April 20-26, 2013 ~ #12 ~ Sincerity Winner
Entry posted by Curious
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Congratulations Jezebel
Jezebel's post nominated by Malice Alice and bethella:
http://www.freejinger.org/forums/viewtopic.php?f=8&p=539642#p539642
I keep coming over here for more of stillgayGreg's and Dede's antics, and skim over other posts. But boy, this girl's a real piece of work.
From her last post on the Close Encounters thread:
Over the past couple months, I've been healing over a dispute I had with a fundie girl. We met through blogging and I was raised as a VF lovin', SAHD type of thing. I started rejecting that though in the later part of my high school years and my family studied on the fundie junk and stupidity that we had allowed in our home.
We became pretty close, calling each other besties, texting, Skyping often, etc. We met in person a couple times. It went on for a couple years. I wasn't exactly honest about some of the things I said about myself. When it came out, I apologized, but I got silence
.In other words, here she was, thinking that you were such a great friend--and you were lying to her the entire time.
"I wasn't exactly honest about some of the things I said about myself" is just a weaselly way of saying, "I lied to her." Period.
You led her to believe you were someone you were not. You carried on the friendship under false pretenses. And she only learned the truth "when it came out"--in other words, you didn't voluntarily confess the lies, apologize, and beg her forgiveness. You didn't repent on your own; you just kept lying until you got caught.
By using a weasel-phrase instead of plainly stating the truth--that you lied to her--you're trying to minimize your wrongdoing. And by starting in right off the bat by saying that this dispute is something
you've "been healing over," and then going on to tell a story of how mean, spiteful, unfair and irrational this girl is toward
you?
 Oh, please.
I told them I was sorry and asked for forgiveness. I'm still completely ignored today. I've tried emailing just to keep up and whatever, and apparently, I'm a polluting influence.
Here's a clue: she doesn't owe you forgiveness just because you want it. You lied to her. If she's so hurt by your dishonesty and betrayal that she chooses to ignore you, that is her right. And if she decides that a known liar is a "polluting influence," and should be cut out of her life, I'd say that's a reasonable choice.
I've tried to keep emailing her and keeping in touch, but apparently since I stepped on her toes and hurt her, I'm second pickings.
You lied to her
. Â You're not second pickings; you're a self-justifying asshole who thinks she's still entitled to friendship with the very person she has hurt.
Plus, I liked her brother at the time and finding that out through it all probably made them feel like I was defrauding. 
Keep making excuses if it helps you feel better, but the fact remains--
you lied to her
.
[snipped a bunch of teen-girl gossipy shit nobody cares about. Also, the girl's blog link. Because if she won't accept your lying self back, you can at least set the Free Jinger snark brigade loose on her, right?]
She has taken the past 6 months to go hemming and hawing on there and pinterest about "when people hurt me, I can love them" and all that. When you see "some people" on there it's more likely me she's talking about- I know she doesn't get out much at all and nobody in her area would hurt her, honestly.
It's a good thing nobody in her area would hurt her. But you are just unable to grasp how much
you
 hurt her. I mean, I'm flabbergasted at how callous and self-absorbed, and how utterly lacking in remorse or compassion, you are.
When i tried to enter a giveaway of some really cool stuff she was handing out, she deleted my entries.
YOU LIED TO HER. YOU BETRAYED THE FRIENDSHIP SHE THOUGHT YOU HAD. YOU BROKE HER HEART. And you're going to try to get free "cool stuff" she's giving away? Can you even begin to get this through your head, or are you that much of an empathy-deficient, self-serving narcissist?
So I told my pinterest following in the pin about the giveaway she didn't let me enter. Truth. Cold, hard, truth.
Funny how you didn't also tell the cold, hard truth about the fact that you lied to her about yourself.
Then she started pinning about slander and libel! She acts like I don't exist. Shuns. So I let the truth out about how she treats me.
But the truth about you is so much
worse. You're a liar. Not only that, you're a liar who feels she should be allowed to get away with it in exchange for what was, no doubt, a handful of lame excuses and a non-apology. You honestly believe the person you hurt owes
you
 something.
You're a pretty fucking awful human being, in other words. I'd shun you, too.
You can talk about the Bible, and salvation, and faith, and everything else that lets you sound like a "good Christian," but you've shown a pretty appalling lack of empathy, understanding, and compassion when it comes to your fellow human beings. You've shown yourself to be mean, petty, self-centered, and rude. You may call yourself a Christian, but you're not even remotely Christlike. And I don't think this is simply because you're 19 and immature--I've known plenty of teenagers and young adults who were genuinely big-hearted, kind, loving people.
She is all about "moving on" and "letting go" but she still stalks my online stuff ALL THE TIME.
And yet you're still stalking her online stuff despite the fact she wants nothing to do with you. Pot, kettle, black.
And you obviously have wanted her back as a friend (because I suspect you don't have any other real friends, given your personality). So you've kept stalking her through emails that went unanswered, and entering giveaways on her Pinterest account despite the fact she didn't want anything more to do with you. And after all your failed attempts to get her to give you what you want, you're here, telling us about how
she can't let go and how
she
 engages in passive-aggressive shit-talking about
you?
 And telling us you're not really a fundie, but she is, so here's her blog link?
She is well rid of your creepy, heartless, narcissistic self, IMHO.
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