3 minutes ago, zimona said:
She simply cannot afford to fall apart right now, and stepping out of the cult overnight would most likely result in some sort of emotional explosion and blow up.
It's such a mess and there simply is no easy way out.
That is what i think. Fwiw, in order to see my siblings i had to be 'nice' to my rapist. As he continued to live at home and my Mother never even acknowledge the abuse, she simply could not. Her whole life was centered around this man and her inability to see the damage that he did to her children from her first marriage was washed away in booze and denial. The day of her funeral was the most liberating day in my life. My brother and I left the house and simply told him to go to hell. I have been the easiest and happiest since.
But i stayed away from home for long periods of time - years to be honest - because i could have very easily taken a knife to that guy in a manner that would have made the inventor of a thousand cuts blush with embarrassment. But i always knew deep down, that doing that would hurt me more then him.
And unless Anna understands that she need not keep sweet, that she can leave, that she will not be abandoned, that her god will still keep her in his favor, she will bottle it all up and pretend it did not happen. Just like my Mum. Who had her first beer of the day at 10 Am in the morning. I wonder what Anna does to prevent her from thinking. Self flagellation? I don't think that she has anyone right now there that actually loves her, and that would stage an intervention. I hope that someone will show up and tell her to pull her head out of her behind, and understand the damage she is doing to her kids and herself. Someone, anyone. But i don't know if that will happen, it never happened for my mum - and she lost three kids and grand children because of the 'headship' in our house.