On 1/15/2019 at 6:36 PM, Briefly said:

That is one of those decisions that is up to you, not your family.  They don't get a vote!  I think you are smart to get it in writing.

A very good friend of mine, we call each other sisters from other mothers and we are as close as is humanly possible, lost her 25 year old daughter to cancer.  She had two children, then the cancer diagnoses and she had treatment  She was advised not to have any more children and the doctor was worried that the cancer would come back, but that was because of the type/location of the cancer and her general health was the part of the reason he suggested no more babies.  The cancer did come back and she started treatment, then she got pregnant again.  She continued the pregnancy and treatment for the cancer stopped.  When the baby was just a few months old, she died.  Her funeral was held on what would have been her 26 birthday.  At the time, from the way she talked, most people (including her own mother) thought that she really did not want to continue the pregnancy, but her husband  (who was a druggie) overruled her wishes.  My friend is raising the children as the druggie father abandoned them not too long after she died, and she loves her grandkids including the youngest, but I don't think she will ever get over losing her daughter.  I don't know if the ultimate outcome would have been any different, but the point is that it was her decision and it was taken from her.  Her husband's reason was the church's standpoint on abortion. Not that he ever actually attended church, but that was the reason he insisted on her continuing the pregnancy.

My family and his family believe even a fertilized egg has the same value as myself and that birth control pills/devices = abortions. And while Mr. EW would stand with me, I know both sides would be fighting tooth and nail for the fetus and would be hurling all sorts of emotional charged religious guilt trip stuff at us and it'll be hell. I'm getting it in hard concrete writing. Terrifies me not to. 

On 1/16/2019 at 8:16 PM, Lisafer said:

@EowynW sometimes people have that first baby and realize that popping babies out like a gumball machine isn't the best idea...so maybe your brother and sis in law will change their stance!

I hope so! 

It kinda feels like Anna adopted Jordyn. She's always with her. 

14 minutes ago, Palimpsest said:

He's a catch.  A catch, I tell you! 

So am I, you don’t see fundies clamoring after me!

(I kid...I kid...)

3 hours ago, smittykins said:

“Allow him to grow up as he leads”?

Umm, I would prefer that my husband already be grown up before we get married, thankyouverymuch, Kenny-boy.

I know, right? If I wanted to raise a child, I'd birth or adopt one, not marry one. Anyone who is an adult sharing a house with me better be an actual adult who pulls their weight and is an equal partner. If I feel the need to constantly feed and clean up after someone I'll get a cat.

2 hours ago, petrushka said:

I could not see her coupled up with Jesse Maxwell.  I doubt Jesse could land a fundie princess like Allison. 

Why not!    His big bro landed that ultimate fundie princess Chelsy, after all.   The lad could try. 

Poor Jesse.   We all dismiss him for his lack of hotness compared to John.   I have a soft spot for him but my hopes of his doing a runner from Maxhell are dwindling.

Allison is probably one of the few single women (other than his sisters) he gets to meet under the age of 80.  I'm sure he is pining after her.  And don't forget he had the initiative to clean up the woodpile all by himself and owns a house debt-free. 

He's a catch.  A catch, I tell you!