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It's not the "social media" that controls you, it's a means for controlling people to control you. Or want to. Or try to.

As to why I'm posting here: I'm a member of this board just like anyone else. I'm entitled to leave a comment when I feel like. If you disagree my comment on my nonexisting facebook in my life - why do you bother replying? I'm just happy that "facebook shit" is one battle I'm not wishing to fight. It was a freaking nightmare. Not because of facebook itself, but because of some people that think are entitled to have access to every aspect of my life. I've had my fair share of facebook shit and every single post in this topic reminded me what a relief it was to get rid of it. I don't see how that would offend anyone here. And I don't know why you can't scroll through it if you think it's an unnecessary comment. Have a nice one. :wink-kitty:

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I have had to block people (specifically my own brother, who is 55 years old) for cyber-bullying me and making death threats to me over my liberal politics.

My gosh.

I just received hate messages ranging from passive-aggressive to downright aggressive, demanding, nosy, hot-tempered, hysterical etc. from my relatives that I left behind. They were angered because I moved out and left them, also, they were inquisitively curious, they wanted to save face before townfolks over me so they demanded an explanation from me that they could have toured the town with, making people know that I "still talk to them", and that I am most likely sorry and that it was all my fault that they fucked up my childhood and made me run for it as soon as I had enough money to survive day by day.

I got mails ranging from "we all miss you even though you 've broken our hearts", "it's all your fault but we're here in case you fail at life", "you are giving your grandparents stroke/cancer/ulcers etc... I never received any death treats but the hate mails made me flee. and this was just by closest blood family. There were other lovely people too.

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One of my Facebook friends posted a status saying she needs someone who can sew four identical dresses, each one a different color, but one with "more fancy" detail, and she needs all of them by February 15. She's offering to get the fabric, but she doesn't say anything about compensation.

One of my friends is able to sew a skirt in 9 hours, but that's for her own body's dimensions, and it's a pattern she's made so many times she has it memorized. Asking someone (who is presumably not a full-time professional seamstress and has a separate day job or family life) to sew four dresses from an unfamiliar pattern to fit someone else in a little over 3 weeks? Not going to happen.

I get this shit from people all. the. time. People seem to think that just because I can sew, I should be at their beck and call for every project that they can think of, no matter how big or small. The ones that piss me off the worst are people who already know how to sew, but will still call me up and say, "Hey R & M, I need the hemline fixed on this dress next week, or the button this pair of pants fixed. Will you do it for me?" or "My kid is going to be in the school play in three days, can you make her a costume?" Yes, idiot, I can definitely make your kid a costume in three days, even though if it's a complicated pattern I'm not familiar with, it might take me two weeks if I'm lucky. :roll: These same people also never offer to compensate me for my time or any materials used. :snooty: Fortunately, I've gotten much better about saying no. Often, if I don't want to do it, I'll just say I can't get it done in enough time, or that I'm busy with school (usually true).

I've got maybe two people I'm willing to work for, and they've become solid, dependable friends over the years on their own, so they're both worth it. Anyone else who asks who's not in my immediate family can go suck an egg. :disgust: :nenner:

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My friend is living the ultimate Facebook crafting horror. A woman who she briefly met in a mom's group saw her on Facebook. My friend's profile picture includes her baby daughter wearing a hat that she knitted. The woman contacted my friend through FB and asked her to knit a hat for her baby son. It's been several weeks, and my friend has knit enough baby hats to open her own Etsy shop, but the woman still isn't satisfied yet. We keep telling my friend to STOP and make the woman pay the full cost of labor and materials for ALL the hats (probably $150 at this point), but my friend is too nice to assert herself.

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I have two accounts. One was set up when a group I was in went on facebook to network (see also older working women, lean to the left/middle and feminists) then a cousin got sick and I stupidly took the advice of a "facebook guru" and friended my cousin to keep track of his treatments, etc. Over time, old friends and even my mom friended me. (I can tell you why kids left facebook when their mom's joined.) I mostly see zero drama, as some older aunts get on I see some moderate right wing stuff, but not a ton. I am reduced to clicking the occasional "like" but I have zero drama really from any of my facebook friends. Ok.

I also have a facebook page designed only to follow some of the fundies we follow in Quiverfull of snark, created to prevent them from polluting my real page. Since people in general are just willy nilly about friending one another, I have numerous "facebook" friends on this account, none of whom I've met in real life or who would know me yet-- they asked me to friend them (I don't ask, on this or my real account.... I'm weird that way) And I don't friend all comers, as some creep me out.

Last week, someone on the fundie account posted a video about "Now is the time for the USA to ban Islam" explaining that while the federal government was unable to (maybe) ban islam, the states could and should, starting with a NC group trying to ban any muslims from running for or holding office. (How that bans Islam well, whatever). Based only on the headline of the video, bunches of idiots true believing patriots jumped in to explain why we must ban Islam in the USA.

I asked how that would work? I asked where in the history of the world has it worked to ban a religion? I asked who would begin bulldozing the mosques? They moved on to deporting all Muslims. I asked again, how that would work-- go to their homes, pull them out of their homes and ship them where? And what about citizens and the 3rd or 4th generation Muslims (and longer) in the USA, or the US Born converts? I asked what about Muslim groups who don't support ISIL or the other violent groups.

Well, soon I was told that I was wrong-- no muslim was against the violence and that I was just wanting to be raped and beheaded. I asked if they had been having a rash of beheadings in their community. I was told it was only a matter of time before we were forced into a one world religion and I was a troll and a sucker.

I posted pictures of Jews in Poland being "rounded up" and asked if this was what they had in mind (since, I had nothing to lose, really) and linked to pre wwii propoganda, which I"m sure none of them read, just as none of them had listened to the video we were all debating, from what I could tell.

They told me our government was doing nothing to prevent terrorism, I said, well, I'd been to a few UASI and Homeland Security conferences in the last decade and knew that was incorrect. At which point the SHTF. I was a traitor to our country for attending those conferences. I was a liar. THen they started asking me if I believed Revelation was a literal future event. I said, no, like many Christians throughout history and today, I did not. Why would I lie. Apparently this hairdresser from bugtussel had never met a Methodist before. :lol:

So, I was an unchristian, liar, Muslim lover, traitor, etc. I asked if that meant I'd be deported as well? NO answers to that either.

I never got them to see the irony of this group, who are constantly on about FEMA camps and being shipped off to one, wanting that same treatment for another group. I never got them to answer any of my questions on how it would work to "ban" Islam in the USA, if we'd destroy the mosques, make them wear a little half moon on their coats, and how we'd deport american born muslims. I asked if they really thought bringing an active war to our soil was a great idea? All I got was hatred for asking the questions, when they were all just happily saying "Go for it."

I am amazed how this little subgroup, who for whatever reason did talk openly about me in negative ways (I think they thought they were private) haven't yet banned/blocked me. I am disheartened how easy they jumped on a bandwagon that was very vague and how happily they promoted treating one group exactly how they fear being treated

The general logic skills of the whole group that were commenting were completely absent. They didn't ever answer my "how" questions. They didn't want to think about the logistics.

I am pretty horrified, because even my real life fundie light friends are, for the most part, logical. Apparently, that is not always the case.

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The worst I had is people messaging me for pain medication. (I work in a pain management clinic) Yes I am going to get you script for a schedule II narcotic from a doctor who has never seen you. :hand:

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The only thing that Facebook has really done for me is show me how incredibly stupid most people are. It's also kind of heartbreaking when you realize someone you kind of sort of respected once upon a time is actually a borderline illiterate homophobic redneck. Or that your cousin, whom you rarely talk to and nothing of substance, is really smart and you've missed out on (possibly) conversations at family gatherings that aren't so boring you want to put your head in the oven. Then again, there's also the time that you engaged with creepy uncle who wanted to solicit sex. So there's that. Facebook - lame.

A few years ago, our local newspaper switched from using an anonymous type comment system (where you pick a user name) to Facebook (where it takes another step to create a fake account) under the idea that if people weren't anonymous, the horrible comments would stop. They slowed down, for a while, as most people are kind of lazy. But now it seems like the vitriol is back, only now it's people who aren't afraid to use their real names to say rude/stupid things on news stories.

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Saw an irritating photo/meme shared on FB this morning. A list of "God's Pharmacy" - ie veggies that look like body parts, so they supposedly are good for problems with that part. Carrot slices look like eyes and are therefore good for eye problems, tomatos have four chambers like a heart and lycopene is good for hearts, citrus fruits look like mammary glands (??) and are good for breast health, etc. A few dissenting commenters pointing out the non-scientific-ness of it, and a few hundred ooohing and aaahing and talking about how they cured their cancer with healthy eating and that sort of thing.

(It's the Rawfoodfamily page's photo, if anyone wants to see it live and in person.)

Hmmm. They should have gone on to mention that grapes look like testicles. So eating grapes will improve testicular health AND increase sperm count.

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The only thing that Facebook has really done for me is show me how incredibly stupid most people are. It's also kind of heartbreaking when you realize someone you kind of sort of respected once upon a time is actually a borderline illiterate homophobic redneck. Or that your cousin, whom you rarely talk to and nothing of substance, is really smart and you've missed out on (possibly) conversations at family gatherings that aren't so boring you want to put your head in the oven. Then again, there's also the time that you engaged with creepy uncle who wanted to solicit sex. So there's that. Facebook - lame.

This is the main reason I've never opened a Facebook account. If I did, I know I'd be absolutely horrified by all the friends, family, co-workers and acquaintances who are right-wing lunatics. Better to have pleasant superficial conversations and remain blissfully ignorant of their religion and politics than have to read all the OBAMA IS A SOCIALIST ATHEIST MARXIST COMMUNIST MOOSLIM DICTATOR posts. Fuck that.

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During my time on facebook, I got to get to learn things about people I knew that I never wanted to know. Like, how my superficially charming, seemingly beningly religious highschool BFF was a hardcore anti-choicer, a hardcore creationist, and the "sweet and soft-spoken" girl kept shitposting anti-abortion stuff, creationist stuff, stuff about how women must have their first kid by the age 23 or else..!, that working outside the home is only acceptable if you marry and have kids first otherwise you'll face midlife crisis, bla bla bla... I came to learn things about people I would have never thought they were capable of.

She wasn't the main reason I fled, tho'... and she wasn't the only one to show their teeth. I'm too, much happier having superficially sweet and short conversations with people in real life and I know when to end a conversation and turn around. I don't want to and have to know what's really inside of them, it just creeps me out.

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A lot of you have much more interesting friends and family than I do. My Facebook is, overIall, pretty boring. Every once in a while something more controversial pops up but most of the time.... not so much.

I'll lend my Facebook feed to anyone wanting a dose of sanity! ;)

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I usually avoid Facebook, but I had to call something out yesterday. My husband commented on a post from someone we know, who linked a blog post with a very serious allegation that my alma mater was establishing links with Hamas. Turns out that the blog post liked to an article about a completely different university than the one that my old school partnered with, and now that mistaken blog post is going viral.

I posed the correction, and I don't care if it makes others look bad. Maybe if I do this enough, someone may finally get the message that liking or forward shit - esp. from something other than a reputable site - is not a good idea when you haven't gone the 3 min. of research necessary to determine if it is true?

False info doesn't help any cause. I do have some questions/concerns about the partnership with this other university, that I found from legit sources, but if that legit question gets drowned out by a storm of people angry about false information (that can be disproved in 3 min), nobody would ever take it seriously.

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okay, this is going to be super super petty, but it annoys the ever-living shit out of me.

so, my fiance and i are part of a geek group (actually, we met through said geek group :P ) and this morning he posted to it asking for recommendations for wrestling documentaries, listing a few we've watched recently. now, he SPECIFICALLY said that he DID NOT WANT **ANY** documentaries produced by vince mcmahon's company aka wwe (because we despise their history revisionism and since we heartily disagree with the current product, we refuse to support it in any way).

most recs so far have been pretty cool, but at least two people have advised of docs that i know for a fact was produced by wwe, and they even so far went as to suggest looking at the wwe network channel (which we don't have, because again, we don't want to support the current product).

WHAT. THE. FUCK. SERIOUSLY.

reading comprehension, they do not has. obviously any documentary on the wwe network is going to be wwe produced. DUH. ffs people, FUCKING READ SHIT BEFORE YOU POST.

and yes, i have responded - TWICE, now - saying nicely the first time we don't want any wwe docs, then the second time saying flat out that we do not support the current product in any way and do not get the wwe network channel.

it's been a while since my second response and so far so good, but seriously people, fucking read shit ffs, is it really so hard???

/petty rant over

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I had a friend I had been friends with for 22 years. She's always been Republican and and a basic/non-church going Christian.

She has had an abortion and was in a lesbian relationship for two years.

I came out of the closet several years ago.

Ok - now to FB. About 3 years she went from Republican to full on Tea-Bagger. I mean the crazy was strong in this one and it just exploded into anti-abortion, anti-gay marriage, pro gun everything and just got worse.

I lost my brother to gun-related suicide this summer and THE DAY OF HIS FUNERAL - I go onto FB and there, on my newsfeed, big as life, is a meme stating "You can have my (forgot name of gun) here when you pry it from my cold dead fingers!" or something of that ilk (that's pretty close though)

I just fell over in shock and immediately texted her and, politely, told her that, while I knew it was her FB that I'd really appreciate it if you she would click the little option that let her hide her posts from certain people since I was burying my 26 year old brother that day due to this very issue.

Her response was,basically "It's MY fb, I can post what I want and you can suck it!" (very mature in a 40 year old woman). I unfollowed her - could not bring myself to delete her as we had been friends for soooo long and I was really hoping that this was just a momentarily insanity issue.

But, then she got into a relationship with a gentleman who had so many DV red flags and was even more rampantly conservative than her and the gun posts and the anti-gay marriage and anti-abortion posts were enough and I defriended her.

Broke my heart - but I just couldn't do it anymore. The lack of sensitivity and the level of hypocrisy was to much.

^ That is my worst FB interaction. Although I've had a lot of what people have posted here too.

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rainbow - i'm so sorry you had to go through that, both with your brother and your friend *hugs*

as i grew further away from christianity in general, i still had a lot of fundie/fundie-lite friends that posted stupid shit. i ignored them, since it was their page, but they would comment on shit i would share, berating me for it, or messaging me about it. they could not get the concept of "my page, my perogitive" (and it wasn't even offensive shit at all). i eventually made a "secular" friend set to post stuff to, but i just felt so censored on my own page. i eventually came out as pagan and pansexual and let all of them know if they couldn't handle not messaging me or commenting on shit, then go ahead and unfriend me. it was a painful thing to post, because i knew i would lose friends (and i did) but it's so worth it now to be able to not worry about what i post or share.

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A FB friend just posted this: "Sitting here painting my toes and nails and [X] asked if I could paint his. I explained to him only girls do this and bc he's a little boy he couldn't."

It made me both sad and mad. I wanted to say something to defend the poor child, but couldn't figure out what to say that wouldn't cause a riot. Plus...not my kid, butt out of people's parenting choices, etc. I suppose. :(

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I'm getting increasingly less able to handle the anti-vaxxers on FB, to the point where I avoid certain people's pages. Ugh.

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A FB friend just posted this: "Sitting here painting my toes and nails and [X] asked if I could paint his. I explained to him only girls do this and bc he's a little boy he couldn't."

It made me both sad and mad. I wanted to say something to defend the poor child, but couldn't figure out what to say that wouldn't cause a riot. Plus...not my kid, butt out of people's parenting choices, etc. I suppose. :(

That reminded me of the parenting some "good fathers" did. I don't want to bring my birth country down but misogyny is part of your everyday life, including rape jokes, wife beating jokes, etc.

If you manage to get a husband who's not drinking like a mule and doesn't beat you up, you can consider yourself lucky.

There were these misogynistic comments fathers used to spew all over Facebook.

There was this guy, really hardworking, a family man with 3 kids. When they were expecting their first kid, he posted something like: HA! I've fathered a MAN!!! Yes! I knew I could do it! I've fathered a MAN (as in "human") and not a bitch!

No one freaking called him out. There was only one person who cowardly added "hey buddy, women are humans, too." The whole patriarchal bullshit is so strong in that shithole that no one freaking grabbed their keyboard and told him not to call girl fetuses bitches.

Then, there were these other good fathers.

Also, father of 3, married since he was 21, loves his wife and kids, and kept posting comics, like this one with 2 ambulance guys, carrying an unconscious woman on a stretcher, and one was RAPING the unconscious woman and it said "Let me save time and take her temperature." :oops:

Then, there was this f-**wad, he had her friends' daughters dressed up in their fave football team's nicknacks, from scarves to tiny socks, onesies, hats etc. Someone commented: The football team of the future. He replied: Are you out of your mind? Can't you see these are girls? Girls can't play football.

These are just 3 of the hundreds. And all of these people were considered as exemplary fathers. The whole mindset of that society was just so misogyny-soaked, that people didn't notice these comments, they never stirred up any outrage. I was disgusted by these people.

Oh, there is one more. One other "good husband"'s wife gave birth to a girl. The father posted: I'm picking up my wife at the hospital, even though women that won't birth sons deserve to get home on their feet, they don't deserve this kind of luxury. - Um, dickwad!!! We carry double x chromosomes. It is you who couldn't shoot out enough dna that carried a y!

I am just thoroughly and entirely happy that I don't have anything to do with that country, that society, the rape culture and the patriarchal mindset of the people and the structural violence that every aspect of society built upon.

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My cousin's wife is advertising some sort of happy hour event that she and her sister are running where people can learn about a "nutritional program" that makes you feel great and somehow earns you up to $1000/week. My guess is that this is her third MLM scheme.

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A FB friend just posted this: "Sitting here painting my toes and nails and [X] asked if I could paint his. I explained to him only girls do this and bc he's a little boy he couldn't."

It made me both sad and mad. I wanted to say something to defend the poor child, but couldn't figure out what to say that wouldn't cause a riot. Plus...not my kid, butt out of people's parenting choices, etc. I suppose. :(

That can be a hard one. I know my SIL is against his son doing things like that. His reasoning is that even if he's just playing around to be like his older sister now -- if he keeps doing it he'll get bullied and beat up in school. And he's scared of that happening. Really scared. It's really rough for boys of his ethnic group already in the world, he figures, so why make it worse. Whereas if there was a little boy in the part of my family that is white, middle-class hipster in a west coast city -- he absolutely would have painted nails.

I, of course, have to butt out. ( by the way, in case anyone is wondering, shutting up about parenting choices regarding your grandchildren is HARD) . But it really is difficult if you look at how narrow the range of acceptable behavior is for boy children, still. And for boy children who are black or brown or poor -- the world really can be a land mine.

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Saw this one today:

I lived in an environment where people smoked. No thank you. Our children's birth mom started with pot smoking, which lead to other addictions and eventually the end of her life at the age of 31, too young to die. And her addictions lead to birth defects our children will have to live with for the rest of their lives. I believe there are better medicine, to cure cancer. Not narcotics. I also believe in the power of healing prayer. People have been healed through the power of prayer from cancers.

The rest of the comment thread was about the same, people on both sides misspelling words, others pointing it out, old people calling marijuana "dope" and some images with words on them. (I have nothing against "memes" but when did that become the primary form of communication?)

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Saw this one today:

The rest of the comment thread was about the same, people on both sides misspelling words, others pointing it out, old people calling marijuana "dope" and some images with words on them. (I have nothing against "memes" but when did that become the primary form of communication?)

Wow. That's some round about logic right there. So the biological mother started smoking pot, and then switched to hard drugs, which ( maybe ) lead to birth defects. So someone with cancer shouldn't smoke pot. I bet the biological mother also drank water at some point. Maybe people with cancer shouldn't drink water either. :?

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Wow. That's some round about logic right there. So the biological mother started smoking pot, and then switched to hard drugs, which ( maybe ) lead to birth defects. So someone with cancer shouldn't smoke pot. I bet the biological mother also drank water at some point. Maybe people with cancer shouldn't drink water either. :?

causation versus correlation...people need critical thinking skills for that and alot of people weather have their collective head up their butts.

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UGH. Someone on Facebook posted something essentially saying, "Why are we bickering about vaccinations when children are dying from abortion every day?!"

Another person essentially said that, um, vaccinations are still a problem and that not vaccinating can have negative effects on others (herd immunity and the immune-compromised). I piped in with an agreement to that.

Then it was, "We should just let it rest in God's hands because He's good and we should follow him and tell others about Him." (That was the gist, anyway.)

WHY CAN NO ONE STAY ON TOPIC AFTER POSTING A STUPID FACEBOOK POST.

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It is really random and out of the blue but there was this lady who kept breaking up and reuniting with her troubled daughter. The daughter was a roommate of mine in college. She was addicted to Dormicum and one night she almost killed me and another roommate in a frenzy. 3 guys from the football team subdued her. Her mother kept kicking her out of the house instead of getting her help and we couldn't risk staying with her and get stabbed.

Now. Same chick married a religious fanatic. A very self-involved religious fanatic with a short man syndrome. Her mother befriended me and kept sharing the guy's "family pictures".

It only contained the kids, there was 3 of them. He kept CROPPING OUT everyone else in the pictures, including grandma, the mother of the children, relatives visiting, the godfathers and -mothers at their christening, you would see no one else but the kids.

There was this one which said "my 3 loves" and the mother was trying to hold the baby up straight, except that her unnecessary parts were cut out.

I think after he accumulated a certain amount of kids, he couldn't pretend giving a damn about other people like his wife who birthed them or the kids' grandma.

The kids were his "superteam", his "fan base" (he plays in a stupid, dirt kicking football team), his "super trio*. Once he was done having kids, he started cropping people out of pictures.

I don't know what kind of a disorder is it when you marry a person that can birth enough kids to flatter your vanity and then forget about her existence.

Grandma unfriended me when I asked why is everyone always cropped out of the pictures, and why isn't there one picture of them with her? Ouch. Did I step on her toe?

Anyway. I don't know what to call it, I think he's a narcissist and he only sees himself in those kids, they are his extension. He had an interview with a local redneck online magazine with a sports section. He was supposed to speak about holding a team together in a rural area without sponsors, and all he kept blabbering about is God and his own special little army, his most loyal fans who worship him, he made the whole convo revolve around his kids. He even had his family picture posted: it was the kids and half of the mother balancing the baby. Grandma felt like it's necessary to crap his son in law's obsession with his brood and how they were meant to serve him as some sort of a small army.

I don't know what he had been compensating for, but cropping every single pic in such a way where no one else could be fully seen but the kids, it suggested he was a narcissist and the kids only existed to flatter his ego, the wife was thrown under the bus after the last kid was born, and Grandma was used as a babysitter to keep an eye on his kids who had to be present at every freaking drunken football match. Yes, they were bored, cold, tired, they cried but Daddy needed to see himself rooting for himself in the audience. I really don't think I had friends on FB that didn't irk me out or anger me to an extent. This special c*nt made me feel insecure about having kids, since I don't want to become anyone's freaking baby carrying incubator and train them to love everything daddy loves, dress up the boys like mini-daddy, matching outfits and parade around with them feeling left out and miserable.

Is this really a way of loving your kids?!

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