One of the first things I noticed while lurking on Free Jinger, beyond the overwhelming number of fundamentalist families beyond the Duggars I'd no idea existed, was the board culture. I spent some time in the SOTDRT learning definitions and what board culture means. One of the phrases used confused me though: pet fundy/fundie. What the heck does that mean?? Is it the fundy fam you love to hate, the fundy you secretly love but hate (in that hate the sin not the sinner sort of way), the fundy you hate the most? I have decided it's one of those phrases that means what it means to the individual, though the definition I have seen most is the fundy family you follow most.
I have looked for my pet fundies. I've scoured the archives, reading about families when I was interested in them on a current thread so decided to further educate myself about their antics. I've educated myself on Zsu zsu Anderson and her Pissing Preacher. Ugh, child-abusing bitch, I can't follow them for wanting to go there and snatch her bald-headed. Lauren and her travelling circus of irresponsible parenting? Grrr, the neglect those kids are put through! Erika Shupe and the jelly bean reward system? POW! To the moon with her! The Nauglers? No, the proximity makes the idea of driving up and 1. rescuing those poor kids 2. cut a bitch (a phrase I'd never felt any connection to until I read about Joe and Nicole) just a bit too do-able for my comfort. The Maxwells? Where to even start?! The Duggar/Bates? Nope, nope no. The cover up of child sexual abuse is more than I can stand.
I'd just about decided on Jilly Rod until I saw what she's done to her poor sister Amy in the past year. The blatant Jill of it all is just more than I can bear. I don't know if I just have such a low tolerance for child abuse and neglect, patriarchy and the objectification of women, victim blaming, non-education of minds begging for knowledge, the enormous egos involved and the rampant sexuality in the purity culture that I can't pick out my pet fundy(s). I don't know how the rest of you did it, deciding which family you would expose the ugly underbelly of their hypocrisy to the cold light of day. Right now, I'm spending more time hate-reading about LoriKen, the never learning egomaniacs. Having some brain damage that sometimes affects my mood and behavior is probably the link that clicked for me with Lori and her brain tumor issues. Also, while she is still giving out heartbreakingly terrible advice to women on her blog, at least she is unable to directly abuse children as hers are grown and gone. That's a big issue for me, so there's that.
For me, my pet fundy is defined by my ability to be dragged into their life suck. I don't love to hate them, I don't know that I really hate hate them either, though I utter, "What a fucking bitch!" at least once when I read a new installment on her blog. I'm not much surer of what a pet fundy is now than I was on the first day at FJ, but I know who my pet fundy is, at long last.