I wonder if Asher is part of the reason Tom is moving to fewer lives with the kids.
Asher has not wanted to participate in quite a few of them. Last night Tom said Asher didn't feel well, but Thomas said twice that Asher did not want to participate.
I watched a video from 2 years ago. The family took a mini vacation, so Tom could play his games. Andrea and the kids hung around the hotel. (Rolling my eyes here, because how fun is that?).
They ended up leaving a day early because Asher wanted to go home. He was upset, had his head down, and just had had enough of hanging out at the hotel.
Asher has common sense the others (meaning his parents) dont have. Andrea, and now Tom, need his help and Tom relies on him so much. I truly think it's Asher's displeasure and not feeling comfortable with the lives with the kids that is making Tom reduce them.
Tom is definitely tired of the criticism, but he has such a thick skin (and thick head) that I doubt it truly bothers him all that much. But if Asher, the one true adult in the household, is saying no, I do think that's something Tom would consider.