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Acquiring a pet fundy

violynn

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One of the first things I noticed while lurking on Free Jinger, beyond the overwhelming number of fundamentalist families beyond the Duggars I'd no idea existed, was the board culture.  I spent some time in the SOTDRT learning definitions and what board culture means.  One of the phrases used confused me though:  pet fundy/fundie.  What the heck does that mean??  Is it the fundy fam you love to hate, the fundy you secretly love but hate (in that hate the sin not the sinner sort of way), the fundy you hate the most?  I have decided it's one of those phrases that means what it means to the individual, though the definition I have seen most is the fundy family you follow most.  

I have looked for my pet fundies.  I've scoured the archives, reading about families when I was interested in them on a current thread so decided to further educate myself about their antics.  I've educated myself on Zsu zsu Anderson and her Pissing Preacher.  Ugh, child-abusing bitch, I can't follow them for wanting to go there and snatch her bald-headed.  Lauren and her travelling circus of irresponsible parenting?  Grrr, the neglect those kids are put through!  Erika Shupe and the jelly bean reward system?  POW!  To the moon with her!  The Nauglers?  No, the proximity makes the idea of driving up and 1. rescuing those poor kids 2. cut a bitch (a phrase I'd never felt any connection to until I read about Joe and Nicole) just a bit too do-able for my comfort.  The Maxwells?  Where to even start?!  The Duggar/Bates?  Nope, nope no.  The cover up of child sexual abuse is more than I can stand.

I'd just about decided on Jilly Rod until I saw what she's done to her poor sister Amy in the past year.  The blatant Jill of it all is just more than I can bear.  I don't know if I just have such a low tolerance for child abuse and neglect, patriarchy and the objectification of women, victim blaming, non-education of minds begging for knowledge, the enormous egos involved and the rampant sexuality in the purity culture that I can't pick out my pet fundy(s).  I don't know how the rest of you did it, deciding which family you would expose the ugly underbelly of their hypocrisy to the cold light of day. Right now, I'm spending more time hate-reading about LoriKen, the never learning egomaniacs.  Having some brain damage that sometimes affects my mood and behavior is probably the link that clicked for me with Lori and her brain tumor issues.  Also, while she is still giving out heartbreakingly terrible advice to women on her blog, at least she is unable to directly abuse children as hers are grown and gone.  That's a big issue for me, so there's that. 

For me, my pet fundy is defined by my ability to be dragged into their life suck.  I don't love to hate them, I don't know that I really hate hate them either, though I utter, "What a fucking bitch!" at least once when I read a new installment on her blog.  I'm not much surer of what a pet fundy is now than I was on the first day at FJ, but I know who my pet fundy is, at long last.

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violynn

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1 minute ago, clueliss said:

Try Miss Raquel.  

I KNEW I was forgetting someone!!  All I've really noticed of her is apparently she writes bad novels, and I'm not sure that is interesting enough to keep me coming back  LOL

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picklepizzas

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i suggest the mortons. they have a blog dating back to 2006 that i got sucked into; it makes for an interesting narrative to start at the beginning. :)

 

ETA: JK, it starts in 2005! http://mortonclan.blogspot.com/

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violynn

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1 hour ago, picklepizzas said:

i suggest the mortons. they have a blog dating back to 2006 that i got sucked into; it makes for an interesting narrative to start at the beginning. :)

 

ETA: JK, it starts in 2005! http://mortonclan.blogspot.com/

Oh, I remember these wackados!  They all intermarry with two other families and speak as if they were from Ye Older Times and such?  Bless their hearts, I look forward to reacquainting myself with this clan.

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EyeQueue

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I think "pet fundy" was used many times in the sense that you could at least tolerate that family/person. Someone please correct me if I'm wrong.

I tend to not have any pet fundies based on that definition, because their beliefs are so damned destructive and harmful. Especially to women and children.

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mango_fandango

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I thought pet fundie was a fundie who you defended. I remember seeing somewhere "someone might accuse you of having a pet fundie if" *words I forgot*.

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violynn

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6 hours ago, EyeQueue said:

I think "pet fundy" was used many times in the sense that you could at least tolerate that family/person. Someone please correct me if I'm wrong.

I tend to not have any pet fundies based on that definition, because their beliefs are so damned destructive and harmful. Especially to women and children.

See, that's sort of what I thought it meant too, @EyeQueue.  That's why I didn't/couldn't choose one either.  None of them are tolerable.  

 

2 hours ago, mango_fandango said:

I thought pet fundie was a fundie who you defended. I remember seeing somewhere "someone might accuse you of having a pet fundie if" *words I forgot*.

Also what I thought for a bit, @mango_fandango.  That made the most sense if you take the phrase at face value.  But after seeing some members who definitely did NOT like the family refer to someone as their pet fundy I got confused again, and I've been working to figure it out ever since.  Maybe there just isn't one clear definition.  I'd ask @happy atheist, but if it's already defined somewhere and I missed it and bothered her for nothing I would really feel like an ass.

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clueliss

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I don't consider a pet fundie as someone you defend.  

I consider Raquel a sort of Pet Fundie for me - with the clear understanding that she is daft and cannot be trained.  But I do not defend her.  

And remember folks, Pet Fundies are not tame house pets.  They pee on the floor and chew on our charger cords.  

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violynn

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39 minutes ago, OnceUponATime said:

Thank you, @OnceUponATime.  I wish I'd found that on my own, but I appreciate you looking it up for mango_fango.

 

23 minutes ago, clueliss said:

I don't consider a pet fundie as someone you defend.  

I consider Raquel a sort of Pet Fundie for me - with the clear understanding that she is daft and cannot be trained.  But I do not defend her.  

And remember folks, Pet Fundies are not tame house pets.  They pee on the floor and chew on our charger cords.  

Amen to that, @clueliss!

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OnceUponATime

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Just now, violynn said:

but I appreciate you looking it up

You're welcome :) it really didn't take much effort for me because I knew exactly where that was. :embarrassed: I probably need a new hobby that doesn't involve reading Buffy's FAQ.

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happy atheist

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3 hours ago, violynn said:

See, that's sort of what I thought it meant too, @EyeQueue.  That's why I didn't/couldn't choose one either.  None of them are tolerable.  

 

Also what I thought for a bit, @mango_fandango.  That made the most sense if you take the phrase at face value.  But after seeing some members who definitely did NOT like the family refer to someone as their pet fundy I got confused again, and I've been working to figure it out ever since.  Maybe there just isn't one clear definition.  I'd ask @happy atheist, but if it's already defined somewhere and I missed it and bothered her for nothing I would really feel like an ass.

I don't think there's an official definition. To me it means "the fundie that I am currently obsessed with." For me it used to be Sparkling Lauren, and now it's maybe Jill Rodrigues. I don't like her, and I don't approve of anything she does, but I can't look away. We talk about too many families for me to follow many closely, so I tend to concentrate my energies on one or two at a time.

For other people it seems to entail a certain level of affection, where they will defend their pet fundie, but not for me.

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violynn

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24 minutes ago, happy atheist said:

I don't think there's an official definition. To me it means "the fundie that I am currently obsessed with." For me it used to be Sparkling Lauren, and now it's maybe Jill Rodrigues. I don't like her, and I don't approve of anything she does, but I can't look away. 

That makes a lot more sense in the cases I've found, thank you, HA.

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JeanieCat

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On ‎4‎/‎14‎/‎2016 at 9:41 PM, violynn said:

Oh, I remember these wackados!  They all intermarry with two other families and speak as if they were from Ye Older Times and such?  Bless their hearts, I look forward to reacquainting myself with this clan.

Thank you for pointing out the Mortons to me! They are a scream!

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