SSM is grateful

[fatcat]

I'm sure we are all very tired of Sunshinemary by now, but I saw this newest post of hers today and felt the need to share it here, since I found it hilarious. She has a post up entitled 'How to change your man', in which she gets all huffy over some studies which suggest that men become more empathetic when they have daughters, or something to that effect. She then tells her female readers to cultivate an attitude of gratitude towards their husbands (OK, I'll agree with that, to a certain extent), and lists what she is grateful to her own husband for.

 

She writes:

 

I’ll go first. Here are three general things I’m grateful to HHG for:

 

He takes care of his health by going to the gym, the doctor, the dentist, and so on regularly, thereby keeping himself physically attractive and healthy.

 

He’s got a biting sense of humor; my husband’s ability to make me laugh involuntarily makes me feel tingly all over.

 

He allows me to serve him.

 

And here are two specific things he’s done recently that I’m grateful for:

 

When I was being a cranky mama and going on and on at one of our daughters about something, he stuck his head into the room, fixed me with a serious look, and said, “You will stop talking now. Do you understand?â€

 

He told me to do a writing project that I’ve been talking about doing but lacked the confidence to start, and he’s been holding me accountable by making me show him my daily progress on it.

 

Please tell me I'm not crazy and (most of) these are not things to be grateful for. And the first one is really shallow. Just sayin'.

[Pam]

I'm sure we are all very tired of Sunshinemary by now, ...

Not me, she's probably my most favourite fundie....something about the mixture of Christianity with manospherian hatred and vitriol that makes her entire blog oxymoronic (or, more simply, moronic).

The first one would be okay if she left it at "thereby keeping himself healthy". And although I might not be grateful that he is encouraging her to the writing project that she's been talking about but lacked the confidence to actually do, a husband encouraging his wife to attain a goal that she otherwise lacks confidence to do is not a bad thing for which to be grateful. But yeah, the other stuff...allowing her to serve him, etc., riiiiiiiiiiight.

[fatcat]

Not me, she's probably my most favourite fundie....something about the mixture of Christianity with manospherian hatred and vitriol that makes her entire blog oxymoronic (or, more simply, moronic).

The first one would be okay if she left it at "thereby keeping himself healthy". And although I might not be grateful that he is encouraging her to the writing project that she's been talking about but lacked the confidence to actually do, a husband encouraging his wife to attain a goal that she otherwise lacks confidence to do is not a bad thing for which to be grateful. But yeah, the other stuff...allowing her to serve him, etc., riiiiiiiiiiight.

Oh yeah, I have a borderline scary fascination with her blog. It's like she takes all the things I have heard before from Christians, MRAs and just plain disgruntled men (and sometimes women) and blends them all into one worldview. The scary thing is, after reading for a while, you think 'maybe she's right, after all, haven't I observed this in real life? Haven't some of my friends said these things? What if she's right about everything?'. Or maybe it's just me... :cry: That blog is not a good one to read when you have a history of failed relationships and are rather insecure about your future.

You know where she fails though? In assuming any woman who reads her blog will realise that all men really are like her commenters, that the 'red pill' really is reality, and then change themselves to be able to get a man. If I believed that, I would choose to remain alone, no question about it. I would not accept her worldview even I thought it could get me right with God, because that sort of god is not worth worshiping. :snooty:

Oh, and I agree, the last point isn't too bad.

[JesusFightClub]

It's possible that her cranky naggingness is exacerbated by being told to shut up by her husband in front of her children whenever he takes the fancy. Just pointing that out.

[Pam]

The scary thing is, after reading for a while, you think 'maybe she's right, after all, haven't I observed this in real life? Haven't some of my friends said these things? What if she's right about everything?'. Or maybe it's just me... :cry:

Don't forget though, even a stopped clock gives the right time twice a day.

You know where she fails though? In assuming any woman who reads her blog will realise that all men really are like her commenters...

Yep, there's a reason that a large portion of her commentariat are single but not by choice.

It's possible that her cranky naggingness is exacerbated by being told to shut up by her husband in front of her children whenever he takes the fancy.

Hearing her was probably interfering with his pornfest in the room next door.

[antares]

I will never be convinced that ssm is in a healthy relationship

[Angharad Crewe]

When she says "biting sense of humor" I get the sense that what she really means is "nasty, malicious sense of humor."

I wonder what her daughters think when they see exchanges like: "You will stop talking right now. Do you understand?" I think it's fine to have another observer tell you to calm down when you're flipping out at someone, but this just rubs me the wrong way for some reason. And it also undermines SSM's authority with her kids too

[Khan]

"You will stop talking now. Do you understand?" sounds like a command given to a yipping dog. While she may have been going overboard lecturing her daughter it is still not acceptable to speak to another human being like that. Of course, in her marriage she isn't a person. She's a Helpmeet.

[NotALoserLikeYou]

Why would bring allowed to serve someone be something to be grateful for, unless it's an s&m thing?

I feel like I don't even want to call her a fundie because that would give fundies a bad name. And that's saying something.

[ThisOlGirl]

I'm grateful for Sunshine Mary's blog because:

1. Sometimes I wonder if I did something to make my ex-husband cheat on me. I wonder if maybe I shouldn't have stuck it out longer than I did and tried harder to make things work. Then I read Shitstain's very own words about her miserable marriage, and I realize that I did right by kicking my cheating husband to the curb, because his cheating was his fault, not mine.

2. SUNSHINE GARY (specifically the post about SSG's call to CPS. It's never not funny, no matter how many times I read it).

[YPestis]

What I'm grateful to hubby for:

1. Not cheating on me, despite (like HHG), hanging around nurses all day (and not tossing his pagers at those nurses!).

2. Being considerate of my feelings and supportive of my emotional well-being every day.

3. Making decisions with me, rather than treating me as a child.

4. Showing respect to me in public (and in private).

5. Being a general all around great husband.

Tell me again why HHG is such a catch? Oh yeah, because my husband does not take dominion over me and has all these "liberal, atheistic" views like support for gay marriage, egalitarian gender roles, support for women in the workplace......

If SSM wants all of us to look up to her, she really needs to portray her husband in a better light. I'm not sure if SSM is trying to be passive aggressive about her husband, or honestly think she has a great marriage. From where I stand, I win by a mile!

[halfheartedheroine]

"You will stop talking now. Do you understand?" sounds like a command given to a yipping dog. While she may have been going overboard lecturing her daughter it is still not acceptable to speak to another human being like that. Of course, in her marriage she isn't a person. She's a Helpmeet.

I would understand if she'd been shouting at the daughter and he told her that she needed to stop because things were getting out of hand, but "You will stop talking now"? WTF? What is wrong with people that people think this is an acceptable way to treat someone they care about? (you know, beyond pre-agreed-upon BDSM?)

[Carla Bruni]

I've been with some douchebags in my misspent youth, but HHG really takes the cake and makes all of them look like prime marriage material.

Also, on point #1, what's with the MRA/anti-feminism crowd constantly making regular adult activities that I think all adults should do (cooking, cleaning, dental checkups) into some kind of super-rare life accomplishment accessible to only a chosen few? Whoop dee doo, he goes to the gym. SLOW CLAP. He's probably looking for new young women to cheat on her with.

[fatcat]

She is now on Twitter, by the way.

(no, I don't have a life, why do you ask?) :lol:

[JesusFightClub]

I've been with some douchebags in my misspent youth, but HHG really takes the cake and makes all of them look like prime marriage material.

Also, on point #1, what's with the MRA/anti-feminism crowd constantly making regular adult activities that I think all adults should do (cooking, cleaning, dental checkups) into some kind of super-rare life accomplishment accessible to only a chosen few? Whoop dee doo, he goes to the gym. SLOW CLAP. He's probably looking for new young women to cheat on her with.

Totally. He goes to the doctor. Wow, I'd be slaveringly grateful for a husband who goes to the doctor when he feels ill, and when he doesn't, for regular checkups. Except I wouldn't, because that's just something that grown-ups do. It doesn't merit special praise.

[lilah]

SSM makes me angry if I read her but then I try to remember how she's in an emotionally abusive relationship and mra blogging is one of her only outlets.

I am glad my marriage is one of trust, respect, honesty and equality. I am grateful my husband is a cheating peice of shit who treats me like a 5 year old. I am glad that I don't need a blog with 300 pissed off angry mra basement virgins validating my cheeful acceptence of husband's abuse and overall shittiness to function in my marriage.

[snuggles911]

When she says "biting sense of humor" I get the sense that what she really means is "nasty, malicious sense of humor."

I wonder what her daughters think when they see exchanges like: "You will stop talking right now. Do you understand?" I think it's fine to have another observer tell you to calm down when you're flipping out at someone, but this just rubs me the wrong way for some reason. And it also undermines SSM's authority with her kids too

I wonder how their father's treatment of SSM will impact them, especially when it comes to choosing husbands.

SSM has said that she and HHG will not allow them to go away to college. And, they plan to train their future sons-in-law to be alphas like HHG. They're already training their daughters to be good, submissive wives. So, the poor things may have a slim chance of ever having egalitarian marriages.

I thought her gratitude list was kind of sad. We may snark at the Duggers and the Bates, but at least the men in those families try to be romantic and seem to really love and care about their wives.

I do agree that HHG's encouragement regarding SSM's writing endeavor is a positive thing. I can't wait to find out what she's working on. Could it be an MRA/fundie marriage manual? :think:

[lilith]

I wonder how their father's treatment of SSM will impact them, especially when it comes to choosing husbands.

SSM has said that she and HHG will not allow them to go away to college. And, they plan to train their future sons-in-law to be alphas like HHG. They're already training their daughters to be good, submissive wives. So, the poor things may have a slim chance of ever having egalitarian marriages.

I thought her gratitude list was kind of sad. We may snark at the Duggers and the Bates, but at least the men in those families try to be romantic and seem to really love and care about their wives.

I do agree that HHG's encouragement regarding SSM's writing endeavor is a positive thing. I can't wait to find out what she's working on. Could it be an MRA/fundie marriage manual? :think:

That's fucking freaky. Wouldn't most young men run a mile if their girlfriend's mother and father started lecturing them on relationship dynamics and S&M and urging him to "swallow the red pill" and be an "alpha"just like her Daddy? That is just so so ultra wierd.