I’m hoping to once again get some perspective and maybe a little advice about university. (I ask too much of you guys!) I’m freaking out at life and I feel overwhelmed. 😓
- I was told at this university I’d have so many options for classes. Over time, I have learned I will never be able to take classes I want. In fact, I have a pretty damn narrow and limited selection. I feel like I was bamboozled, which you kind of expect schools to do but I thought a public state university would be less so.
- I asked specifically if my required language classes would be available here. I was told yes, absolutely, 100%. I am now being told they never have and they never will. I need to either take them from another university online ($$$$$) or take them at my local community college ($$$$) AND they will NOT credit me residency credits. I will graduate later than I thought and this might disrupt my tuition plan.
- I’ve encountered the rudest professor in my life by far and it worries me because they teach multiple major classes. She has talked to other older, online students who have been working in their industry for decades that their opinions don’t matter because she has a PhD and they don’t. Her writing is so atrocious that several times us students have had to meet virtually to try to determine what she was trying to convey in emails, assignments, and even exams. Her feedback on assignments would simply be “no” or “did not follow directions”, and when asked for clarification, she would simply say “it was wrong.”
- A possible relocation is in the works that would take my future husband halfway across the country for his career, and the biggest reason I wouldn’t be able to join him would be to keep going to this school (online but in the state!) and have my in-state tuition. If I do join him, the tuition would skyrocket. We are still deciding what to do. This also requires me to put a pause on finding the above-mentioned language classes because I’m not 100% certain where I’m going to be living 3 months from now.
- Future husband is transitioning into a new industry. I don’t want to give too much away but this change with my degree program puts us in professional enemy territory. I already feel weird about it. There will inevitably be comments made and questions asked about how we navigate morally when we have such opposite (and completely contrary) careers. I think it would be stressful at home. I don’t want to deal with this. And to be completely fair, I’m not a stickler for my degree program. I chose it because it sounded somewhat interesting, and was convenient and cheap. Is it worth this?
Should I just transfer schools and start a new program?
I’m 30 years old!!!! It took me 3 years to get my A.A. degree, I was on track to graduate at 31, now it’s pushed back to 32, and if I transfer, it will most likely be pushed back even more. Especially because I probably won’t be full-time anymore, I’d go back to my original plan of doing school part-time and working part-time. It feels like life keeps slapping me down to the ground and telling me I’ll never get a college degree, I’ll never get a career before I’m an old lady with a walker. This is the cheapest school option if I stay in-state, but is it worth living separately as a newlywed? On the other hand, graduating with very little debt is great.
My future husband makes more than enough for us to survive and thrive off his one income. I’m super grateful for that and I understand how much of a privilege this is. But being raised in conservative Christianity surrounded by fundies (some talked about here!), I feel like it’s some sort of sick cosmic joke that I’m in this position. My dreams in life are to be smart, educated, and have a career. Why is this so damn hard for me?!? (Oh I know….SOTDRT set me back a nice couple of years. 🙄)
Oh, and I’m planning a wedding in addition to being a full-time student and possible relocation, with a future husband who most likely will also be spending months at a time out of the country for work. SO FUN YOU GUYS.
Am I freaking out over nothing or are these legitimate concerns? Should I just stick my nose to the grinder and get this degree program done no matter what? Should I transfer? I don’t know what to do!!!!