The Chart - Husband's Goals for Wife

[kpmom]

I copied this chart from the Christian Homeschoolers Forum (CHFWeb.net), but it was published by a company called Great Commission, Inc. It has been on that forum a number of times, so I'm assuming it's ok to post here too.

What it is, is a chart to determine what a husband's goals are for his wife. She fills out with the answers she believes her husband will give. Then he fills it out.

The answers are then *ahem* discussed by husband and wife. Then the good Christian wife changes her routine/priorities to fit the headship's priorities.

According to the ladies of the homeschooling forum, marriages have been saved by The Chart.

Here it is;

You go through it first and mark what you think your husband's goals would be for you. Then he goes through it and mark what his priorities actually are. Then you talk about it together. It can be VERY eye opening!

THE CHART

Determine your husband's priorities for you.

Rank the following in order of importance:

___A clean house

___Well prepared meals

___Time spent with your children

___Time spent with others

___An attractive wife

Other: ________________________

Define what this means to your husband.

A Clean House:

-clutter picked up

-no hair in the tub

-no toys in the driveway

-no dishes in the sink

-spotless house

-living room/kitchen clean

_____________________________

_____________________________

Well prepared meals:

-flowers and china on the table

-dessert every night

-meat and potatoes every night

-never paper plates

-never hot dogs or quiche or ?

-hot dogs on paper plates

-order out for pizza

____________________________

____________________________

Time spent with children:

-home education

-quiet times together

-play time

-availability

-outings: library, park, etc

-memorizing Scripture

____________________________

____________________________

Time spent with others:

-social time

-time to share the gospel

-getting encouraged

-making disciples

-building friendships

______________________________

______________________________

An attractive wife:

-attractively dressed

-relaxed

-happy, rejoicing

-wears makeup

-strong character

-affectionate

_____________________________

_____________________________

Other ________________________

_____________________________

© 1988 Great Commission Inc. Used by permission.

[emmyfair]

I want to make some really witty comment, but I can't stop laughing long enough to think of one.

[singsingsing]

Wow, fantastic - a chart to determine whether your husband is a complete douchebag.

[Sobeknofret]

I copied this chart from the Christian Homeschoolers Forum (CHFWeb.net), but it was published by a company called Great Commission, Inc. It has been on that forum a number of times, so I'm assuming it's ok to post here too.

What it is, is a chart to determine what a husband's goals are for his wife. She fills out with the answers she believes her husband will give. Then he fills it out.

The answers are then *ahem* discussed by husband and wife. Then the good Christian wife changes her routine/priorities to fit the headship's priorities.

According to the ladies of the homeschooling forum, marriages have been saved by The Chart.

Here it is;

You go through it first and mark what you think your husband's goals would be for you. Then he goes through it and mark what his priorities actually are. Then you talk about it together. It can be VERY eye opening!

THE CHART

Determine your husband's priorities for you.

Rank the following in order of importance:

___A clean house

___Well prepared meals

___Time spent with your children

___Time spent with others

___An attractive wife

Other: ________________________

Define what this means to your husband.

A Clean House:

-clutter picked up

-no hair in the tub

-no toys in the driveway

-no dishes in the sink

-spotless house

-living room/kitchen clean

_____________________________

_____________________________

Well prepared meals:

-flowers and china on the table

-dessert every night

-meat and potatoes every night

-never paper plates

-never hot dogs or quiche or ?

-hot dogs on paper plates

-order out for pizza

____________________________

____________________________

Time spent with children:

-home education

-quiet times together

-play time

-availability

-outings: library, park, etc

-memorizing Scripture

____________________________

____________________________

Time spent with others:

-social time

-time to share the gospel

-getting encouraged

-making disciples

-building friendships

______________________________

______________________________

An attractive wife:

-attractively dressed

-relaxed

-happy, rejoicing

-wears makeup

-strong character

-affectionate

_____________________________

_____________________________

Other ________________________

_____________________________

© 1988 Great Commission Inc. Used by permission.

Um, yeah. No. My husband would think I've lost my mind if I gave him this. He just cares about making sure the heat and internet are still connected so he can surf the internet in warmth and peace.

[uncreative]

gracefullmama.com/a-kind-wife-2/

I stumbled across a link to this blog post earlier this fall, I think, which is a perfect follow up for The Chart. It sounds like the wife tried to start The Chart Discussion with her husband. He shut it down pretty quickly. :-D

[BabyFullOfSin]

Wow, fantastic - a chart to determine whether your husband is a complete douchebag.

:lol:

[docmom]

Ok, let's see. My Dh and I have been married for 15 years and have 3 children. We like each other quite a lot and plan on spending the rest of our lives together so we must be already following all this stuff, right? Let's see, the house. Well, it is spotless for one hour a week after the housecleaner leaves and before the children return from school so I guess we're good on that. Now, the food. We do eat off of china but no flowers on the table. I cook if I'm home first but have never, ever ground my own wheat. I suppose that's good enough too. Children,well, they go to an evil progressive private non-Christian school where 98% of the student body voted for Obama in the mock election so we might be in some trouble there. Also, I have never, ever asked the children to memorize scripture. We might have some issues there. Finally, my appearance. I wear that which is clean and needs the minimum of ironing. I do not wear make-up. We could definitely have a problem there. So, overall, I seem to be maintaining a fairly good relationship without any of these helpful charts. Is it possible?

[Khiwanean]

gracefullmama.com/a-kind-wife-2/

I stumbled across a link to this blog post earlier this fall, I think, which is a perfect follow up for The Chart. It sounds like the wife tried to start The Chart Discussion with her husband. He shut it down pretty quickly. :-D

Wow. His response was FANTASTIC. :clap:

[kpmom]

Ok, let's see. My Dh and I have been married for 15 years and have 3 children. We like each other quite a lot and plan on spending the rest of our lives together so we must be already following all this stuff, right? Let's see, the house. Well, it is spotless for one hour a week after the housecleaner leaves and before the children return from school so I guess we're good on that. Now, the food. We do eat off of china but no flowers on the table. I cook if I'm home first but have never, ever ground my own wheat. I suppose that's good enough too. Children,well, they go to an evil progressive private non-Christian school where 98% of the student body voted for Obama in the mock election so we might be in some trouble there. Also, I have never, ever asked the children to memorize scripture. We might have some issues there. Finally, my appearance. I wear that which is clean and needs the minimum of ironing. I do not wear make-up. We could definitely have a problem there. So, overall, I seem to be maintaining a fairly good relationship without any of these helpful charts. Is it possible?

But surely you at least blanket-trained your kids, right? And gave them chore packs?

[Lady_M]

I note that there is no listing on this prioritization chart for a wife to "hold a steady job and pursues a great career".

So I'm probably irredeemable :D .

[Just_Jane]

what is wrong with quiche for dinner?

[Aisling]

what is wrong with quiche for dinner?

I was wondering this too. Also, hot dogs on paper plates... I really don't get this. Do hotdogs specifically taste better on paper plates, the way tea tastes better in a white china cup?

Oh fundies, fundies. Lead me, for I am just an ignorant lamb in the world of correct paper plate usage.

[sparkles]

what is wrong with quiche for dinner?

Real menz don't eat it.

[kb2]

I'm eating mini-quiche right now for dinner! (The kind you buy frozen in bulk.) Although I have the night shift, so it's kind-of breakfast. The fact that I'm about to go night-shift it up seems more importantly non-fundie than the quiche though.

[sparkles]

Great. Now I want quiche for dinner. Good thing I'm not a real menz. Or a fake menz either. QUICHE IS THE DEBIL!

[valsa]

Why do fundies always have to fuck up good advice?

It's a good idea for a couple to discuss expectations to avoid misunderstandings and potential resentment (for instance, in my household, there's an on-going issue as to what, exactly, "doing the laundry" entails) However, it should be a two-way discussion and one person shouldn't be required to capitulate to the opinions of the other.

[sparkles]

Why do fundies always have to fuck up good advice?

It's a good idea for a couple to discuss expectations to avoid misunderstandings and potential resentment (for instance, in my household, there's an on-going issue as to what, exactly, "doing the laundry" entails) However, it should be a two-way discussion and one person shouldn't be required to capitulate to the opinions of the other.

Fundies fuck up good advice because to them there's only one way and that's the husband's. Discussion is not necessary, wives must do what they're told. Keep sweet, keep meek and most of all keep quiet.

[linnea27]

Wow, fantastic - a chart to determine whether your husband is a complete douchebag.

yeah. I can't get my head around "My husband's first priority is an attractive wife so I'd better neglect my kids and home to keep thin and pretty." ugh.

[mkitten]

Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahhahahhhaha!! Wow... I really, really needed a good laugh today and this chart delivered! Thanks kpmom!

[Austin]

Wow, fantastic - a chart to determine whether your husband is a complete douchebag.

Good one! :lol:

[Naga Viper]

Real menz don't eat it.

For our younger posters: This was actually a thing thirty years ago.

[marmalade]

yeah. I can't get my head around "My husband's first priority is an attractive wife so I'd better neglect my kids and home to keep thin and pretty." ugh.

That's about the only thing Michelle Duggar succeeds at. Even if "attractive" for Boob means being stuck in a timewarp c.1984.

No china, not even for Charles Stanley. Meat & potatoes? Only if TTC is involved and the last time we saw them make it (or watched Sarah Pope make it) they skimped on the protein, BIG TIME.

Yet another epic fail by the Mullet.

[SayNoToMullets]

Take the kids to the library and the park? But, but - aren't those ebil socialist institutions? Oh, I guess so long as they don't go to the ebil socialist public school, it's good.

[Anxious Girl]

What if you aren't married and don't want to have kids but believe in God and Jesus, is spiritual but doesn't go to Church?

[Katydid]

Wow... Just wow. My husband's priority is that we love each other and our son, and are financially stable, and happy. None of the stuff on that list makes it ANYWHERE onto his.