3 minutes ago, Coconut Flan said:
Forward your email to the diocese. They need to know what the priest is doing and saying. I'm so sorry you encountered a jerk.
Depending on where the OP is, the diocese, the Bishop, will be all up into the priest and tell OP to "pound sand" and they'll pray for her eternal soul...seeing as how the Catholic Church believes that if you leave it, you'll roast in hell for eternity.
Now, before we get too far into the weeds here, let me quote the Catechism of the Catholic Church, paragraphs 846-48, which—as is so often the case no matter the doctrine with the CCC—presents this teaching clearly and to the point under the heading: “Outside the Church there is no Salvation.”
How are we to understand this affirmation, often repeated by the Church Fathers? Re-formulated positively, it means that all salvation comes from Christ the Head through the Church which is his Body:
“Basing itself on Scripture and Tradition, the Council teaches that the Church, a pilgrim now on earth, is necessary for salvation: the one Christ is the mediator and the way of salvation; he is present to us in his body which is the Church. He himself explicitly asserted the necessity of faith and Baptism, and thereby affirmed at the same time the necessity of the Church which men enter through Baptism as through a door. Hence they could not be saved who, knowing that the Catholic Church was founded as necessary by God through Christ, would refuse either to enter it or to remain in it” (CCC here quotes The Dogmatic Constitution on the Church, “Lumen Gentium,” 14, from the documents of Vatican II).
quoted from https://www.catholic.com/magazine/online-edition/is-there-really-no-salvation-outside-the-catholic-church