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does the transfer of headship/authority start slightly at courtship/engagement or only at marriage?


i'm just wondering, because ever since jessa has been with ben, her clothes, hair and makeup have become well, less gothard-approved. given that they've only recently become engaged, i'm wondering whether this could be more to do with ben "allowing" jessa to do what she wants, because the other j'slaves are still pretty modest.... so i don't think it's something JB has allowed her to do. unless she's kind of told him she's gonna do what she wants (and a few of us have noted some tension and snarky remarks between the two, so that's possible)


so yeah, my question is... could the change in appearance be ben's doing, from a headship point of view? he's been raised around women who wear pants and don't conform to the whole gothard modesty standards, so may very well prefer jessa to be the same now.


to reference --


jessa not long before courtship:





beginning of courtship:



during courtship:




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I can totally see Jessa taking advantage of her situation. She and Ben aren't truly "made for each other", JimBob is still trying to force them to fit together, and to keep her happy, he's not criticizing little things like her dress and makeup. He knows that Jessa is like a wet piece of soap right now. The harder JimBob squeezes, the faster she'll fly out of the picture. She must have aged out of JTTH or something, or she'd be there, just like Josiah is at ALERT.

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In my experience, the headship begins to transfer at engagement/betrothal --- but only partially. Daughter (and future son-in-law) must still abide by what daddy dictates. Hopefully at marriage the daughter is free from daddy's headship and free to do what her husband prefers. But as we've seen with some fundie families, even at marriage that doesn't always happen! In Jessa's case though, I would tend to believe that she now has some freedom to make a change in small areas, now that she's engaged.

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yep. jessa could threaten to rebel, and JB gives in to keep her at home. same as ben moving in "either he moves in, or i move out".

i really do think jessa sees bin as her ticket outta there. once they say "i do" she's under ben's official authority, so if she wants to leave fundiedom, or at least wear pants, shorts and tank tops... then i think she will, because there's not much JB can do about it besides pull the finanical rug from under them. wait a minute, this is all starting to make sense...

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aw, i can't see the recent pics :( can anyone else? i can see the others just fine, just not the "during courtship" batch.

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