I came out of several years of lurking to respond to this thread. My husband and I were houseparents at a group home for MANY years. I am currently a guardian ad litem & working on becoming a clinical social worker. So this subject is obviously very close to my heart.
When I hear stories like this, I always come at it objectively. I have seen cases like this from all angles. I have held crying children all night long while they asked me what was wrong with them, why their parents would give them up. I've also seen my bio children be physically bullied by fosters simply because of jealousy. I even caught a child once about to push my then 2 year old down a flight of steps. My husband & I have broken up fights, had knives pulled on us.
So I know that behavioral issues can be a VERY REAL thing. Some of the children are going to grow into legitimate sociopaths, & they know exactly how to play the system. And I actually agree that sometimes "rehoming" (Ugh, I hate that word), is the right step. However, the Stauffers disgust me. Adoptive parents like them are a dime a dozen. It's all fun & games until there is actual work. I can't tell you how many children I have raised...yes, raised... because their trauma behaviors didn't fit their "parents" picture perfect life anymore. They have a saviour complex. Rationalizing their decision to give up with, "Well we saved this poor child from orphanage in _______, so really we improved their life no matter what the outcome."
Never once did we ever give up on a child. Report behavior, yes. Make sure they weren't left alone with other children, yes. Give up, never. But I know very loving, good parents who have. And the decision ripped them to shreds. The Stauffers are not those parents. I had to stop watching the clips people have been sharing on social media, I was moved to tears & fury all at the same time. I'm not convinced that Huxley's behavior was all that bad. But even if it was a 10th of what they want us to believe, there is still no reason to treat a child like that!!!
Hopefully Huxley has found his forever home, & although they have now caused him even more trauma by rehoming him, hopefully in the long run it is better. Because those two don't need to ever be let near an adoption agency again.