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I also wonder if he a porn addict... As a previous poster said, they were posting a lot of that kind of thing not so long ago. If there was trouble I'm sure they made him file the petition to take some of the heat of Deanna.

Despite my mixed feelings about this bunch I do feel bad for them because this is a big deal in that circle and Deanna is so young.

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Did anyone else ever feel like there was something "off" looking about that kid? I just always hot a weird feeling about him.

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I didn't think he was attractive. She was the good-looking one in the relationship. She needs to lose a few pounds, but she has a cute face. And of course his looks don't mean too much, he could still be a great person.

If something was off about him, it is all on Perry. He is the one that approved of him. Isn't that point of courting? The father will weed out the bad ones? Smh

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I didn't think he was attractive. She was the good-looking one in the relationship. She needs to lose a few pounds, but she has a cute face. And of course his looks don't mean too much, he could still be a great person.

If something was off about him, it is all on Perry. He is the one that approved of him. Isn't that point of courting? The father will weed out the bad ones? Smh

See, I'm not convinced. Their wedding was so quick, and had a sort of "thrown-together" quality about it (then again, what fundie wedding doesn't?) that I thought there might have been something going on that shouldn't have been.

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See, I'm not convinced. Their wedding was so quick, and had a sort of "thrown-together" quality about it (then again, what fundie wedding doesn't?) that I thought there might have been something going on that shouldn't have been.

I've always thought that.

Apparently they'd been "special friends" for two years before they got engaged, but we never heard a word about him or a courtship, even though Kim was blogging heaps, til suddenly one Sunday at church Perry gave his permission for them to marry. Then they rushed around to marry within a month or so, even though Kim was in her third trimester at the time. It's really odd that she didn't make more of her first daughter's courtship and wedding on her blog, and there was no mention of the kiss at the altar being their first kiss ever. I fully expected a remarkably healthy honeymoon premie, and still think that they "had" to marry cause they were caught in a compromising position.

I'm wondering if the whole Doug Philips fiasco has made Deanna question things a bit and realise she doesn't HAVE to stay married. Doug was a big deal in her life since childhood - a spiritual leader and her dad's boss. She used to go to work with her dad quite a lot and the Coghlans attended all the VF events. So Doug was a familiar figure who she had always been taught deserved the utmost respect, on both secular and theological grounds, and then he gets caught jerking off on a woman her own age, a woman Deanna knows. It's got to have been confronting, and if she was unhappy with her marriage anyway it may have been enough to make her feel that divorce was maybe ok.

It's still going to be really hard for Kim and Perry to accept and support though. They have been so vocal in the past about divorce being sinful and part of the reason out hedonistic liberal society is falling to pieces.

I went back through Perry's Facebook for the last month or so. Nothing stood out as hugely relevant, but I stand by my earlier prediction that Tyler has been watching porn and they are going to equate that to adultery. I don't think that's why the marriage ended - Deanna's looked and sounded pretty unhappy for ages now - but I think that's how they'll spin it.

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I've always thought that.

Apparently they'd been "special friends" for two years before they got engaged, but we never heard a word about him or a courtship, even though Kim was blogging heaps, til suddenly one Sunday at church Perry gave his permission for them to marry. Then they rushed around to marry within a month or so, even though Kim was in her third trimester at the time. It's really odd that she didn't make more of her first daughter's courtship and wedding on her blog, and there was no mention of the kiss at the altar being their first kiss ever. I fully expected a remarkably healthy honeymoon premie, and still think that they "had" to marry cause they were caught in a compromising position.

I'm wondering if the whole Doug Philips fiasco has made Deanna question things a bit and realise she doesn't HAVE to stay married. Doug was a big deal in her life since childhood - a spiritual leader and her dad's boss. She used to go to work with her dad quite a lot and the Coghlans attended all the VF events. So Doug was a familiar figure who she had always been taught deserved the utmost respect, on both secular and theological grounds, and then he gets caught jerking off on a woman her own age, a woman Deanna knows. It's got to have been confronting, and if she was unhappy with her marriage anyway it may have been enough to make her feel that divorce was maybe ok.

It's still going to be really hard for Kim and Perry to accept and support though. They have been so vocal in the past about divorce being sinful and part of the reason out hedonistic liberal society is falling to pieces.

I went back through Perry's Facebook for the last month or so. Nothing stood out as hugely relevant, but I stand by my earlier prediction that Tyler has been watching porn and they are going to equate that to adultery. I don't think that's why the marriage ended - Deanna's looked and sounded pretty unhappy for ages now - but I think that's how they'll spin it.

I had a look at Deanna's FB page, and there hasn't been a photo of Tyler since August last year. That is a long time to be posting on FB without posting a photo of your husband, especially when there are plenty of photos of him prior to April last year. Odd odd odd.

On the point of the honeymoon baby - I thought I read somewhere (here most likely) that he was infertile.

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My (completely uneducated) guess is that someone caught them watching the submarine races.

Baby or no, that would get them an insta-wedding.

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Porn addict doesn't equate HIM filing for the divorce. I'm curious what SHE did to push him over the edge?

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Porn addict doesn't equate HIM filing for the divorce. I'm curious what SHE did to push him over the edge?

My guess is there was an agreement that he would file, taking the blame off her. After all, he is the headship and she is a lowly woman. That way they can blame the divorce on him.

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My guess is there was an agreement that he would file, taking the blame off her. After all, he is the headship and she is a lowly woman. That way they can blame the divorce on him.

Maybe. But if they're aiming for adultery as the reason wouldn't she, as the victim, have to file? Or do they not care about the civil divorce so much as they care how their church views it? I just don't know.

Would be interesting if Deanna cheated on him, given her post about how adulterous women and women who have premarital sex should be stoned and shamed, just like in biblical times.

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Don't most ppl who just file for a no fault divorce just cite 'irreconcilable differences' nowadays?

I'm no lawyer and I've never even set foot in Texas so I could be completely wrong here, but especially since there's no kids involved, I'd think it would quite possibly be the quickest and easiest way to do it.

And then there's the side effect of keeping any dirty linen as well wrapped as possible.

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Maybe they just came to their senses and realised that courtship is bullshit, and that once they got married they realised that they rushed into things without knowing eachother very well, and just aren't compatible.

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Maybe. But if they're aiming for adultery as the reason wouldn't she, as the victim, have to file? Or do they not care about the civil divorce so much as they care how their church views it? I just don't know.

Would be interesting if Deanna cheated on him, given her post about how adulterous women and women who have premarital sex should be stoned and shamed, just like in biblical times.

My ex-husband cheated on me and left me. But I had to file for divorce because his lazy-ass wouldn't. I also filed based on irreconcilable differences, not infidelity because I just wanted him to approve the papers and be done with it* and he was denying cheating on me. Divorce papers only tell the legal story, and there could be a lot going on that never makes it there.

*I suspect his lazy-ass didn't even read the divorce papers, so now I wish I'd filed for infidelity and included in them that I get the bed. Not because I needed one, but just so he wouldn't have one. I'm a vindictive little bitch, it turns out.

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Gosh, but I'm not surprised, The wedding seemed rushed, they never looked liked they belonged together in the pictures I saw of them and like a lot of you I guessed they had been caught making out and were forced to get married.

Could be one of many reasons why they got divorced but I'm tending towards the prosaic - Deanna and Tyler realised they were not meant to be married to each other. He filed for divorce because he's got an income/realised first/they agreed that he should, Deanna is going to have to move back home and Perry and Kim are going to spin some bullshit about porn addiction in order to try save face.

Whatever is the truth I wish both Tyler and Deanna come out of this as well as they possibly can and with their families continued support, they are still barely adults.

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This is very interesting. I know the Coughlin's cherry pick their beliefs but this one seems more about circumstance than belief. Something happened but it will probably never be mentioned. Success stories in fundie land are pimped out while failures are scrubbed from existence.

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I wonder if there was abuse? I'm remembering another family whose daughter suffered domestic violence and they publically supported her in her divorce. Can't remember the name though.

Deanna looks so sad in many of her facebook photos, even when she's smiling.

Interestingly, in one of them, where a couple of guys dissed her new look, both of her parents went after them hard, and defended her. They are not typical fundies, I don't think.

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Granted, I'm totally jaded, but she's rocking a lot of flannel these days ifyouknowwhatI'msaying.

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Kind of off-topic, but I saw on facebook that she had a tattoo. Didn't her parents always say that only her husband could "approve" something like that? It looks like a new tattoo, too.

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She has also cut her hair short-between that and the tattoo, and her non fundie approved literature, TV and movies, she does not look very fundie! Although then again, she is a Coghlan-looks can be deceiving, they seem cool enough on the outside, no frumpers here, and all of them except Kim celebrated Halloween last year-but they have some very extreme fundie beliefs.

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I wonder if Tyler ordered Deanna to stop working and be a SAMW

I highly doubt it - he's never seemed very fundie. I think it's far more likely that Kim pressured her to stay at home and focus on her marriage.

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Coming out f lurkdom.

I'm wondering if the rush to marriage had something to do with Deanna's activities at the time. Maybe the tool was hitting on her and they wanted to get her tuck away some place safe or maybe it the "flannel shirt, thing.

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I don't think it has anything to with Doug. She could simply not go to work with her dad if that were the case.

If I had to guess, I would say it was a relationship between young people that wouldn't have lasted too long in the regular dating world. But since they were fundie they couldn't date like normal people. So they really didn't know each other well enough. Thus, the marriage didn't even last 2 years.

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