A naked wife who smiles a lot (holy Christ)

[Koala]

lorialexander.blogspot.com/2013/06/naked-with-smile.html

This is all most husbands want...a naked wife who smiles a lot.

They want a woman who will love them as they are, not argue with them, allow them to be the leader, fix them good food, be happy, and give them lots of sex.

What will make you most beautiful to your husband is a happy, joyful spirit and being naked for him a lot!

[GeoBQn]

I said this in the other thread, but it's quite the mood whiplash to write this after writing the entry about telling your daughters that men prefer slim women. Are men picky about weight, or are they uncontrollable horndogs? Which is it, Lori Alexander is a Fucking Monster?

[lilwriter85]

I know Lori has posted stuff with similar tone before. But for some reason, I found that posting to be a bit bizarre.

[Koala]

She makes me so sick. To her women are nothing but empty shells, sent here to please men. Nothing about the woman matters as long as she's thin, stays home, cooks, and let's her husband have sex with her whether she feels like it or not.

[docmom]

I'm beginning to wonder if Lori is real or an elaborate hoax. She's veering off heavily into porn and kink and seems more sex-obsessed than your average 22 year old guy. If she is for real, may I suggest a good psychiatrist? Or maybe it's all the cyanide from the apricot kernels.

[singsingsing]

"All men want is..." lol okay, but what about what I want? Does she realize that there are actually women who aren't totally desperate and insecure? If I honestly believed that the only things every single man on this planet cared about were that his wife never complained and acted like his mom while at the same time having lots and lots and lots of sex with him (smiling the whole time!!!), I would happily be single forever.

[rward]

Remember the Seinfeld episode where Jerry's girlfriend was always nude? At first he's really into it, but eventually he's getting freaked out by watching her pry open a pickle jar nude. Yeah, that's exactly what would happen, your husband would get used to your nudity and that would be the end of that.

As for the smiling, if my husband wants me to smile, he should do things that make me smile.

[gezykah]

Give them lots of sex? I almost feel sorry for her considering how unfulfilling her love life must be if she gives sex to him as opposed to enjoys having sex with him.

[singsingsing]

Her philosophy is all about putting your husband's pleasure first and your own needs and wants last. The problem is, it will never be enough. You will torture yourself dieting, changing your style, putting on makeup, 'giving him sex', smiling till your face hurts, cooking the most delicious meals... and there will always be someone who does it better. There will always be women out there who are prettier and thinner, who are more stylish, younger, nicer, more submissive, more fertile, healthier, holier, better at sex, better at cooking... always. If your relationship with your husband is based on how much you can do for him, rather than on mutual love and respect, you are setting yourself up for failure and misery.

[salex]

I said this in the other thread, but it's quite the mood whiplash to write this after writing the entry about telling your daughters that men prefer slim women. Are men picky about weight, or are they uncontrollable horndogs? Which is it, Lori Alexander is a Fucking Monster?

Did something go awry with her brain surgery? Or, is she just so pissed at her husband that she is telling her readers what she would tell Ken, IF she weren't little miss submissive? In other words, if we substitute "Ken" for "Men" do we get her true meaning?

Ken prefers slim women, so I'd better get over my brain surgery recovery and back to the gym.

Ken would be perfectly happy if I was just naked all the time, as long as I was smiling and submissive--and vacuumed, because Ken doesn't give a shit about anything I think.

I read this latest description of what Men want/ need as incredibly demeaning toward men--they have no interest in anything beyond sex and obedience.

Didn't Dr. Laura have a similar spiel--men are simple creatures who will work hard to support the whole household if you just give them sex and supper every night? (Is she still even around, or was that her last hurrah??)

[OkToBeTakei]

I'm beginning to wonder if Lori is real or an elaborate hoax. She's veering off heavily into porn and kink and seems more sex-obsessed than your average 22 year old guy. If she is for real, may I suggest a good psychiatrist? Or maybe it's all the cyanide from the apricot kernels.

I agree. Her and Sunshine Scary.

[JenXer]

Y'all are probably too young to remember Marabel Morgan's 1974 bestseller The Total Woman. This was pretty much her message... Cook, Smile and Be Naked.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marabel_Morgan

[LynnGrey]

Has she seen Stepford Wives? What she describes is exactly the premise of the story, that men would rather have hot robots than free-thinking humans as a partner.

[Jinger Jar]

I'm beginning to wonder if Lori is real or an elaborate hoax. She's veering off heavily into porn and kink and seems more sex-obsessed than your average 22 year old guy. If she is for real, may I suggest a good psychiatrist? Or maybe it's all the cyanide from the apricot kernels.

Or Ken is ghostwriting these posts. Or her brain surgery was much more serious that she let on to her readers. In any event you're right: she's oddly sex-obsessed.

[Savoring Samsara]

Sure, fair enough, my husband likes it when I am naked and when I smile. He also likes that I share a lot of his tastes in art and entertainment, that I can discuss politics and current events with him without necessarily agreeing mindlessly to everything he says, that I can match him drink for drink, that I am a worthy opponent in card games, and that I have interests outside of my relationship with him so that we don't need to be together 24/7. If a marriage is not multifaceted, and if the people involved in it don't like and appreciate each other on MANY different levels, that's trouble down the road.

[Jinger Jar]

It's disrespectful to most men to assert that all married guys want their wives to be little more than Fleshlights that can cook. While that may be a horny adolescent's idea of a dream wife, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually mature men need so much more than that from their life partners.

The more she writes the sorrier I feel for this woman. She has to be in one of the crappier marriages I've seen on the Internet.

[NotALoserLikeYou]

Y'all are probably too young to remember Marabel Morgan's 1974 bestseller The Total Woman. This was pretty much her message... Cook, Smile and Be Naked.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marabel_Morgan

It's also basically what Dr. Laura has promoted. Very popular.

[doggie]

So a man wants the stereotypical bimbo what is this man a great catch? any man that wants this is not exactly going to be a good catch himself.

[browngrl]

If what a man wants is a naked smiling woman ready to have sex at any time then what he really wants is a blow up sex doll. Which is totally fine with me. I have exactly zero time and energy for a man who is so limited.

[Mudball]

Hyper sexuality can be from a brain tumor or injury. But, on the other hand, people who have a fulfilling sex life generally don't need to yammer about it all over the internet, either. So, it could go either way.

I never thought I'd say this but jeez louise, how about some damn MODESTY for once? I am sick of hearing about this stuff from her. Gag. Does she talk about stuff like her children's virginity and sex and being naked in RL too, I wonder? Like at church picnics and stuff? :roll:

[salex]

Y'all are probably too young to remember Marabel Morgan's 1974 bestseller The Total Woman. This was pretty much her message... Cook, Smile and Be Naked.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marabel_Morgan

One of the women at our church, back then, promoted that one and Fascinating Womanhood and brought it to us to read. I would have been about 16 at the time, and my parents (they of the egalitarian marriage) thought and said it was most stupid thing they had ever heard. She said she always asked her husband to open cans for her... I asked her what he thought she did during the day when he was at work and needed a can open and wasn't that pretty dishonest and stupid. She also thought I should not tell anyone I drove a tractor (I lived on a farm and drove a large tractor and did field work, for pay, on the farm rather than earn less and drive 30 miles to work at a Taco Tico) She thought boys woud find it unfeminine. My dad told her that being able to do things was not unfeminine.

Her daughters were much younger, and when they got to be teens, she actually apologized to my parents for some of the crap she had said when I was a teen! LOL

[Hane]

Y'all are probably too young to remember Marabel Morgan's 1974 bestseller The Total Woman. This was pretty much her message... Cook, Smile and Be Naked.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marabel_Morgan

Whoa, crap--do I ever remember this shizz. It came out when I was a newlywed in my early 20s, and the husband and I both found it ridiculous. ( Fascinating Womanhood, its evil twin, was revived around the same time.) He actually liked being married to someone intelligent.

I was on the board of our local YWCA at the time. One of the older women (50s, IIRC) suggested we might schedule a Total Woman course at the YW. She was roundly shot down.

[Oddeverything]

Fundamentalist men must be incredibly stupid or have weak egos if that is what they really want. My husband would be bored living a life like that. I am a SAHW, but it's a division of labor that works for us, not some bizarre attempt to recreate primitive womanhood by insisting that all a man needs from a wife is a meal, a clean shirt and a warm hole to thrust his penis into whenever he wants. What decent man wants to be defined that way? What man strong in his mind and soul wants a sex toy that can wash his clothes and make him meatloaf on demand?

The answer is no man wants that unless he is so weak in will and intellect that he needs a woman who in no way ever challenges him. My husband would find a woman like Lori boring and weird, and not weird in a good way. Weird in a "not really human" sort of way.

I volunteer at a Catholic-run food pantry. I am an atheist and that I work there should be a testament to the open heart the organization has toward everyone, especially those who come for food aid. There was a fundamentalist evangelical woman who volunteered there for a while and she had a mouth that I still cannot believe. She wouldn't let her children date but she talked about her sexual philosophy, which was much like Lori's, at every turn. She especially liked talking to the teens who worked there, telling high school girls that they needed to be ready to cook, clean, have children and satisfy their future husbands, all the while talking incessantly about modesty. She was constantly talking about how she didn't like tank tops, they were too revealing, and low slung jeans were too sexual, etc.

Finally another woman and I went to the director and told her what this woman was talking to the teens about and she confronted her before she terminated her from working with the charity She specifically asked her why she was talking about sex so much with the girls working at the charity. Because that's what it was - she was talking about sex in some form or other incessantly every time she was at the facility. It was deeply disturbing. She tried to cloak her sexual obsession with feminine passivity and serving a man with a veil of Christian Womanhood but it was really just her talking about sex inappropriately every time she could.

I think many of these fundamentalist women are that way. They speak of modesty but then speak endlessly of their obsession - sex. We can speculate as to the motivations but there is a very disturbing element to how these women seem to discuss sex, as if it is all they think about. Subservience, spankings, giving sex at any request when their headship demands it - it's a sexual lifestyle, not an attempt to serve God, and it's so bereft of modesty that one wonders how it is that they trick themselves into thinking that others don't notice the hypocritical obsession.

[Peppercorn]

Y'all are probably too young to remember Marabel Morgan's 1974 bestseller The Total Woman.

Or as I remember it, The Total Lobotomized Woman.

I was a kid when the book came out, but I remembered the title, and the controversy. Years later, as the lone employee at a small-town library, I discovered it on the shelves. It disappeared. (Legitimately, it was my job to discard the dreck.)

[August]

"All men want is..." lol okay, but what about what I want? Does she realize that there are actually women who aren't totally desperate and insecure? If I honestly believed that the only things every single man on this planet cared about were that his wife never complained and acted like his mom while at the same time having lots and lots and lots of sex with him (smiling the whole time!!!), I would happily be single forever.

And, it's not even really what men (well, the majority, anyway) want. Oddeverything summed it up well.