Summary provided by: Sister Mozz
Young Ladies Christian Fellowship (YLCF.org, renamed in 2013 to Kindred Grace) was a website started in 1998 by Gretchen Glaser. Originally an off-shoot of a print newsletter, it eventually moved completely online and became one of the first and most well-known sites dedicated to Christian young ladies. It focused on the innocence and purity of girlhood and was the home of what they titled THE Index of Courtship Stories (http://web.archive.org/web/200607102122 ... p-stories/).
Early in the 2000's, Gretchen's YLCF Team Members grew to include her best friend Natalie Nyquist. The girls addressed each other as "sissy" and pictures of their occasional in-person meetings were highlighted all over the site. Natalie wrote and published "Quest for the High Places: Encouragement for the Waiting Heart" (http://web.archive.org/web/200607102122 ... tthoughts/) in 2005.
Gretchen was married in 2006 to Merritt Acheson, and their wedding was The Event for YLCF that year (http://web.archive.org/web/201205220316 ... n-wedding/)! Gretchen handed over the reigns of YLCF to Natalie, and she began her own blog (The Little Pink House gretchenlouise.com/little-pink-house/, now GretchenLouise.com). At the time of this writing Gretchen has three children and writes on glorious topics such as laundry, rhapsodizing on the joys of wife- and motherhood, while dropping hints that life may not be quite as glorious as she paints it to be.
The Event for YLCF in 2007 was Natalie's marriage to Rick Klein (http://web.archive.org/web/200712242156 ... /klein.htm). Their wedding was in October (http://web.archive.org/web/200710071258 ... .ylcf.org/). Natalie's father officiated their wedding and said that giving his only daughter in marriage was akin to "handing a Stradivarius to a gorilla". Rick seems to have been more of a gorilla than ever imagined, as the couple were separated by January and divorced a few months later.
Natalie spiraled after the divorce. Gretchen took back over at YLCF, commenting on the failure of Natalie's marriage by saying she believed that one day Natalie would find someone else, and she looked forward to dancing at their wedding. Natalie almost completely dropped offline, dealing with depression from the shattering of her much-dreamed-of marriage, and it has been hinted that she dealt with a mental illness even beyond depression during this time.
In late 2008 or early 2009, Natalie met James Ference (jamesferenceisaliar.blogspot.com/) at their church. After romancing her in whirlwind fashion, and not bothering to tell her he was still married to Wife #3, they made vows to each other and were "married" in April 2009, without telling any of Natalie's family or abundance of friends. Once his divorce was final from Wife #3 that summer, James and Natalie procured their marriage license in July.
Almost without explanation, in April 2009 most of Natalie's writings for YLCF had been scrubbed off the site. In May Natalie posted a statement in response (a link to which can be seen in the comments of this post: everlypleasant.com/2009/05/24/lost-or-just-misplaced/). Questioners have wondered how much about James Ference Gretchen knew to have pulled the plug so quickly, or if their scrubbing of Natalie had to do with the fact that Natalie married James without a courtship and without permission or even knowledge of her family. All ties between Gretchen and Natalie seem to have been severed at the time of Natalie's second marriage.
Natalie and James started their own blog at pursuethebeauty.com, which Natalie still maintains. FreeJinger caught wind that things were fishy with their marriage as early as April 2010 (http://freejinger.yuku.com/topic/1589/L ... yle?page=1). Natalie turned a blind eye to anyone who contacted her about what was being posted online about James. The couple welcomed a son in December 2010. In January 2011 Natalie finally had enough suspicions to check out what people were saying, and confronted James about what she read online. They separated that month and divorced later that year through publication, as scumbag James was nowhere to be located.
Natalie came to FreeJinger to answer questions in this long thread: http://freejinger.yuku.com/reply/137292 ... ip-stories. She now occasionally posts on the raptured FJ as well.
After leaving James, Natalie moved to Chicago with her infant son to be near her parents. Her father is currently president of Moody Bible Institute (moody.edu/edu_MainPage.aspx?id=956). She has since converted to Orthodoxy, is taking classes to begin a career, and has taken a pen name under which she plans to eventually publish books.
Other YLCF Team Members back in the Natalie years were Ashleigh Baker (ashleighbaker.net/), who has since had her own world shaken and is unsure about her faith. In one of the FreeJinger threads Ashleigh makes an unwise appearance, accusing Natalie's mental illnesses of skewing her view. Also Lanier Ivester (laniersbooks.com/), Natalie's former "mentor," a childless wife who runs a small farm in her suburban Georgia home. Lanier's writing is wordy but nearly unreadable with its vagueness.
Since Feb. 2013 there have been some significant updates in Natalie's life:
Natalie has left the Orthodox church (http://www.prodigalmagazine.com/i-dont-like-church/). The type of church she currently attends, if she attends anywhere, is unknown.
In April 2013 Natalie revealed that she suffers from both retrograde and anterograde amnesia (http://pursuethebeauty.com/2013/04/21/amnesia-life/).
She graduated with a degree from the University of Chicago and now works as a proofreader for Moody Publishers. Her father is still president of Moody Bible Institute.
While one can no longer find any traces online of the pen name (Natalie Jacobs) she had chosen under which to pursue writing, except for archived snark discussions about it, Natalie is currently active in the process or writing and pitching her book to publishers under her real name. Presumably the book will be titled "Pursue the Beauty," the same as her website, and will focus on young Christian women overcoming life difficulties.
In April 2014 Natalie was published in HuffPo in an article called What It's Like To Be A Twice-Divorced Mom at 28 (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/04/3 ... ir=Divorce). Free Jinger readers felt the article was inherently dishonest because it failed to mention how courtship and the purity culture played a major part in both of her marriages (viewtopic.php?f=8&t=21723&hilit=natalie).
Natalie keeps very quiet on the subject of her son (3.5 years old as of this update) and does not publish pictures of him online, which is probably smart considering who is father is.
Speaking of James Ference, he appears to still be living with Wife #5, whom he "married" in a fake ceremony on Oct. 31, 2011 (http://jamesferenceisaliar.blogspot.com ... hhhhh.html), and then legally married in June 2013 (http://jamesferenceisaliar.blogspot.com ... up-we.html). The two seem to have had a son around the same time as their legal marriage (viewtopic.php?f=134&t=19607).
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1 hour ago, viii said:
Renaming the show 20 kids and counting after such a loss would have been super tacky.
When they mention 20 kids, I’m sure they are meaning Jubilee.
Hmm. Given the “celebrating” part and the fact that he will be at the celebration, I think they’re talking about Tyler.
3 hours ago, Curious said:
I will preface this by saying music is not really my thing. I have a few favorites, but I mostly like 80s stuff because that's when I grew up.
I have watched/listened to several of Michael's songs and like them. Not the words necessarily, but how they flow, the beat, etc. <goes off to hide>
In this particular one, I think he looks creepy due to a combination of the cinematography (if you can call it that) and that he looks like he hasn't slept in a month of Sundays. That is some serious luggage under his eyes. I've seen zombies that look better
I absolutely love my 80’s music and some 90’s music. The best childhood was one from those decades 🙂 (arguably) 🙂
I will admit the song “ When I’m In The World” is a good song. It’s catchy, positive, and he sounds upbeat and energetic.
3 hours ago, Georgiana said:
That courtship story is really....something, if you've never read it. This is one of my favorite parts, where she likens her road to courtship with David to Jesus' journey to his crucifixion because she didn't feel anything. And then says love/marriage is basically death. Her marriage to David is, I suppose, her cross then.
Can you link to the whole thing please?
I just have to say this. Carlin is getting married tomorrow while I have to attend a dog carnival fundraiser for my church. I know I shouldn't be jealous, but she's younger than me!
The fundraiser is for helping young girls in the Philippines attend school. The problem is the money spent on the recent missions trip put the fund 5K in the hole. I'm not very happy about that. If people don't have the money to go, they shouldn't go period.
2 hours ago, tabitha2 said:
Presumably Because she is devout and believes without a doubt God cleansed him of his sins and sinful perversions. But I might add we don’t know the family Dynamic and safeguarding in that house and that’s not stuff we Have a right to know anyway. That information is very private and sensitive even for the Duggars who overshare with the public.
I saw it more like ( and Anna said she almost turned a bad situation into a disaster or something similar) Anna taking her vow to God to stay married very seriously, no matter what. She was hurt and angry but had to suppress her true feelings and desires to leave because of her vows before God. The woman went through hell and didn't even get to live solo with her children during that very difficult time. I can only imagine the shit JB & M said to her while she lived under her in-laws roof while that no good husband of hers was away at Jesus's Camp for Wayward Husbands. I have no way to know her inner thoughts but, she did express some on TV. She was rightfully hurt and angry but ultimately saw the matter as something between God and herself. Idk if she really feels like Jesus gave Josh the thumbs up but she did put the situation on herself and her sacred vows before God and I think that drives her forward. She loves her kids and wants her family intact no matter what, ultimately. Divorce in her world is the worst possible outcome. She'd be " one of those working moms" , she had said such. It's all really sad and quite frankly, scary to me. I do feel for her but, her beliefs are shit and she has zero problems judging others. I don't think Jesus wants any part of this mess.
ETA: we actually do know some dynamics and safeguards. They locked the girls in their rooms at night, had them wear leggings under all dresses and no hide and seek between brother and sister, no girls sitting on laps of male family members besides dad. Josh got his head shaved and sent to Jesus Jail, which translated to building a house or some shit. So, the brothers got treated like potential molesters and the girls were not free to play with them.Edited by Beermeet