And who the hell are you?

I am a neutral observer, stating my thoughts on what I am seeing here.

This is truly pathetic.

You are entitled to your opinion.  Thank you for sharing it. 

1 hour ago, singsingsing said:

And who the hell are you?

Since when do we treat members like this?  This isn't 2012.

Curious, I have no idea what the hell happened here, but this is ridiculous. Absolutely ridiculous. Since when do we foster and encourage trolls here? I'm honestly stunned. This is the last post you'll see from me. If you're truly in the dark, you have completely lost control of your forum. Good luck.

Troll?  You cast such judgment based on...?  I do not need Curious' support, nor do I seek i.  I can take it.

5 minutes ago, singsingsing said:

Curious, I have no idea what the hell happened here, but this is ridiculous. Absolutely ridiculous. Since when do we foster and encourage trolls here? I'm honestly stunned. This is the last post you'll see from me. If you're truly in the dark, you have completely lost control of your forum. Good luck.

You have no idea who this person is.  We do NOT treat new members this way.  HOw do you know this person hasn't been reading for a while and felt compelled to join due to the current situation or because they just felt like joining.   Every new member is NOT a troll just because you don't like their opinion.

You complain about us cracking down and we should take "free speech" off the description, but when someone posts something you don't like you try to shut them down. 

It's fine to disagree with someone, but saying "who the hell are you?"  REALLY?  That is now behavior that is ok here?  NO  Who the hell are YOU to attack someone just because you don't like their opinion?

People need to get over themselves.

Envy is not the word I would use at all, and I would not classify the recent issues as envy either.

In fact, I can completely understand the FJ goddesses getting suspicious, and angry, at a vocal male (me) in their midst, and for very obvious reasons,

Who does the abuse in QF patriarchy? Men.

Who has abused some members of this group? Men.

Need I even go further?

Women do cause abuse, it is a thing. But in this group, almost universally: The individual with the penis was the one who did the damage.

That is NOT "envy".

I was going to downvote your blog entry here, but I instead hope you get to know the community you are blogging in a bit more, okay?

Take care.

Gamer, why "goddesses"?  

Overly cute? Should I drop it?

Was curious what meaning it has in this context.

7 minutes ago, church_of_dog said:

Gamer, why "goddesses"?  

It just popped into my head one day, like a week ago.

Is it overly cute? Should drop it? 

It would be cute (overly or otherwise) in some contexts.  Empowering in some contexts, not in others. Various potential negative meanings in yet other contexts.

That's why I asked, to see what meaning it had in your intent.  I'm still curious about that.  When it popped into your head, and you chose to use it, what meaning did you feel that it added to your communication?

As is presumably obvious after the last few days, people most likely have their impression of you in this or that way.  But no one actually knows if they are reading you right.  So I thought I'd ask, when a particular phrase caught my eye, what meaning you intended it to have.

I don't think the recent upset was about a person's gender.

Speaking for myself, it is really quite disappointing and irritating when a Randumb new person joins us, and rather than reading up on discussions and threads in this board, or introducing themselves in the thread for new posters, they begin their time here sitting in judgement of people who have, and still do, contribute a lot to this place, and whose opinions and views I for one respect.

It seems very presumptuous, even obnoxious, of said new poster, especially when they appear to be provoking a recent situation where people were hurt, for effect. It makes me wonder, when so many new posters have cheerfully joined in the past, and been welcomed by the community here, why they would do such a thing...?

Just sayin...of course.

And penis envy? Really? 

In the spirit of being neighborly, and in case you haven't realized it, this was an ill advised post given the current mood on the forum. You would probably be better received if you make more of an effort to read the room before making a post. You're picking at a scab that hasn't even fully formed yet. 

As the others said, I don't think this is the right moment (or place) for such a blog post. However, be welcome and enjoy your time here. It is a lovely place and people are really nice... when in a better mood

I welcome and thank you all for your constructive criticisms.

5 hours ago, Myrtille said:

As the others said, I don't think this is the right moment (or place) for such a blog post.

@Curious, timing is everything. @singsingsing's emotions are high, as are yours, I think, please correct me if I am wrong. At this point, in my opinion, it would be most beneficial for the community if all members who care about the community would refrain from knowingly controversial posts that may appear to be in any way, directly or obliquely, referring to the shitstorm of the past few days. And let the ignoring begin early here, that may help. YMMV

These are nor normal times for FJ, and I wish that all members, new and old, would be mindful of that.

Peace to all, gotta go. Tiptoeing out again...

11 hours ago, THERetroGamerNY said:

It just popped into my head one day, like a week ago.

Is it overly cute? Should drop it? 

Its misogynistic, I would advise you drop it. It is condescending in the same way "princess" and "Sweetie" are. I would not appreciate a man calling me, in an moment of high emotion, princess. Goddess has a positive connotation sometimes, but given the situation on the forum, this is not one of those moments.

29 minutes ago, sisterwives said:

Its misogynistic, I would advise you drop it. It is condescending in the same way "princess" and "Sweetie" are. I would not appreciate a man calling me, in an moment of high emotion, princess. Goddess has a positive connotation sometimes, but given the situation on the forum, this is not one of those moments.

Appreciate the honest feedback. Had already talked it out in another thread and dropped it from my usage. Thank you.

41 minutes ago, sisterwives said:

Its misogynistic, I would advise you drop it. It is condescending in the same way "princess" and "Sweetie" are. I would not appreciate a man calling me, in an moment of high emotion, princess. Goddess has a positive connotation sometimes, but given the situation on the forum, this is not one of those moments.

Saying it's misogynist it's a tad exaggerated. It certainly sounds condescending, yes. It also sounds ironic. The thing is, even the most innocuous word will get a negative connotation depending on the context, tone and general phrase construction. It will also be interpreted differently by people depending on a variety of things, including their mood. Right now, some people here don't take it well, obviously.

So to answer your question, @TheRetroGamerNY, it is inappropriate given the general situation now. And I should add that unfortunately right now any attempt at humour, irony or cuteness/sweetness might be misinterpreted by some people... Yep, sad times

2 minutes ago, Myrtille said:

Saying it's misogynist it's a tad exaggerated. It certainly sounds condescending, yes. It also sounds ironic. The thing is, even the most innocuous word will get a negative connotation depending on the context, tone and general phrase construction. It will also be interpreted differently by people depending on a variety of things, including their mood. Right now, some people here don't take it well, obviously.

Well, I had Googled the phrase last night after it was brought to my attention, and the first article encountered is what educated me the most. There is no equally appropriate term to say to a man is what the basic idea was.

Here is the link:

https://www.quora.com/Is-it-misandrist-to-regularly-refer-to-women-as-goddesses-while-regularly-referring-to-men-as-men

9 minutes ago, Myrtille said:

Saying it's misogynist it's a tad exaggerated. It certainly sounds condescending, yes. It also sounds ironic. The thing is, even the most innocuous word will get a negative connotation depending on the context, tone and general phrase construction. It will also be interpreted differently by people depending on a variety of things, including their mood. Right now, some people here don't take it well, obviously.

I don't think saying it's misogynistic is exaggerated at all. Men being condescending in conversation towards women, using gendered words to accomplish that is misogynistic. Would sexist be a better word to use? Do you think that misogynistic is just too heavy handed of a word to use to describe it? Personally I think this entire fiasco is tinged with misogyny but I'd rather stay out of that. I'm just disappointed to see TRGNY using that type of language given what has happened in the last few days.