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  1. My best friend died nine years ago of breast cancer. She was a devout born-again Christian who finally realized it was not necessary to save me to be my friend. One night she sat in my car after we had seen a movie together and told me how scared she was. She was a nurse and knew that she only had months to live. I was stunned at the moment and said that I had always envied her in a way because in her faith she believed that Jesus was literally sitting beside her through bad times. She admitted that night that she didn't feel his presence at the moment, and she was as frightened as any normal human about dying. She was only 52 and had a lived a lifetime of real challenges. Cancer was her final challenge. I miss her so much still and am grateful that we found a way to communicate despite our huge religious differences. That's because she was unusually open-minded, and that's the difference between her kind of evangelism and the narrow-minded types we discuss here. She is the only reason that I give others of her belief system a chance. As soon as they expose the ugliness and hypocrisy of a Jill or a Bro Gary or a Tom Mills I quit.
  2. Eternalbluepearl

    Sierra 4: She speaks more Spanish than the Vuolos and Dillards

    "Momma Girl." I cringe everytime.
  3. I’m glad you were there for your sister, too. When I went through breast cancer in 2017, every person I came in contact with remarked on my resilience and upbeat attitude. They obviously didn’t know about my middle of the night sobbing sessions sitting on the toilet with a towel jammed in my mouth to muffle the sound. No one knows how they’re going to react until they go through something that scary. Right or wrong, I really felt I had to keep it together for my husband and my (then) 86-year old mom. I didn’t find out until a year later that my husband did his crying in the shower. We worked so hard at being strong for each other. But, as Nietzsche said: That which does not kill us makes us stronger. Six months later we were in Hawaii when they had the incoming missile emergency alert. We went through about 15 minutes thinking that we’d be dead any minute. And all I could think was “I went through breast cancer just to die THIS way?” I was way more pissed than terrorized. Cancer had made me so much stronger.
  4. thoughtful

    Bro Gary Hawkins 14: Ween, glorious WEEN!

    Well, let's see what traits you and Becky have in common: I don't see much crossover there. Even if you share some distant relatives with Becky, I don't think you have to worry about it.
  5. Isn't it disingenuous to act as if that term has no negative connotations to it? How many of you would refer to a coworker as a "spinster" in front of HR? (Also, are Mary and Anna "older women"?) Let's be real, people aren't using it in the literal sense any more than people saying someone is gay mean to suggest that person is happy. It's also a nickname that focuses solely on their married status as if that's the definitive aspect of their lives. If some male fundie called Taylor Swift a spinster, we'd be either laughing at his ridiculousness or losing our shit over his sexism.
  6. marmalade

    Seewalds 43: Pants may Have Been Worn Or Not

    I guess Jessa wanted some attention. That and she needs to be relevant with the start of a new season coming up next week.
  7. Interesting article about research into what ads are likely to work/not work to sway those swing voters. https://www.politico.com/news/2020/07/02/democrats-ads-trump-341903
  8. What did the bandleader name his daughters? Anna one, Anna two, Anna three! I’ll see myself out.
  9. allthegoodnamesrgone

    Seewalds 43: Pants may Have Been Worn Or Not

    That isn't speculation, it is a fact that women's fertility decreases over the age of 30 and decreases every year they age. After the age of 35 it drops even further, that is why it is called "advanced maternal age". They met when Meghan was 34 about to turn 35, see where I'm going, if they took 4 or 5 years to get Meghan acclimated, like they did Sophie, then Kate, she would have been almost 40 when they married. Conceiving after 40 is harder (not impossible or even improbable, just harder) and comes with greater risk to mom & baby. So yes, her waining fertility at the young age of 35, could have been a factor. Just because we don't think 35 is old anymore doesn't change how our reproductive systems work. A good synopsis I found on line. Women age 35 to 39 had a slightly less than 30% chance of getting pregnant. ... About 66% of women conceive within a year who start trying at age 35. After four years, 84% eventually get pregnant and have a baby. Only 44% of women age 40 conceive within a year of trying and go on to give birth. And another. A woman's peak reproductive years are between the late teens and late 20s. By age 30 years, fertility (the ability to get pregnant) starts to decline. This decline becomes more rapid once you reach your mid 30s. By age 45 years, fertility has declined so much that getting pregnant naturally is unlikely for most women. I'm not being ageist, I'm not shaming her I'm not doing anything other than stating the facts that at the age of 35 her fertile years are going very quickly. It is simple biology, Harry stated many times in interviews hat he wanted to be a father, so he obviously would marry a women who wanted children. This isn't rocket science. Yes, it sucks that a woman's fertility ends at a time we now deem rather young, but we can't (yet) do much about nature.
  10. Idlewild

    Jana 10: Advertising Boredom on a Biblical Level

    She doesn’t really explain what she does though - just ‘whatever comes into her path’. It does make it sound like she is basically a mother’s help and is allowed to go on a few trips with her friend as a reward. Apart from doing some home decor projects (which most people do whether they’re married or not) she doesn’t give the impression of doing very much.
  11. CarrotCake

    Seewalds 43: Pants may Have Been Worn Or Not

    Or maybe she got a new couch and wants to keep it clean.
  12. Smoochie

    Seewalds 43: Pants may Have Been Worn Or Not

    LOL guess who's talking adoption in US magazine... https://www.usmagazine.com/celebrity-moms/news/jessa-duggar-ben-seewald-are-considering-adoption-for-4th-child/
  13. It is cringeworthy! If they would sometimes say it as a joke, whatever. It’s not my sense of humor, but I wouldn’t care. But Sierra constantly refers to herself as “momma girl” and now Mark has become daddy boy. That’s some infantilizing and weird shit right there. ETA: And the wording choices seem to be an indication for the odd dynamics they have in their family. The over-emotional, the breakdowns, feeling overwhelmed... it somehow fits into this picture, although I couldn’t exactly pinpoint why. I just feel it fits somehow.
  14. JermajestyDuggar

    M is for Mama 7: Failing at Coronavirus

    By family closet, she means her family. Not her. Her closet is her bedroom sized dressing room with expensive wallpaper, some places to sit, and gaudy mirrors. Her closet is the size of my bedroom.
  15. Ozlsn

    Bro Gary Hawkins 14: Ween, glorious WEEN!

    Side note - I was listening to the most recent "Oh no! Ross and Carrie" podcast, which is listener stories, and one started off with "I was the pasture's son.." and I went "that's not just a Garyism?!" #mindblown.
  16. Everything is twisted with them. I was likewise thrilled when my 6yo was able to come downstairs, get her and her brother’s breakfast (within reason - I set it up the night before), and occupied themselves for a minute. But my kid isn’t a pseudo-mom, and I don’t expect her to watch her brother while I continue to have babies. Her comment takes on an entirely different meaning because we know the history behind it with her own upbringing.
  17. Nothing like celebrating the fact that your child is ready to be a sister mom Please please please be done with kids.
  18. What sticks in my craw the most is that the Republicans are aware that he's a moron but they can't admit it. They needed him to stay in office so they could gut the government, shift money, place conservative judges, and generally screw up our country. It's my deepest wish that they are smeared for all time in future history books. They knew what he was and yet they made sure that he stayed in office. Mitch McConnell can roast in hell for all eternity for this.
  19. Some people are brainwashed to an extreme that cannot break free no matter what. Some are scared, mistreated and abused to the point that keep submissive for years or decades after the abuse stops. And definitely, mental abuse can be more powerful than physical one. Not saying it's Sarah's case! But some people just cannot choose and change their lives, as a blind person cannot choose to see. Can Sarah change her life? It's impossible to know if she can or if she wants to. She may be very comfortable in her current life. Or maybe she would like a change but feel that she's not strong enough to do it. Or a mix of both. I don't feel pity for her. Her life looks OK to me. Dull and a bit depressive... but many people have worse lives.
  20. Idlewild

    Seewalds 43: Pants may Have Been Worn Or Not

    There are things I’d be sort of interested to know ( if I was at a very loose end)- what was Ben studying? is teaching the Duggar kids a short term thing or does he intend to continue ? who decides on the curriculum? how do they see see themselves in the long term? But instead we get the usual Jessa ‘I’m just a messy mom’, the annual adoption story and a complete mystery about what Ben does.
  21. Smoochie

    Jana 10: Advertising Boredom on a Biblical Level

    Article of Jana in US Magazine, 'Making the most of her single life'
  22. Perrierwithlemon

    Jinjer 53: Telework, Teleschool, or Telenothing?

    Leaving this here because Jeremy has a bust of George Whitefield on their piano (thanks to @EmmaWoodhouse and @donnal for the identification back on pages 2-3 of this thread).
  23. Ozlsn

    Epstein Barr

    Well I have to admit that was my first thought too.
  24. Well if his aim was to raise white supremacist fascists worshipping white supremacist "Jesus" I'd have to agree. Mind you given she's admitted to sex outside marriage ("marriage before God," my arse) even by his own godawful standards it didn't work totally.
  25. I just saw that in Instagram and thought, congrats Alyssa, you’ve raised a sister mom. Good work. free allie
  26. 3 points
    The weekend is here!
  27. Of course! The fundies will say exactly that. The thing is if you follow their advice you will likely have a lifetime marriage. That means not leaving your spouse despite anything they do (child abuse, infidelity, gambling, etc, etc). I can guarantee you a very lenghty marriage if you put up with anything your spouse does. The goal is not happiness, not raising up happy children together, not having someone that is in love with you, etc etc. The goal is a forever marriage. I would prefer happiness, love and a happy family, but, you know... Not everybody likes the same!
  28. Audrey2

    Political ads

    This just made me cry. It's so nice to see a candidate who is not afraid of children and doesn't make them cry, like Trump the scary clown.
  29. They need to stop making a briefing book and turn it into a graphic novel. That might even be too much since it would be actual words in it. And between Trump and the virus, I think I'm living in sarcasm font now!
  30. Oh, yeah - look at that. Silly me, I thought was she was pretending to fly, like Superman. But, now that you point it out, it sure does have that "sieg heil" look about it, doesn't it?
  31. SassyPants

    Coronavirus 3

    My nephew is a student at ASU. His roommate just tested +. My nephew is at risk d/t 2 Respiratory system medical conditions. Since it’s hard to get tested in AZ, I think he’s headed back home to No. CA-
  32. Trump’s Mount Rushmore welcoming committee will include tribal protesters https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/us/trump-s-mount-rushmore-welcoming-committee-will-include-tribal-protesters/ar-BB16gaG3?ocid=spartan-dhp-feeds The slap in the face to the native Americans, the giant FU to taxpayers who get to spend more on his nonsense when people are hurting, the danger risking fires over this...I don't understand any of it. I just pray the protestors stay safe and there are no fires.
  33. That thread title did bother me. But I was speaking to your use of it right now. Of course you are mocking them. None of your other nicknames refer to neutral attributes ("Amish Anna," "Scary Mary"). So it's clear you think "Spinster" is something to be embarrased of. I wish we could just stop with the Maxwell nicknames altogether. They aren't particularly witty or trenchant, and they just come off as mean-spirited most of the time. But then why not give Steve the disparaging nickname like "Cockblocking Steve" or something? (But as I said above, I'd prefer to just dispense with the nicknames altogether.) If it's a case of the daughters being the victims of their controlling father, why are they the ones saddled with a disparaging nickname? If it's their choice, why are we making fun of women for being unmarried? It also bothers me to group three daughters together as a homogeneous borg. No one referred to the unmarried sons collectively this way. Just my two cents. It looks like I'm in the minority here.
  34. LilMissMetaphor

    M is for Mama 7: Failing at Coronavirus

    I have a naturally fat ass, which pads my butt when I sit down. Praise hands.
  35. If it is the beginning of a massive crack, we'll never hear about it, unfortunately. Fundies are not much given to candor or self reflection. Steve will never admit to error in his methods. Jesse and Anna3 will simply fade from view as have Joseph and Elissa. I think the newlyweds are still very much in the fundie world if they are attending Countryside Baptist Church. I'd bet money that Jesse got to know more people while John courted Chelsy--lots of young people who were lively (as much as fundies can be, lol) and seemingly having a good time together. He may have started silently questioning Steve's isolating behavior. Maybe his new in-laws are fundie but less weird about friendships. At any rate, Jesse has taken a few steps out of the borg and that is good.
  36. Michael’s convinced himself his kids are proof that his micromanaged child abuse works. I agree - Shoshanna making $418,000 off the backs of other people is proof that Michael doesn’t give a shit about ethics or morality at all and is proud that his kids are living that way, too. I need to step away. I’m spending way too much energy on this. If anyone needs any more proof (in addition to the murdered children) of how evil the Pearls are, add this to that list.
  37. tabitha2

    Seewalds 43: Pants may Have Been Worn Or Not

    Huh.here I thought It was just biological fact that Most every females fertility will wane as she ages.
  38. I would just like to take a second to thank all the awesome people on these threads who have kept me sane (ish) through all of this by sharing memes and making me laugh.
  39. neuroticcat

    Counting On Season 8/9/10 4: Babies, Babies, Babies

    I wonder if COVID becomes the death of reality tv. I mean if people can fi themselves and do talking head webcam — why have film crews? Why not YouTube it all?
  40. I expect bragging about cutting the Social Security deficit if enough older people die of COVID. I think they need to keep the ads short and get to the point immediately. At least some of the people they're trying to reason with aren't wearing masks because they heard the whole thing is a hoax.
  41. I am not sure if a rehoming would be warranted or not , or even possible . However , based in large part upon my observation , mentioned in this post here , the adoption of black children by certain conservative evangelicals is problematic .
  42. kpmom

    "Karens"

    This is not defending "Karen" behavior in the least, but I feel more and more that this "Karen" stuff has at least some misogyny thrown in. Case in point; I just read a magazine article online by a male author regarding the couple who came out of their mansion to point guns at peaceful protesters in their neighborhood. That couple is awful and deserved to be called out, but the author spent about 85% of the article talking about the female partner, and other "Karens". What he wrote about the male partner almost felt like an afterthought. Something along the lines of, oh and her husband is awful too. In case you've forgotten, both partners held a weapon and both pointed their weapons toward the protesters. The woman's weapon was a pistol (bad enough), but the guy's was a freakin' automatic weapon! He mentioned the guy's polo shirt, but spent more time talking about the woman's stripped shirt and her capri pants (which he said are required apparel of Karens everywhere). I get the feeling from the gist of these articles and memes is that most racist people are white, hysterical, screaming, usually middle aged, females. We all know that's hardly the full reality. It's not even the full reality in this particular instance.
  43. WiseGirl

    Epstein Barr

    Nope. I'm sure 45 will claim it's a hoax. On the speculation bus is this why Barr was so interested in undrrmining NY prosecutors?
  44. Maybe. But they chose to ignore all expert advice and intentionally got pregnant far too quickly after adopting Huxley. I personally think they are too self-centered to have kept him in the home permanently. He might have stayed longer, they clearly had little patience for him from the beginning.
  45. Maybe the ATI girl was using the wrong word when describing JB. If this story is true, I could see other fundies thinking the Duggars were too worldly as opposed to liberal. I’ve always thought JB worshipped at the altar of JB and his pocketbook more so than any divine creator. I would think any truly devout worshipper could spot a fraud, but then again Evangelicals for Trump, nuff said.
  46. allthegoodnamesrgone

    Jinjer 53: Telework, Teleschool, or Telenothing?

    You know it is bad when you are too fake for LA.


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