Please explain how single people of the same gender attending weddings together comes off as gay?
I didn't say that. I was referencing the fact that others have asked in the comments of these photos and they have replied no, coming off as offended at the notion.
Also, please explain how activities like gardening or jumping a car are “super gay”.
They are stereotypes. They are from a short list of token lesbian cliches. The reason you see people making the assumption in their comments is the same reason my wife and I get asked "so who takes care of the garden and who takes care of the car BAHAHAHA" on multiple occasions. And while Jana gets to take pride in her hell no, I get to feel filled with shame that I'm perpetuating a one dimensional stereotype, validating the prejudices of the idiots who make those comments. The themes of jana's carefully curated insta are often "look at my garden, look at me shopping at home improvement stores and fixing things up" and maybe/probably it's genuine cluelessness or not caring but sometimes I wonder if she doesn't do it on purpose to provoke questions so she has an opportunity to give a smug, self righteous EEW NO! Perhaps I hate on Jana unfairly for this and clearly this isnt the place to snark and vent when she strikes this nerve with me so it won't happen again.
I think it’s interesting you add the disclaimer you’re not speculating on sexuality
I didn't speculate on their sexuality. I acknowledged that others have and they seemed offended about it. Like not just a no but a no + genuine disgust. Noting how someone comes off isn't the same as speculating how they really are. I think Joe comes off as humble & kind at a glance but I'll speculate he only comes off that way because he doesn't talk much.
and then in the same breath declare certain activities as gay.
I didn't "declare" anything. I acknowledged that a stereotype exists and whether they realize or not that's why they get asked if they're a couple. You can say those stereotypes are ignorant and wrong and hurtful and I will agree with you 100%. But they do exist and they influence how people think and judge others based on what limited info they have available. And it pisses me off that this creates opportunities for Laura and Jana to remind the lgbt+ community quite publicly and to a large audience just how much dignity & compassion they think that we deserve-none.