Husbands rebuke your wives; wives should be nice to husbands

[Hisey]

Lori Alexander is even more extreme today.

Most of her posts are about how wives should be nice to their husbands, should stop nagging, should submit. Doing these things, she says, can cure a variety of ills. It can stop men from engaging in pornography, infidelity, even abuse. Men will "change on a dime" when they get respectful submission--that's how much they love it! She warns women not to try to change their husbands (you can only change yourself), and to accept things gladly if your husband always remains an ill-tempered, horrible jerk.

So imagine my surprise at today's posts, directed at husbands. Apparently, none of the advice she gives wives applies to husbands. Husbands should not try to be nice, to be respectful. Apparently, they can change others beside themselves. And if their wives are nagging them, they should rebuke them, and admonish them, and act like a leader.

There's no need to waste time being nice to wives. They hold too much power in the relationship, anyhoos. They can withhold sex (!) and you know they all do this if they don't get their way. Like a wayward dog, these wives need scolding. And husbands are the ones to do it.

What happens if the rebuking doesn't work? I'm afraid to ask her this.

[Deleted07]

Yes Master :roll:

[patsymae]

oory but I'm not in the loop. Can you post links?

[slickcat79]

lorialexander.blogspot.com/

Yes, because Lori is exactly the person I would want to go to for advice on how to have a good marriage :roll:

[momma4critters]

Gee. Maybe if I had listened to her, I wouldn't have gotten three different STD's from my husband during our marriage. I only started nagging when he started sleeping around with other woman and insisting that I met them and trying to get me to be cool about them (and their hellions) moving in and being "one big happy family!"

I can only take so much. I was done with all that "sweet Xian southern wife" shit. Don't nag, my ass! You do that and you get walked all over! and then you get to be a single mom on disability. At least he stepped up and pays child support willingly. I guess I can quit bitching and be happy about that.

Lori Alexander is even more extreme today.

Most of her posts are about how wives should be nice to their husbands, should stop nagging, should submit. Doing these things, she says, can cure a variety of ills. It can stop men from engaging in pornography, infidelity, even abuse. Men will "change on a dime" when they get respectful submission--that's how much they love it! She warns women not to try to change their husbands (you can only change yourself), and to accept things gladly if your husband always remains an ill-tempered, horrible jerk.

So imagine my surprise at today's posts, directed at husbands. Apparently, none of the advice she gives wives applies to husbands. Husbands should not try to be nice, to be respectful. Apparently, they can change others beside themselves. And if their wives are nagging them, they should rebuke them, and admonish them, and act like a leader.

There's no need to waste time being nice to wives. They hold too much power in the relationship, anyhoos. They can withhold sex (!) and you know they all do this if they don't get their way. Like a wayward dog, these wives need scolding. And husbands are the ones to do it.

What happens if the rebuking doesn't work? I'm afraid to ask her this.

[YPestis]

Well, these nice fundie wives are seeing this huuuuuuuuuge inbalance of power between the genders. Women are able to get a divorce, stay single, inherit property, open their own bank account.....so now they have to push back! Those poor men are incapable of being the strong leaders they were designed to be unless they are shown submission by their wives. Strong leaders can only lead when their inferiors acknowledge their natural superiority.

[CrazySister]

Lori Alexander is even more extreme today.

Most of her posts are about how wives should be nice to their husbands, should stop nagging, should submit. Doing these things, she says, can cure a variety of ills. It can stop men from engaging in pornography, infidelity, even abuse. Men will "change on a dime" when they get respectful submission--that's how much they love it! She warns women not to try to change their husbands (you can only change yourself), and to accept things gladly if your husband always remains an ill-tempered, horrible jerk.

Lori, I have a couple questions for you: 1) What scientific studies do you use for these "facts" of yours? and 2) What are you smoking and where can I get some? Oh, and while I'm at it: KISS MY ASS!

[Want More Babies]

I think a lot of husbands are afraid of their wives. Wives wield a lot of power in relationships with their moods and ability to withhold sex.

Yes, they sure do, don't they Lori. Wives who have "neck pain" and can't attend their children's college graduations and weddings of children of close family friends come to mind.

[lilwriter85]

Lately, a lot of Lori's postings have been annoying and sanctimonious. Today's posting fits into those categories and it another posting of her saying how Ken is a great leader and she tells her male readers to be leaders and to always call their wives out if they are being grumpy or negative. I find it funny that Lori thought it was perfectly ok for her to be grumpy towards her dad during a period when she was ill. But somehow she can't be negative or grumpy in front of Ken.

lorialexander.blogspot.com/2012/08/husbands-need-to-confront.html

She also talks about how she was disrespectful towards Ken years ago and that he never confront her about it.

There aren't many men who read my blog but for those of you who do, I think you need to start speaking up and being the leader in the home. Ken so wishes he would have spoken up years ago and told me I was treating him with disrespect.

[lilwriter85]

Oh shoot I didn't notice the thread and I made another thread about Lori's recent posting. I find it funny that Lori thought it was ok for her to be grumpy towards her husband and daughter during her illness, but yet being grumpy with Ken is a big no.

I got annoyed with this quote by Lori.

Almost all marriages have dramatically changed as I have mentored the women. But I think the husbands can help by speaking truth to their wives.

Lori, the only people taking your shitty advice are women who fit into the same category as I know. I know several Christian women who are less conservative than you and they would find your advice to be shitty for different reasons.

[Koala]

Wait just a damn min. is Lori "teaching" men? Hasn't she mentioned multiple times that she directs things to women because god hasn't called her to correct the men?

1Timothy 2:12

But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.

Be in silence Lori. Really.

[Austin]

Similar topics merged.

Oh, and Lori, KMA, too.

[lilwriter85]

I decided to check and see if Lori has been getting a lot of comments on this blog posting and so far she only has four comments. I wonder if her readership has been declining lately. Maybe some of her fangirls have been disagreeing with her and Lori isn't allowing their comments to be published.

[Guest Anonymous]

If, at my age, my husband resorted to 'rebuking" or even "mentoring" me, he would now be my EX-husband.

[Kitty]

I can't help but think that these women who go on and on about submission like this are really passive-aggressive and bitchy in reality. They will act like the martyr and act like they're making a huge sacrifice by being doormats to their husbands. I doubt Lori practices what she preaches. Even if Ken is a dick to her, she's a dick right back. This is your marriage on Lori's bullshit.

[lilwriter85]

I can't help but think that these women who go on and on about submission like this are really passive-aggressive and bitchy in reality. They will act like the martyr and act like they're making a huge sacrifice by being doormats to their husbands. I doubt Lori practices what she preaches. Even if Ken is a dick to her, she's a dick right back. This is your marriage on Lori's bullshit.

I'm thinking the same things too. Lori has written about how she has treated her kids, parents, friends etc and she was dick with the, but she never realized it. She probably a dick to Ken too. I get the vibe that Lori actually controls a lot in that household. I don't think she is another Teri Maxwell.

[Beammeup]

Doesn't she contradict herself by giving advice to MEN. Men who should never listen to women.

It really bugs me that they really do expect a woman to have sex with a man when they don't want to have sex just because that man is their husband.