I’ve always suspected that Josh would prefer a smaller family. Anna, however, has made no secret of the fact that she wants “as many as God sends”. I wonder if Josh might have drawn the line at four but then all the scandals came to light. The joyous time after the birth of a healthy baby was spoilt for Anna when Josh’s past behaviour and then current Ashley Madison affair was discovered and publicised. I can understand Anna’s desire to have another baby after Meredith and after Josh’s return from “rehab”, she was cheated out of the joy of a new baby by Josh’s behaviour and had to be a single parent whilst he was reforming himself. Perhaps part of their “deal” is that Josh had to agree to more children in order for Anna to forgive him. She appears to be a good mother and homemaker and to genuinely love and want her children. I hope that at the very most they stop at eight rather than keep adding to their brood. Josh needs to find some business venture that he can throw himself into and be challenged and develop and grow. His past behaviour was atrocious. His future just seems so mundane and boring. He needs to find some dreams.
I think Anna is coping with her marriage by throwing herself into her identity as a mom rather than giving Josh attention.
On this personality test I am a Mediator INFP- A/ INFP-T .
On the animal test I am a mole. At first I was like: What??? And then I realised I was sitting in the dark, in the corridor, on the floor, in the cold * and doing a online test instead of lying in bed with Mr. S.. I am totally a mole. But my eyesight is better.
* It's my favourite place for browsing through the Internet, our wifi is the best there, I can hear the hamster, I have a soft pillow to sit on and chocolate near me. I was too lazy to get me a blanket, it's pretty cold for the end of May.
Your words are so much better than mine! Thank you. I didn’t want to sound like I thought child molestation itself isn’t as big a deal as infidelity.
I know exactly what you meant, don't worry.
Without question, at 15, he needed help. Who wouldn't help a 15-year old boy in such a situation? Who would write off such a boy because they decided ahead of time that he was a "monster" and beyond help?
I used to work with adolescents who had committed crimes. They were not in jail, not even in juvie. They were at a school where people tried to help them. These teens couldn't drive, vote, get a hotel room, rent an apartment, engage in a contract or buy a car because their brains weren't fully developed so they weren't allowed to do these things. In addition, the state didn't hold them fully responsible for the things they'd done. This would not have happened if they were ten years older.
When people talk about how Josh would have fared better if he'd gotten "good" therapy by a "licensed counselor", I am skeptical. I am not sure if "good" therapy exists for a teen with a sexual problem--unless he wants to change. There was a portion of my school where boys with sexual problems were treated. The therapists were among the most qualified in the state.
Even so, these therapists didn't have many tools in their toolbox. Basically, they encouraged the boys to try to change the subject of their fantasies. I can remember them encouraging the boys to imagine sex in a field of flowers. Basically, the kids were encouraged to find healthier things to get them aroused. It didn't really seem to work. At the time, I was thinking, "That's all you got?" There was no magic bullet that could make those kids want to engage in normal, healthy sexual activity.
Cancer sucks. My aunt was diagnosed with metastatic lung cancer in February 2018. Her goal was to see the birth of her first grandchild in early June but this afternoon they told us that she isn’t going to make it. Feeling pretty powerless right now.