Ah the Life- oldest SAHDs?

[MamaJunebug]

Aurgh - I want to edit my previous post to chill the hotlink, but there's no "edit" button on my screen! What gives?!

[acheronbeach]

I adore my job. The alternative - staying at home - seems horribly depressing for me. If someone came to my work to "take me home," I'd call the cops.

And until I got my first job, I had no confidence and not particularly good people skills. Working made me a much more capable person all around. I can see why fundies, who want to create totally dependent child-women, would want to prevent their daughters from that experience.

[SoybeanQueen]

I work from home, and have chosen to be at home since my oldest daughter was a baby because it's what I think is best for *us.* I still found their "Bringing Rebecca Home" nonsense offensive. If I were one of her coworkers, I'd not have been pleased to be featured in photos that glorify one woman quitting her job while making snide cracks about how everyone else is a slave to "the man." Hope she doesn't ever need a reference for anything. "The man" probably won't be willing.

I admit, I giggled heartily at the side ad for a Botkin book on prepping kids for the real world. Honey, in the real world, you aren't required to remove your dad's footwear for him, and it's not actually considered a good thing to be living at home at 30+.

[flojo]

What I find so fascinating is the degree of smugness they have about still living as children.

Riffles

[Marian the Librarian]

And for a serious dose of cognitive dissonance, go to December 11, 2007 on ahthelife.blogspot.com, where the Misses Kelly and Andrea have posted a long article entitled "The Cost of Delaying Marriage."

It does. not. compute...

[Khan]

Bringing Rebecca home is such a ghastly presentation. She looks mortified in those pictures. Most of the "keepers at home" don't look too cheery, either. Perhaps a bit too much of Mother's Little Helper?

[Chicken bones]

What, they are MORE fundy crazies from Texas? And Tarrant County? Wayyy too close for comfort to me. I live in such an entertaining state. :?

[ShesCrafty]

And for a serious dose of cognitive dissonance, go to December 11, 2007 on ahthelife.blogspot.com, where the Misses Kelly and Andrea have posted a long article entitled "The Cost of Delaying Marriage."

It does. not. compute...

It takes a special brand of delusion for them not to understand the absurdity of that post. :?

[fundiefun]

As bitchy as it sounds I'm tempted to ask how that stay at home daughter life is working out for them so far :lol:

[salex]

In honor of all the SAHDs....

oTav-eDU5fk

[scc12]

I was wondering the same thing! I wonder how many kids they now hàve.

Boy,they sure don't like women in the workplace,do they? GAG. 'Get them women folk home!' Prolly too much competition for their fragile male egos.

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[Dinorah]

That t-shirt is scary and not remotely funny. No wonder those two are still singe, if I were a guy I wouldn't be too keen on dating, let alone marrying, a woman with a psycho father in law.

And what's with this romanticization of violence to "protect" daughters? Don't we deplore honor killings when they take place in non-western countries?

[teachergirl]

I believe someone from FJ found Rebecca's FB or something and sadly they don't have children....now that may have changed in the meaintime but all of that for what? to stay home and keep house for a grown man?

[Sumeri]

Goodness, I had forgotten all about Bringing Rebecca Home! The poor woman looks absolutely horrified, and who can blame her?

I had to go to the Reins sisters' blog and read, and I have to say that the pair of them probably have a lot more to do with their single status than any kind of tacky TShirt their daddy wears. Smug AND boring - it's a tough combo but they are obviously up to the task. Sinsinsinsinsinsinsinsinsinsinsinsin. Did I mention sin?

[lemonhead]

Reading that blog made me feel claustrophobic and trapped. They must either engage in a massive degree of denial, or they really are as smug and self-righteous as they come across. The two are not mutually exclusive, of course.

[docmom]

When I was a teenager I threatened to run of with my (imaginary) internet boyfriend and my father offered me cash. :lol: I'm only about fifty percent sure he was kidding.

My dad offered us ladders....

[Patsy]

They are human sacrifices to the cause. Cloistered in their earthly father's homes, they ,the botkins and who knows how many unknown and unnamed women whose fathers couldn't or wouldn't relinquish control of their slave/daughters.

Hmm... Jephthah, anyone? (I originally googled Japheth... close!)

And Jephthah made a vow to the Lord: “If you give the Ammonites into my hands, whatever comes out of the door of my house to meet me when I return in triumph from the Ammonites will be the Lord’s, and I will sacrifice it as a burnt offering.†Then Jephthah went over to fight the Ammonites, and the Lord gave them into his hands. He devastated twenty towns from Aroer to the vicinity of Minnith, as far as Abel Keramim. Thus Israel subdued Ammon.

When Jephthah returned to his home in Mizpah, who should come out to meet him but his daughter, dancing to the sound of timbrels! She was an only child. Except for her he had neither son nor daughter. When he saw her, he tore his clothes and cried, “Oh no, my daughter! You have brought me down and I am devastated. I have made a vow to the Lord that I cannot break.â€

“My father,†she replied, “you have given your word to the Lord. Do to me just as you promised, now that the Lord has avenged you of your enemies, the Ammonites. But grant me this one request,†she said. “Give me two months to roam the hills and weep with my friends, because I will never marry.â€

“You may go,†he said. And he let her go for two months. She and her friends went into the hills and wept because she would never marry. After the two months, she returned to her father, and he did to her as he had vowed. And she was a virgin.

[fifinella]

Bringing Rebecca home is such a ghastly presentation. She looks mortified in those pictures. Most of the "keepers at home" don't look too cheery, either. Perhaps a bit too much of Mother's Little Helper?

Or, you know, not nearly enough.

[gravelmonkey]

That is a very applicable Bible passage! At least the daughter of Jephthah was allowed two months to mourn. The Botkinettes and Ah the Lifers and many other aging maidens must stick to parroting how grateful and content they are to be stay-at-home daughters.

[Jana814]

I believe someone from FJ found Rebecca's FB or something and sadly they don't have children....now that may have changed in the meaintime but all of that for what? to stay home and keep house for a grown man?

If they still don't have kids yet that actually kind of sad. The whole thing was just creepy!

[ThatSnark]

If they still don't have kids yet that actually kind of sad. The whole thing was just creepy!

A very quick FB search for Rebecca C oleman brings up someone who seems to match this person, and although her wall isn't visible, there are many baby pictures, along with an "It's a Boy!" banner and an array of parenting books, including one on adoption. So perhaps they ended up adopting? Or maybe she takes care of children in her home? Hard to tell. I find her story very sad.

[rward]

Oh, they are definitely 35 plus...not to mention insufferably smug and annoying. They bragged once on their blog about how great it was to "stay at home and work in your pajamas.....Um yeah that does sound great. Meanwhile the rest of us wor,kpay bills, budget, contribute to society, pay taxes, etc. I really wonder when they will start to question this lifestyle. What will they do when their parents pass away and have literally never worked outside the home? How could you want that for your life?

I worked with a woman who cared for her mother until the mother died when my coworker was 45. She was the youngest daughter and they immigrated to the US from a country in Asia when the daughter was 17(I don't recall which one, this was a while ago) and the family was very, very traditional. So, mom dies and at 45, daughter has nothing. No education (she had no education in her home country and education in the US is not compulsory past age 16), no job training, no experience, she really never left the house except to go grocery shopping or to take her mother to the doctor.

She did manage to get in with a charity that hooked her up with literacy programs and job training, and she did eventually get a job, but her life was so sad and lonely and she very clearly was just enduring it until the end.

I wonder what she'd say about the whole SAHD thing?

[ThatSnark]

I have a friend who's a 44-year-old SAHD, but she was a dental assistant until four years ago, when she left to move back in with her aging/ailing parents in their late 70s. She looks after their house, drives them, and keeps them as involved in church and community as they're able. They live comfortably in the paid-for house with paid-for cars on the parents' retirement, pensions, and social security. She'll continue this until their situation changes, but the difference is that she has a career to return to whenever she's ready.

These families are handicapping the daughters. I used to work with "the elderly," and my clients, born in 1890-1915, mostly women, ALL told me that their parents had them prepare for either a profession or a trade, or both, because men died. These women finished high school, went to college or trade school, and were ready to work -- in business or on the land-- if Prince Charming rode past them. And I can't think of one that wasn't a lifelong Christian. The "traditional values" that these fundies are touting simply are not based in any reality from any time.

[nokidsmom]

Oh yes, I remember that "Bringing Rebecca Home" entry...was the first and only time I went to that blog. She did look mortified and I can't imagine many workplaces allowing a group of people to barge in and escort a worker out. Was she thinking of quitting anyway and they decide to make a big deal of going in on her last day, meaning she gave notice or did they just barge in? I can't remember. Maybe that's why the workplace allowed it and also they didn't want to offend the fundie crazies and have them cry persecution or something.

If someone came barging into my work, they would be dealing with security and the police. And we have had people try it.

[ianthe]

Speaking of older SAHDs, does anyone know whether Bethany Lindvall (Jonathan Lindvall's daughter) is still a SAHD? She must be in her forties by now, but the Lindvalls seem to have dropped out of the fundy circuit. In their day, they were in the outermost limits of fundamentalist patriarchy--headcovering, women not allowed to drive, betrothal, etc.