The transexual woman in their group finally draws up diagrams and gives a lesson. She says something to the effect of she is very aware of how female genitalia looks , since she got to design her own. :lol:

For all the people who didn't have knowledge of anatomy, were you all home schooled and your parents didn't do any sex ed? I'm curious, because I remember all the parts were covered, even the clitoris, when I was in Jr. High. Sex ed. , possibly even in the 5th grade puberty class - but not 100% sure on that. That was in the 70s. They covered the basics even in my 90s kids less comprehensive sex ed courses.

[SnazzyNazzy]

There was in mine! I put my mother through the ringer as a child because I read everything even her novels.

I was 12 and she was folding socks and we were watching TV and I just asked, "Hey, what's a clitoris?" and I thought she was gonna die. But she explained.

Same year, I asked, "What's a rim job?" and her face just flushed so fast. She explained so of course I asked, "Why do people do that?" and she just said, "It feels good to some people."

When I was 10, I was looking for something and stumbled upon her vibrator and accidentally turned it on and couldn't turn it off and I didn't know what it was so I brought it to her and again, thought she was gonna die. She told me it was a gag gift though! "It's something adults give each other at ladies only parties as a joke sometimes."

Same thing here, though for some reason, I was too embarrassed to ask her what a blowjob was. I learned what that was, when I watched a porn at my friend's house (and it so was NOT what I had envisioned).

[Aurora rising]

I had a very open mother (embarassingly open for me at this time...) and sex-ed in school. But somehow I managed to close my ears very very good. I know approximately how the cycle is working but my deeper knowledge came only at the age of 30-something. :cry:

[Jana814]

I never really had the sex talk w/ my mother. I guess I just figured out a few things on my own.

[Mama Mia]

So most people didn't have sex ed in school? Or was " sex ed" just " don't do it" and a puberty talk?

God, I'm glad I lived when and where I did growing up . 5 th grade was the puberty spiel. With some sort of Kotex sponsored pamphlet and sample supplies. The pamphlet, looking back, was actually kind of cool in that it followed three girls writing about their puberty experiences - either to each other, or maybe in diaries? Anyway, each of the girls was on a different time line and had different attitudes about maturing. And it tried to be reassuring that different bodies mature at different times and it's ok. I don't recall if they mentioned anything about boys development at that time, other than a vague " boys go through changes too" .

In Jr. High we had information about anatomy, both male and female. Visits from Planned Parenthood. Talks about different kinds of birth control, the physiology of the process of intercourse, but also arousal in general. Definitely they talked about orgasm. Probably didn't say much, if anything, about same sex attraction -- it was the seventies. Some talk about relationships.

In high school they covered the same in health class, but included fetal development, childbirth etc.

My kids who are now mid-twenties to mid-thirties seemed to have more or less the same, but shorter - especially the younger kids - because it was considered more of an " extra" . So a pretty brief overview by the time my youngest was in jr. High. Also, of course, more emphasis on condoms because of AIDS. And more about abuse, STD's etc.

[deaja]

My very small fundie lite church ran a school that I attended. There was no sex ed. Our science books were by either Beka or Bob Jones. That should explain a lot right there.

[Jana814]

So most people didn't have sex ed in school? Or was " sex ed" just " don't do it" and a puberty talk?

God, I'm glad I lived when and where I did growing up . 5 th grade was the puberty spiel. With some sort of Kotex sponsored pamphlet and sample supplies. The pamphlet, looking back, was actually kind of cool in that it followed three girls writing about their puberty experiences - either to each other, or maybe in diaries? Anyway, each of the girls was on a different time line and had different attitudes about maturing. And it tried to be reassuring that different bodies mature at different times and it's ok. I don't recall if they mentioned anything about boys development at that time, other than a vague " boys go through changes too" .

In Jr. High we had information about anatomy, both male and female. Visits from Planned Parenthood. Talks about different kinds of birth control, the physiology of the process of intercourse, but also arousal in general. Definitely they talked about orgasm. Probably didn't say much, if anything, about same sex attraction -- it was the seventies. Some talk about relationships.

In high school they covered the same in health class, but included fetal development, childbirth etc.

My kids who are now mid-twenties to mid-thirties seemed to have more or less the same, but shorter - especially the younger kids - because it was considered more of an " extra" . So a pretty brief overview by the time my youngest was in jr. High. Also, of course, more emphasis on condoms because of AIDS. And more about abuse, STD's etc.

Sounds like what we learned in my schooling career.

[LennyLou]

I was homeschooled and we did not have sex ed. :lol: From what I've gathered from my friends, the local school did not offer much more than what I got. Their sex ed was the basics and abstinence only.

[CorruptionInc.]

Sex Ed in Catholic schools was pretty mediocre as well.

Experimentation as a teenager helps - something the Duggars wont get.

[Toothfairy]

I grew up with strict religious parents. I also went to a strict all girl Catholic School. Sex was evil outside of marriage. No mention of orgasms, clitoris, arousal, just stick a man's twizzler into a woman's donut hole which results into a baby. No mention of safe sex. My parents thought it would condone and encourage sin. The only safe sex there was was with a wedding ring on your wedding night. :pull-hair: Thank goodness for college.

[Jolly Aussie]

I was brought up in a conservative Christian home, and sex was/is never ever discussed. My oldest sibling is almost 25, and youngest is 18. Me and my siblings sex ed was zero zip. My parents still don't even say "sexual abuse" in our hearing. When I was 14 I found the article in the Britannica on reproduction. It spiked my interest, which I passed on to my younger sister. I really wish my parents were a lot more open about sex.

[VixenToast]

Sex Ed in Catholic schools was pretty mediocre as well.

Experimentation as a teenager helps - something the Duggars wont get.

Hence the Duggars emphasis on siblings as *BEST* friends!!!!!!1!1!!111!!

[JBsHairspray]

If they only go by what example JB & Mullet set, well, Jessa will never get pregnant because Bin just keeps dry-humping her on the mini-golf course........

[freethemall]

Well I wonder with the girls since they have to deal with their periods, which gives you some knowledge about your body. Are they allowed to use tampons?

I feel like even without being able to masturbate just washing yourself and other daily tasks you notice sensitivities and arousals. Did anyone else ever discover when they were younger that climbing ropes could give you a sensation? And then ended up unknowingly humping a rope in a gym class? Nope just me okay. *cowers*

[J'Isabel]

Nobody can convince me that those kids don't masturbate, whether it's "allowed" or not. Unless they're taking communal showers and have toilet buddies, they all have ample opportunity. The boys especially. A sexually repressed, backed-up teenage boy could probably bang one out in the shower in under 60 seconds.

[purple_summer]

Well I wonder with the girls since they have to deal with their periods, which gives you some knowledge about your body. Are they allowed to use tampons?

I feel like even without being able to masturbate just washing yourself and other daily tasks you notice sensitivities and arousals. Did anyone else ever discover when they were younger that climbing ropes could give you a sensation? And then ended up unknowingly humping a rope in a gym class? Nope just me okay. *cowers*

Just from my experience (baptist but not IFB) it's most likely a no on the tampons. I was allowed but most of the more strict families (i.e. everyone else in our church at the time) believed tampons were for married women only, if that. Thankfully because I was in sports (and my mother was also an athlete in school) she let me skirt the rules. My grandmother on the other hand is still as staunch as ever. I still have to make sure they're hidden when I stay with her for a visit (mid-20s but unmarried).

[Mama Mia]

Well I wonder with the girls since they have to deal with their periods, which gives you some knowledge about your body. Are they allowed to use tampons?

I feel like even without being able to masturbate just washing yourself and other daily tasks you notice sensitivities and arousals. Did anyone else ever discover when they were younger that climbing ropes could give you a sensation? And then ended up unknowingly humping a rope in a gym class? Nope just me okay. *cowers*

I had really extensive sex ed. I also read a lot. Including all the sex articles in Cosmo. I knew what all the parts were for. I was sexually active very, very young and enjoyed it very much and had orgasms easily. But I didn't masturbate until several years after I had become sexually active. I had only thought of masturbating in the context of boys " jerking off" .

[nomoxian]

Nobody can convince me that those kids don't masturbate, whether it's "allowed" or not. Unless they're taking communal showers and have toilet buddies, they all have ample opportunity. The boys especially. A sexually repressed, backed-up teenage boy could probably bang one out in the shower in under 60 seconds.

But how would they know how to do it?

Potential TMI alert...

I was raised in a religious home that wasn't really conservative, and even after reading about masturbation in a book about puberty at the library, I still couldn't really figure out how to do it. It wasn't until I spoke with friends (I always hated church and didn't hang out with anyone from there) and accessed more *adult* material that I kind of figured it out enough to fumble around and try it out.

[J'Isabel]

But how would they know how to do it?

Potential TMI alert...

I was raised in a religious home that wasn't really conservative, and even after reading about masturbation in a book about puberty at the library, I still couldn't really figure out how to do it. It wasn't until I spoke with friends (I always hated church and didn't hang out with anyone from there) and accessed more *adult* material that I kind of figured it out enough to fumble around and try it out.

Well, I grew up in a very conservative Catholic home with no access to sexual materials and I just knew what to do. I just did what felt good. In a very scientific poll of one, my husband also says that he just instinctively knew what to do. I don't think it's a skill that everyone needs instructions on. I know it's not the same for everyone, but the odds are that they could figure it out.

[LennyLou]

Are they allowed to use tampons?

We were not allowed to use them. My sister and I snuck them during the summer if we were away at Christian summer camp though. (Not fundie, but raised in a really strict Christian home, so I doubt the Duggar girls are allowed to use them while they are still at home.)

[LennyLou]

But I didn't masturbate until several years after I had become sexually active. I had only thought of masturbating in the context of boys " jerking off" .

I had no idea, growing up, that girls could masturbate! I viewed it as only a "male sin". It was after I was married and my husband and myself started figuring things out that I learned how amazing the female body was.