17 hours ago, SassyPants said:
She focuses a lot on sleep deprivation, and I know she nurses, but wouldn’t seasoned parents make some different choices so that the mom could get some sleep? How about pumping or using formula (BF is obviously well established). She needs those babies to take bottles so that Shaun can help out and she can get a couple of nights of sleep.
My one parenting advice for nursing mothers, once BF is firmly established, give baby a bottle every.single.day. Motherhood should not be synonymous with martyrdom-
1) Abbie needs the martyrdom.
2) I imagine pumping on top of nursing twins full-time/on demand (no evidence as far as I know of her trying to limit their feedings) would leave her with zero time to wallpaper/shop Anthropologie.
3) I'm pretty sure she relies on nursing so much as part of her birth control (I know lactational amenorrhea isn't a thing that happens for everyone, and I think she got pregnant with her second baby while still nursing the first, but that never happened to her again so she might have found a way to make it work for her), so formula is not an option.
I also wonder about weaning. As far as I'm aware, she has not posted about letting them try any foods, and they are nearly 8 months old. Is this normal in the US? In Germany, I think the recommendation is to start babies on mashed carrots for example between five and seven months. Though I am fully aware not everyone does that. SIL definitely loves her babies depending on her for their feedings. To the point that until age 2, nephew #1 was still basically exclusively breastfed and barely ate any foods. She still nursed him at night until a few weeks before #2 was born. I personally love the thought of letting dad/non-nursing partner feed baby a bottle every day, I think it would be a lovely bonding experience.