Bathroom Baby plays with mommy's dildo

[Antigone]

ugggh. :( I do believe sex isn't something to be ashamed of, but some things really should remain private. The little one accidentically found one of our uh, toys, and we just put it away and told her it wasn't something for her to play with. She was happy with her ball and a Dora book after that. I didn't plaster photos of her all over or tell the whole world about it. Well, aside from you guys of course, and it's been 5+ years since...

still, ick! :( is ThatWife back to blogging? I thought she disappeared for awhile??

[rosalitta]

I was just wondering yesterday what was going on with bathroom baby's mom. This...wasn't what I was expecting.

[lawfulevil]

I think it's been previously established that I hate Jenna. T1 is going to have enough problems making friends due to the constant moving (she's planning on moving again in 2016!) and his language delays, he does not need his mother posting shit like this for his peers to find and torture him with later. The Internet is FOREVER. But then again, knowing Jenna, maybe she's hoping to get her kid stuffed in a locker so she can jump on the anti-bullying bandwagon. That is so, so in right now.

[StellaMarie]

Pic of poor T1

I hate her so, so much.

[Rowan]

She and her husband live in Chicago in a two bedroom, two bath apartment. One bedroom was a master bedroom, the other was the couples' office. The baby slept in the bathroom, triple diapered and with a blasting white noise machine so he would sleep through the night (up to 12 hours).

In a Pack 'n Play.

[Coco]

Yeah, I'm leaning towards "still a crappy mother." Her children are both in full-time daycare and she doesn't appear to have a job. She says it's for her mental well-being. What does she do all day?

ETA: This is what she does all day: julia-transition.blogspot.com/2014/08/moms-make-it-work-jenna-part-time.html

julia-transition.blogspot.com/2014/01/moms-make-it-work-guest-blogging-series.html?m=1

which family are they?

[Coco]

Yeah, I'm leaning towards "still a crappy mother." Her children are both in full-time daycare and she doesn't appear to have a job. She says it's for her mental well-being. What does she do all day?

ETA: This is what she does all day: julia-transition.blogspot.com/2014/08/moms-make-it-work-jenna-part-time.html

julia-transition.blogspot.com/2014/01/moms-make-it-work-guest-blogging-series.html?m=1

which family are they?

oh never mind, found it

[ViolaSebastian]

Her kids eat peanut butter sandwiches in the car for every single dinner because she doesn't want to clean up after them when they get home from preschool. That post is extremely, extremely sad.

[Hane]

I read her post in the blog mentioned above. She mentions she isn't into Mormonism anymore. I think she just plain doesn't like having kids, so maybe it's a good idea they spend so much time away from her.

[Feberin]

I read her post in the blog mentioned above. She mentions she isn't into Mormonism anymore. I think she just plain doesn't like having kids, so maybe it's a good idea they spend so much time away from her.

Yeah I'm not going to complain about her not spending time with her kids. I think it's for the best for everyone.

I'm also glad nobody sees pictures of my daughter's nighttime diaper! At 2 1/2 we have to use FOUR inserts in a Bum Genius to keep her from soaking through at night. I probably should use wool but it scares me since it sounds easy to ruin and is so expensive... Cloth diapers are bulky but I don't think that is abusive.

[ViolaSebastian]

Yeah I'm not going to complain about her not spending time with her kids. I think it's for the best for everyone.

I'm also glad nobody sees pictures of my daughter's nighttime diaper! At 2 1/2 we have to use FOUR inserts in a Bum Genius to keep her from soaking through at night. I probably should use wool but it scares me since it sounds easy to ruin and is so expensive... Cloth diapers are bulky but I don't think that is abusive.

I don't think that the three inserts is the issue here. It's using three inserts to ensure that an extremely young infant won't wake up over the course of 12 hours sleeping in a pack-in-play in a dark bathroom that's more the issue.

[Feberin]

I don't think that the three inserts is the issue here. It's using three inserts to ensure that an extremely young infant won't wake up over the course of 12 hours sleeping in a pack-in-play in a dark bathroom that's more the issue.

I'm completely against the bathroom/bedroom and I don't know why anyone would think a pack-in-play is the same as a crib. I'm not sure about the sleeping. Both of my kids slept through the night until they were 18 months so I have no experience with infants who sleep for long periods but I hear they do exist. Also any cloth diaper looks pretty huge on a newborn. Given the choice I think most babies would probably choose a bulky diaper to waking up in a puddle of their own urine.

[Grimalkin]

More interested in being funny and the attention she will get than her kids feelings=bitch.

Reminds me of sleeping at a friends house and finding her moms giant pink dildo. THE HORROR!

[nelliebelle1197]

She's not the one who called herself a single mom and tried to hang with other "single moms" because her husband was out of town, is she??

[Mama Mia]

Meh... The sleeping in the bathroom thing drove me nuts. But if you read her actual caption and hash tags, it sounds like this is a legitimate, actual, back massager the kids are playing with. It's other people's comments and blog posts that are talking about it being sexual.

I mean I have my share of adult toys I didn't want my kids getting in to. But I also had Massagers that were used solely on back and neck massage. I don't think that's unusual, is it? Especially in a house with kids.

[lawfulevil]

She's not the one who called herself a single mom and tried to hang with other "single moms" because her husband was out of town, is she??

That was her, yep.

Meh... The sleeping in the bathroom thing drove me nuts. But if you read her actual caption and hash tags, it sounds like this is a legitimate, actual, back massager the kids are playing with. It's other people's comments and blog posts that are talking about it being sexual.

I mean I have my share of adult toys I didn't want my kids getting in to. But I also had Massagers that were used solely on back and neck massage. I don't think that's unusual, is it? Especially in a house with kids.

She's directly quoted in Salon- salon.com/2014/11/14/mommy_is_this_a_laser_gun_when_your_kids_discover_your_sex_toys/

Andersen was happy to talk to me about the Hitachi hoopla and explain how her kids ended up playing with it. “I bought the Hitachi because everyone assured me I would love using it in an ‘off-label’ sort of way. I gave it a go, but found that there are other vibrators I like a lot more,†she wrote in an email. “Now I have a $60 electronic getting dusty in a cupboard. My kids discovered it recently and immediately deemed it ‘The Robot.’â€

She may have changed the tags to imply she totally didn't put That Vibrator on her vulva, but, uh, she did. Then she let her kids play with it. And while she claims she sterilized it, we're talking about a woman who freely admits she only bathes her children once a week and her husband has to remind her to brush her teeth. Sure you did.

[lilith]

Was wondering if this would get a mention here.

Jenna's all about being the totally sex positive liberal ex-mormon best feminist ever right now, but she's doing it with typical Jenna ineptitude, like dressing T1 in girls clothes, also dressing T2 in VERY stereotypically girls clothes, then hash tagging the pics #genderneutral and #allthecoloursforallthekids - gender neutral in her oh so enlightened brain apparently meaning "traditionally feminine and girly".

She's still got both kids in full time care while she fucks around on the Internet and at the gym all day, obsessing over her diet while she feeds the kids peanut butter sandwiches in the back of the car on the way home from daycare every night and bathes them once a week even though T1s daycare friends have told him that he's smelly.

I can't believe Swavek is shelling out all that cash for daycare and letting Jenna opt out of all adult responsibilities.

[Mama Mia]

That was her, yep.

She's directly quoted in Salon- salon.com/2014/11/14/mommy_is_this_a_laser_gun_when_your_kids_discover_your_sex_toys/

She may have changed the tags to imply she totally didn't put That Vibrator on her vulva, but, uh, she did. Then she let her kids play with it. And while she claims she sterilized it, we're talking about a woman who freely admits she only bathes her children once a week and her husband has to remind her to brush her teeth. Sure you did.

Oh, I didn't see the Salon quote. That's really gross. It's the sort of thing that if it happened you get really embarrassed , and move " toy" somewhere else -- You don't take a photo and post it all over the Internet :shock:

[lilith]

Oh, I didn't see the Salon quote. That's really gross. It's the sort of thing that if it happened you get really embarrassed , and move " toy" somewhere else -- You don't take a photo and post it all over the Internet :shock:

She not only took the pic and posted it online, but it's obviously posed and the hitachi is plugged into a power point that T1 couldn't easily reach - and, according to her rewrite he found it unused in a cupboard. Her original version implied that she leaves it lying around plugged in cause she's so OMG liberated sexual fuckable feminist ex mormon, and that's how T1 found it, but she back pedalled from that eventually.

Her comment deleting and story changing was fun to watch live - a fair bit of it (including deleted comments) is on GOMI - on the That Wife thread, not the article on the main page

[Grimalkin]

Even if she did use it as just a back massager, she knows what it is know for and still took pictures and posted them.

Then she gets offended when others don't laugh AT her kids playing with it. And more offended when others show concearn for them?! :?

She is coo coo for cocopuffs that one.

[rosalitta]

Yeah, I'm leaning towards "still a crappy mother." Her children are both in full-time daycare and she doesn't appear to have a job. She says it's for her mental well-being. What does she do all day?

ETA: This is what she does all day: julia-transition.blogspot.com/2014/08/moms-make-it-work-jenna-part-time.html

Reading that was painful. It seems like she does everything possible to avoid spending time with these kids, as well as her husband working almost non-stop so they can afford to live in an expensive area and have nice things. I get that not everybody parents the same way but reading that I just wanted to give her kids a hug.

[ViolaSebastian]

Was wondering if this would get a mention here.

Jenna's all about being the totally sex positive liberal ex-mormon best feminist ever right now, but she's doing it with typical Jenna ineptitude, like dressing T1 in girls clothes, also dressing T2 in VERY stereotypically girls clothes, then hash tagging the pics #genderneutral and #allthecoloursforallthekids - gender neutral in her oh so enlightened brain apparently meaning "traditionally feminine and girly".

She's still got both kids in full time care while she fucks around on the Internet and at the gym all day, obsessing over her diet while she feeds the kids peanut butter sandwiches in the back of the car on the way home from daycare every night and bathes them once a week even though T1s daycare friends have told him that he's smelly.

I can't believe Swavek is shelling out all that cash for daycare and letting Jenna opt out of all adult responsibilities.

It really makes me wonder what Swavek thinks about this photograph. He, at least, should be outraged at her posting that. Isn't he in an image conscious line of work, IIRC? Image your co-workers seeing this sort of thing...

[DGayle]

If she didn't know, why did she first post it with #sterilized? To me, that indicates that she knew what it was for...I mean, why would you sterilize a back massaging tool?

I have a purple Lelo that's like a Hitachi, that is really used for my back (screwed up in a car accident where my daughters were also hurt). Sometimes one of my daughters likes to hold it on her own back on a low speed since she still has aches, and still has ongoing appointments, and when I posted a picture to Facebook of her holding it on her sister's back, I made sure to write that this is strictly for backs, and wrote about how she's still dealing with a screwed up vertebrae. Someone still reported it for child porn. It probably isn' a surprise that Facebook agreed and banned me for a week, when breastfeeding photos still get you banned, but raunchy nudity of women is fine.

The #sterilized tag means that that Hitachi isn't for backs. I am beyond grossed out. Not only the kids playing with it, but how can you use that thing sexually later without thinking about the kids?

[DGayle]

Yeah, I'm leaning towards "still a crappy mother." Her children are both in full-time daycare and she doesn't appear to have a job. She says it's for her mental well-being. What does she do all day?

ETA: This is what she does all day: julia-transition.blogspot.com/2014/08/moms-make-it-work-jenna-part-time.html

Wow. Yeah, crappy mother. She "works" by taking pictures sometimes and posting on Pinterest, and because of that, has a kid in childcare full-time (don't be fooled into thinking preschool is for preschool when she has the other kid in childcare too), the other in childcare a few days a week, has kids come over for an hour a morning to get her own kids ready for the day, and then brags about only having her kids on weekends, holidays, and the youngest for a couple days a week.

I actually work a real job from home. A really real job that we'd be sunk without. Not a lot of checkboxes include "working from home mother," usually just "stay-at-home mom," or "working mom," which means not at home. It's because of people like her who think bullshitting on Pinterest is a job. I have 12 hours a week without my kids, and that's because they're in a 3-hr-a-day, M-TH preschool right now since they'll be in kindergarten next year. I miss them when they're gone, and don't brag about them being gone. If someone was to tell me I should just put them in full-time childcare so I could make a career out of FreeJinger, or even just focus on my real job, I'd ask what the point is of choosing to have kids if I'm just going to toss them to other people all the time. Working from him is real work, but it's really not incredibly difficult to be at my best and keep an eye on them playing on the floor. If I have important calls to make, I either ask a friend to come over for a short time, or just tell my client I'm working from home and they might occasionally hear a kid. So far no one at all has ever had a problem with this. So what's her excuse for full-time daycare so she can post to Pinterest? Why did she even have kids?

[Mama Mia]

I really dislike when people put their kids in full-time childcare JUST to avoid their kids.....but are you kidding me?

Many, many, many parents of young children work full- time out of the home. Maybe even most. A huge number of little kids are in full- time childcare. You seriously think most working parents shouldn't have had their kids, cause they are just " tossing them to others to raise" ?

So you've already stated that people shouldn't plan to have children if they are going to need any sort of government help ( including housing assistance, food stamps and Medicaid) AND they shouldn't plan to have kids if they can't provide a fairly unrealistic abundance of private space.

Now, apparently they also shouldn't plan to have children if both parents will be working full-time out of the house??

You do know that leaves a very, very small group of people who you feel are acceptable to breed, right?