Jump to content
  • Sky
  • Blueberry
  • Slate
  • Blackcurrant
  • Watermelon
  • Strawberry
  • Orange
  • Banana
  • Apple
  • Emerald
  • Chocolate
  • Charcoal

Buffy's Commentary

  • entries
  • comments
  • views

Stuff I don't understand...



There are a lot of things I don't understand about the fundy mindset, but far and away the one thing I most want an answer to is how this belief system can override one of the most primal human instincts...to protect your child.

You teach girls blind submission and you increase their risk of being victims of abuse by orders of magnitude...and who have no idea how strong and resourceful they can be even without an umbrella of protection.

You teach boys that they are at the mercy of their sexual impulses and you create men who have no idea that they too have moral strength and character...and they don't need a woman to keep them from harming people.  

I just do not understand what happens to these people where the hardwired instinct to protect and love your babies gets subverted.  

I love my husband.  My family.  If any of them were to hurt my children you won't believe how fast that would change.

Unconditional love I have for my kids and our four legged family members.  Everyone else...there are conditions for sure.  Condition #1...don't hurt anyone in my Unconditional Column A.

There was some discussion in one of the threads today about Ben's parents and how maybe his mom was nervous for his absorption into the vapid Duggar empire, but even if so she likely wouldn't object because her husband was on board.  I don't know anything about her as a person, but as a mom of a son of that age let me tell you that if I saw my baby heading for a cliff and his father wanted to stop my intervention...his father had best be wearing a cup and looking for a new place to live.  I wouldn't stand by and let my son run off that cliff without doing everything in my power to stop him.  At some point kids will do what they will and the best intentioned parents can't stop them...but that's no excuse for standing idly by and watching it happen.

I don't understand how their maternal instinct came with an off switch.

and some ecards and stuff.



afd423bc645e4e9f9fd5c55963d5e7fe.jpg ecard-image-for-blog-post.jpg 5fae4d418c4d43e7986b7c75ca680e0c.jpgecards-funny-dysfunction.jpg 46dae0eb64513d5efa1b5e0dd0ab4ded.jpg 318200_303231153137310_613405000_n1.jpg

 5d9ff7e1ee1405c6649938fdfd4fdd7a.jpg 55381a1d5c25b39dc33bf7ff7ee516fe.jpg





  • Upvote 8


Recommended Comments



Wow. Just wow. Don't mess with HNIB's kids. And I am so sorry for all those kids who don't have an HNIB in their life.

(I think my favourite is A Worried Mother Does Better Research Than The FBI.)

Share this comment

Link to comment


#'s 4 and 6 are probably my favorites though my head nodded as I read each meme.  All parents should have this instinct in the top 3:  keep them healthy, keep them safe, teach them how to adult successfully.  Someone in my family hurt one of mine 8 years ago, we haven't seen that entire branch since.  I miss old traditions I grew up with, but that is all...and we've made new Ines.  Nothing trumps my kids.

Share this comment

Link to comment

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
  • Posts

    • AmazonGrace


      On 8/3/2020 at 2:48 AM, hoipolloi said:
      On 8/3/2020 at 2:17 AM, starfish said:
      She's never said too much about the kids going to college or careers.


      Somebody (or several somebodies) asked about the children going to college recently on one of Crystalʻs AMAs on her IG account. Crystal gave a non-answer, saying that they would be following God's will for their lives.  As much as Crystal shares about her family's lives on IG, she is pretty respectful of everyone's privacy, to her credit. 

      So how do you determine God's will in that instance? You pray whether you should go to college or not, and then mom and dad tell you whether God wants you to go?

    • SassyPants


      20 minutes ago, TuringMachine said:

      He will be in November 

      So Della and the twins will be 10 and 8 in the Fall?

      • Upvote 1
    • clueliss


      oish - Kline - lost his law license as I recall.

      • Upvote 1
    • TuringMachine


      18 minutes ago, SassyPants said:

      Is Simon 13, or soon to be such?

      He will be in November 

    • Glasgowghirl


      I find anyone who only thinks their political and religious beliefs are right and thinks anyone who doesn't agree with them are brainwashed insufferable. I will likely never vote for the UK Conservative party because I don't share their values but I have had respect to some extent respect for the party leaders and Prime Ministers who do a difficult job regardless of what I think of them. Boris may be the exception to this because he is so terrible and makes me miss Theresa May and Gordon Brown and those two were bad at being PM. 

  • Create New...

Important Information

By using this site, you agree to our Terms of Use.