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I had no idea who Joss Whedon is, until some stuff popped up on twitter, outing him as a self proclaimed feminist who had a secret life of many, many affairs while producing Buffy the Vampire slayers and other shows. His ex-wife does the best job of clarifying what he was up to with a double life. It's a painful read. Joss gives himself a pass. Her life was completely destroyed. And people are still paying homage to his false persona as a feminist supporting man. Joss Whedon Is a ‘Hypocrite Preaching Feminist Ideals,’ Ex-Wife Kai Cole Says (Guest Blog) ”He used his relationship with me as a shield … so no one would question his relationships with other women or scrutinize his writing as anything other than feminist,“ she writes

Think it’s the first time I started a topic! Well, in a long time, anyway. So. Saddleback Church - which is Southern Baptist Convention - ordained 3 women pastors. A very right-wing, nominally Lutheran radio talk show I listen to very rarely, spent a large chunk of its time spittin’ nails at how this is all — —Saddleback trying to stay relevant & newsworthy —men-haters trying to destroy the patriarchy —against not only St. Paul’s, but Jesus’ teachings (they never cited any of Jesus’ teachings except for the fact that His recorded apostles were all men) —and lest we forget: men-haters out to destroy the patriarchy. NOT. ONCE. Not ONCE! Did they ever consider the possibility that the 3 women felt the call to pastoral ministry and followed that call, just as they themselves did! Oh, I didn’t mention: The two boo-hoo’ers were both called & ordained Lutheran pastors. Memo to self: Blood pressure stays plenty high without listening to that cretinous show. So: stop, already.

The new Iowa AG is at it again

Figured I’d start a thread for the purposes of enjoying misogynistic douche cannons getting what they deserve. to start (spoiler in case it’s nsfw) I think an incel’s weekend got ruined there.

Some good news out of Dubuque. This ain't the first time Dubuque's been called to the carpet, as it were. The police department had to pay a female Captain almost two million dollars last year for sexual harassment, discrimination, and retaliation. One of the big reasons the verdict wasn't much larger was that the jury said they didn't see where retaliation had occurred. I hope things change in Dubuque since they've had to pay out serious cash more than once. Not too long ago the Fire Chief announced his retirement. At the time I didn't think too much of that but now I wonder if he decided to jump before he got pushed out for allowing an environment to persist that led to this suit.

Ok, so I had a (long) conversation w/ someone I love this week about sexism within the church. About how my progressive church church is closing this location (it's a thing. I have to make some decisions once going to church becomes a possibility) and I'm not sure what the longer-term plan is. And part of that is that I feel profoundly betrayed by the protestant church as it exists as a cesspool of sexism. And part of that also means that fuck if my kid is going where the message says she's lesser than her male counterparts. So, long story short, I pointed asked how women in leadership are considered by his church--and he didn't know (to which my response was literally "why the fuck not?"). The conversation ended with "ok, as a joe Schmoe member of my church and a man, what could I do to make this seem more OK?" And ...I was blanker than I thought I should be. I said 1)find out what they say about it because there's no excuse not to know. And talk to authorities about how that's driving people like us away--and read a a book or 3 on the topic 2)attend a meeting. Amplify women's voices, shut up men who talk over us (and yes, I assured him that I could guarant-fucking-tee it was happening, he just hadn't noticed) and 3) find ways to promote women in leadership. Since this will be a conversation w/ follow up....since it was a genuine offer and I was caught flat footed...what would FJ suggest? If you had a well-respected, old, cis, straight, white dude wanting to be an ally against church sexism, what would y'all ask for? How could he not be a...I guess a paul?

You'd think over in Europe they'd be a bit more evolved but I guess not. If I had the scratch I'd offer to pay the fine myself.

More of that side splitting Republican humor

The craft beer industry has a misogyny problem it had goddamn well better address. I’m not going back to Indeed or buying its beer anytime soon. I don’t care what sort of apologies they offer either. Around here that sort of bullshit would never fly. All the owners I know wouldn’t put up with it.

No girls allowed, proud boys version

Thought I’d start a thread to cover misogyny in the legal system First some good news. He’s a fucking disgrace to the profession and needs to lose his judgeship.

I have been a part of two churches in my life: One was a toxic church which drove to seek fundamentalism in my teens as my parents insisted in being of part of it. The other was a perfectly decent and kind church that was pleasant for me, but this experience drove me away from church due to my family’s drama. At the former, my parent’s excuse was that they felt like they were “missionaries” to that church. I am starting to realize more and more that my parents’ determination to be the “true Christians” in their churches is a way for them to bond in an otherwise dysfunctional relationship. Of course, the fact that they were/kind of are still participating in such a strange mission is quite a dysfunctional act itself. Although it was hurtful at the time, it’s been fascinating in retrospect how they would twist bad behavior of my dad sometimes into attacks of satan through people in the church. While it was annoying my mom stayed with my father, I am grateful she would call him out on most of his shit. But sometimes, things went very awry... As silly as this sounds, I have a hard time sharing this story with my husband because he already has such strong opinions about my parents, but I remember my ex at the time was a lot more sympathetic to my family and he was astounded at this situation: My dad apparently was checking out a woman at church (no surprise). This took place at the good church, the one I went to as an adult with family. So my mother thought the only logical explanation for this particular situation was that... the woman is a witch. I know. The most embarrassing part? I believed it for a minute. Now, this turned into what is an almost 4 year long battle. I quickly realized what bullshit it was after the first couple of months, but I have since been neutral in appearance and intensely skeptical on the inside. I once even went to my church’s parking lot in the middle of the night one night to “anoint” a place the woman would usually stand with frankincense and a prayer so she would leave the church. Oddly enough she didn’t come to church for several months. Anyway, it’s all completely ludicrous and I am ashamed of my brief participation of what is basically an out-of-control coping mechanism for my mom. But things kept getting worse: my mom believing this gal put curses on people in the church, how she would not walk past the woman so she herself would not get cursed. One time, service was over and I was in the front of the sanctuary talking with the only other person my age in the entire congregation. My family have always been backseat people, and they were gathering their things there and talking with various folk as everyone filtered out. I noticed my parents come and sit towards the front, a little ways from where this girl and I were standing. They both looked annoyed, so I ended my conversation to see if they needed to talk with me (my brother and I drove separately from them most of the time so there was no need to leave together). No, the “witch” was standing by the exit speaking with the pastor, and they did not want to walk past her. I KNOW. Now, I do not care for this woman in the first place. She does come off as ingenuine and there is something that rubs me the wrong way, but I do not possibly think she is witch. What I disbelieve even more than that is the power she could have on folks in the church if she was. I quit attending regularly after an incident that deserves it’s own blog post took place, but I have gone periodically since. One time during one of these visits I was in line for food talking with a family friend and the gal was standing near me, so my mom comes up behind me and puts her hands on me and says “I’m protecting you”. No, you’re not mom. You’re protecting your false sense of security by demonizing this woman. And you wonder why I won’t go to church with you.

For a grand you can go see a bunch of douche cannons in action Fornicate these guys. Maybe if they didn’t act like such fornicating douche cannons women and people in general would like them.

Sweet Rufus! Apparently he's been taking her for years, so he subjected an underage girl to a medically unnecessary invasive examination to check if she's still a virgin. What kind of a father does that? What kind of a mother would let this happen to her daughter? And what kind of a gynecologist would agree to perform it? T.I. Goes to the Gynecologist With His 18-Year-Old Daughter to Make Sure "Her Hymen Is Still Intact"

God could EY be any dumber? If I was an employee at EY I'd damn well tell EY to go off and fornicate themselves with this training.

The utter callousness and cruelty makes my blood boil. And what are the odds those jailers are pro-lifers, do you think? [Warning: although blurred, the actual delivery is shown]

Here's a guy who needs to sell his company and head out to the prayer closet as soon as possible If I needed an architect there is no way in hell I'd use his company as long as he still owned it .

South Korean Reich winger makes an ass of himself. I don’t care how low their birth rate is. That’s none of his fornicating business. I wonder if he looks up to Sharpie McFornicateStick?

This happened in New York yesterday Here's the video of the guy

An example of how to blame women for everything. Greek Orthodox Priest: Gay People Are Caused by Pregnant Women Having Anal Sex Thankfully not everybody in his audience is taking him seriously.

Why is it, that if you call out men for being misogynistic, racist, ableist, or any other kind of problematic, violent, sexually predatory behavior, or even just generally being an asshole, why is it suddenly about the guy being called out? Like, I could politely ask someone to exhibit common decency, but suddenly, I'm being just, so fucking mean. And I'm like, I'm sorry, I wasn't raising my voice, cussing, or anything, and you're acting like I'm suddenly doing SO MUCH for telling you that taking advantage of girls (often to the point of assault/rape), telling racist jokes, disrespecting women in ways you don't men, being ableist about women who claim you're problematic because they have a mental illness/are on the autism spectrum/whatever, being fatphobic/body shaming, etc etc etc is a shit thing to do and maybe you shouldn't. If you are being called out, and you think it's TOO MUCH and it's coming from a woman, especially a woman at one or more other intersections of oppression (ie a queer, black, disabled, poor,whatever woman) and or who doesn't otherwise conform to societal expectations of femininity (keeping sweet, wearing makeup, pretending to be stupid, looking "pretty") then maybe you should question whether you are really so egalitarian as you think you are. I have seen this way too much, men who will be like "I'm a feminist/ally" or some other kind of thing, and then engage in misogynistic, (in the case of a few of my peers, rapey/assaulty behavior) or racist, or some other kind of fucked up behavior then get super butthurt about being called out for it... I'm not even super radical feminist- I don't engage in political lesbianism, and I still have a lot of male friends that I adore, etc, and I'm not about the "the government is inherently patriarchal" shit...I just voted for Hillary Clinton for christ's sake. But I don't think it's my job to coddle men through being fucked up, especially if they show no real desire to change, or want to blame it on women, and quite frankly, I don't have the time or mental health to do that. I know there's a lot of people that are okay with doing that, great. But it's not up to me, and I'm done arguing with misogynists. First of all, I feel like I'm well within my rights to cuss someone out if they're being rapey and assaulty, full stop. But even with lesser behavior, which I politely(most of the time) call out why am I being rude? No, you're being RUDE for being problematic! Don't try to deflect the blame! And this is not to say, that ShepherdontheRock is never wrong, or ShepherdontheRock doesn't have priveleges she needs to check...shit, I could write an entire 10-page or longer essay on priveleges I have that I need to be checking, and even post it up on here, if you care to read it. I mean, I definitely don't have a problem talking about that. But I'm not going to be, when calling someone out, "well I'm sometimes wrong" because that's besides the point. The point is YOUR fucked up behavior. I'm not having something be derailed by deflecting blame. And, I am always open to having conversations with men about how to be a better ally/less fucked up, and we can even have a conversation about all our priveleges...but they don't want to talk. So what's the point about being nice to some of these men when they're just misogynistic af? I'm not going to do the whole respectable, ladylike bullshit when they can't even be decent human beings. So, no not being nice to misogynists ANY more.