Fundie vs Non-Fundie Real Life

[pook]

So this is my first thread start, so please be gentle.  I thought it might be fun to discuss ordinary life stuff as fundie vs not.  Feel free to mention or comment on your fundie reference.

Fundie

*I like wearing skirts and dresses, pants make me uncomfortable.

*I love babies, just not too many.

*I like butter #zus

*I bought a giant flower headband for my niece because I liked it.  #all

*I love shabby-chic and chalk boards and mason jars

*My first born has a biblical name even though we are agnostic.

*I like making and eating casseroles and might make the tater tot one.  #duggers.

*I love sleeping in. #duggers.

*I want an RV but for a vacation and only 4 people.  #rodrigi

*I am not organized by wish I was. #Erica

Not Fundie

*I had hospital births and would have died otherwise.

*I have a real ass job and call bullshit on MLM scams.

*I went to secular uni.

*I believe in birth control.

*I was on the pill as a teenager.

*I believe depression and anxiety and mental illness to be real medical conditions. #Jere

*I don't believe that essential oils can cure cancer.

*I hate jelly beans because they are yuck and don't give me even one.  #Erica

 

 

[pook]

anyone bueler?

[TeddyBonkers]

I am a Midwestern Lutheran, and you can pry my casserole out of my cold dead hands! My mother did not like to cook, and tater tot casserole was on the menu at least twice a month when I was growing up. HOWEVER, she threw in a quart of home-canned green beans, so it was marginally more healthful.

I wear pants and skirts (knee-length, not denim frumpers) about the same amount. Shorts are a no go for me- I've got a rough body for shorts.

Medicated hospital births for the win!

And I've got the Mirena IUD, currently, but would be happiest with a uterinectomy. 

[pook]

@TeddyBonkers I think I love you! rough body for shorts for the win!  My legs are virtually transparent and add some spider veins to the mix and it's really not pretty.  I wear tights in winter and hose in summer.  I want to do a spray tan but I'm just not sure.

[AuLait]

Ways I'm fundie:

I have a lot of children*

I homeschool

I like casseroles, too!

I like cooking, sewing, knitting, gardening, canning and other housewifely arts.

My kids do a lot of chores and help out with siblings

Ways I'm not fundie:

Reject purity culture in whole

Not every aspect of our life revolves around our faith or has to be faith based. Sometimes we do stuff just for fun.

Don't attend church even though I am Christian.

Teach respect for science and don't use creationist curriculum

School is a priority and I put in a lot of time and money into doing it right.

Wear pants the majority of the time. Skinny ones even!

Don't require my children to obey immediately or be beaten

Don't require my children to raise their siblings or be overburdened with work

*"A lot" is relative. I have 4. For some that is a crowd, others it's just the starter kit ☺

[Tangy Bee]

I know bermuda shorts are conservative. I just don't like daisy dukes because I hate shaving far up my thighs. Oh and I almost converted to Catholic when I found out Mass is only 1 hour. Grew up baptist and they will hold you hostage if the "spirit" is strong, especially on "1st" Sundays.

[StacyW]

Fundie:

I show complete confidence in conclusions that I have pulled out of my butt

I like babies (of all species though)

I cover much of my body up (fair skin, don't want to spend hours applying sunscreen)

Non-Fundie:

Everything else

 

[CyborgKin]

Fundie:

• I think it's a generally good idea for churches to keep families together if possible.
• I would homeschool my kids if i had any.
• I don't do casual relationships.
• I've read a fair bit of Rushdoony and Francis Schaeffer
• I'm not allowed to play videogames or watch TV.

Non-Fundie:

• I spend a lot of time watching other people play videogames
• It doesn't count as TV if I'm not watching it on a TV, right?  (hey look at my Westworld avatar)
• #SuperCorp OTP
• I snark on fundies on FJ a lot
• Accepted chemotherapy instead of trying 'natural' cancer remedies or whatever
• I read quite a few very 'worldly' sci-fi novels.
• I read a lot of fanfiction.  And write some.
• I'm rather interested in, and watch a fair amount of Magic the Gathering

[Maggie Mae]

Fundie: 

• I wear a lot of dresses (from Lularoe, no doubt) 
• I cook my own food and complain about eating out because it's usually not as good. If it is, it's really expensive and we are out of state. Or it's pizza. I haven't perfected the homemade pizza yet. 
• I don't use a microwave at home
• I believe that it's important to eat well and exercise 
• I would homeschool if I had kids and they didn't want to do sports
• I follow free range parenting blogs and think that there should be a balance of freedom and independence with current safety standards. I believe that we are too litigious and that has serious ramifications on our children's development and independence. 
• I'm OK with hunting for food, and using all of the animal (that is possible) is the best way to do it. I would love to get a bear skin blanket rug, my boss has one and I am jealous. 
• I love supernatural elements in my fiction. 

Not Fundie: 

• I wear short running shorts pretty much every day in the summer. Short. 
• I work out in said shorts and a sports bra. Sometimes I do sprint triathlons in just a pair of shorts and a bra. 
• I drink alcohol. A lot of it. 
• I think the idea of dominion over the earth is just an excuse for assholes to be selfish and not recycle or even pick up their own litter. 
• I do not like hunting for sport. Shoot clay pigeons or go to the range and practice on moving targets if that's your jam. Shooting an animal to mount it is stupid and wasteful. 
• I voted for Bernie Sanders and I would do it again. Democratic Socialism is progressive. 
• I read novels. I like them. 
• I treat my cat like he's part of the family because he is. 
• I am not married and not a virgin. 
• I don't go to church. 
• I do not eat tater tots but once a year or so (there is a restaurant here that serves them. We went for the first time in about a year. I ordered my sandwich with tater tots. I then told the partner that I should have ordered the fries. He reminded me that I say that every time.) 
• We are in an egalitarian relationship.  We both cook, but he cooks more often. We do the laundry together. We both sweep the floors and feed the cat and clean the bathroom when it's dirty. (I clean the bathroom more.) We support each other at major races. He carries stuff for me and is at the finish line with a coke or a beer for me. I do the same for him and his mountain running. 
• I play video games and I'm a girl. Not just candy crush, either. 
• I work, and not from home. My boss is a female. (So am I.) 
• A million other things. 

[feministxtian]

Oh lordy...

Fundie:

I wear skirts, maxi skirts almost all the time (with either sandals or flip flops most of the time)

We belong to and attend a "liberal" IFB church and are pretty active in our church

I did homeschool (kids are grown and gone now)

I usually cook from scratch 

I have made my own clothes (I enjoy it!)

won't wear a bathing suit in public

don't wear shorts outside, rarely wear pants outside

Non-Fundie:

I smoke, drink, dance and listen to GOOD music (classic rock)

I cuss like the sailor's wife I am

I used to work full time and made more money than hubby. 

I still work part time now teaching MEN!

I like to watch pretty violent movies (Lethal Weapon 1-4, etc)

I read Clive Cussler (Dirk Pitt) and Tom Clancy (Jack Ryan) novels

I HATE contemporary Christian music (with a bloody blue passion)

Used birth control until the crib got removed

Addicted to the Science Channel

Currently watching The DaVinci Code (not that I believe any of it but I love Tom Hanks)

 

 

 

[NakedKnees]

Fundie:

• I love wearing long, classically styled skirts and other clothes
• I love family time and family activities
• I like to keep up with the various "crunchy" lifestyle trends
• I practice fertility-awareness based birth control. No barriers or hormones.
• I don't have TV service and don't want it
• Love to knit, sew, do handcrafts
• I am usually barefoot, weather permitting
• Was happily very active in (non-extreme) church for 10+ years
• I'm excited to hopefully one day have and raise babies

Not a fundie:

• I also like to wear clothes as skanky as they come
• I don't generally shave or do hair/makeup
• I drink and smoke as much as I please
• I don't believe in God 
• I'm a feminist in a very egalitarian relationship
• Mr. Knees does most of the cooking (and laundry)
• I curse however much I damn well feel like
• I am usually near-nude hanging out at home, weather permitting
• I work outside the home, and depending on business, make more than my headship
• I make fun of terms like "headship"
• I'm openly bisexual
• I believe all people are entitled to happiness, love, and equal protection before the law and otherwise 
• I try to challenge myself to rethink my preconceived notions when presented with evidence to the contrary

[Red Hair, Black Dress]

Hmmm, let me think

Fundie:

• Love to cook, great at it, from scratch, using freah ingredients, nearly every night (except for take out Chinese sometimes)
• I used to make my own clothes  (really good at it), Also know how to knit, embroider, needlepoint, darn socks, mend clothes, sew on buttons, etc.
• Wear skirts and dresses
• Pretty crafty -- make wreaths, arrange flowers. do tablescapes, make decorative pillows, etc
• Keep a neat, clean house, more or less organized. Not up to Erica's standards though.
• Married
• Believe in God

Not Fundie:

• Catholic
• No children
• Egalitarian marriage. Mr Dress is a wizard with the vacuum cleaner and since I cook, he cleans the kitchen. Everything else we do together. I clean the bathrooms though -- because well .... um ... men
• Feminist
• Believe in sex education and believe that BC and when or if to have children is a personal decision for everyone (my personal beliefs don't govern other people)
• Work full time, always have - not at home
• Attended public school, state university, state grad school
• Drink 
• Did not cure my cancer with essential oils (surgery and radiation for the win!!)
• Dance and love rock n' roll
• Have close gay friends, some of whom are married.
• Wear jeans, even skinny ones, shorts, bathing suit (one piece)
• Think people who buy into MLMs are complete, total  idiots #Rodrigi
• Curse, although I try not to
• Read all the time -- even (gasp) wordly novels
• Pretty much everything else that isn't fundie

 

 

 

 

 

[ILoveJellybeans]

Fundie:

• Still a virgin, in my twenties (Im not super interested in sex, maybe if I met the right person, but its not particularly a need)
• Between the age of 3-8, I wore nothing but the kind of dresses that the Duggar girls used to wear in the early episodes, and again when I was about 18-19 and wore skirts with leggings because I found them more comfortable (although I now found some comfy, soft pants with pockets, and bought a large amount of the exact same pair)
• I don't drink
• Very long curly hair
• I have a lot of siblings, and was raised fairly poor in a tiny house, on the same kind of bland lazy meals the Duggars eat.
• Actually a sister mom (now for real, because our mother died).
• Would like a large family.
• I cover my legs most of the time (because I am too lazy to shave and not confident enough to show off hairy legs).
• I am wearing a rather low cut tshirt, with a long sleeved top underneath-not for modesty, but because I am always cold and prefer layers.
• I like pickles

 

Not Fundie:

• Lesbian
• Atheist
• Liberal
• Feminist
• Pro choice, and support affordable birth control and sex ed, as well as access to safe abortion.
• I encourage my little sibling-children to like whatever they like, we don't do stereotypes. Youngest little sister-child dresses entirely in boy's clothing and plays with cars and dinosaurs, and that is fine. Whether she is cis and gender nonconforming, non binary or trans, its fine by me.
• Erika Shupe would be horrified if she saw how I ate jellybeans.
• I don't like guns and think the use of them should be more restricted.
• I have friends who are Muslim and LGBT.

[GoddessOfVictory]

Fundie:

• Love to cook and bake, especially from scratch
• I dress fairly modestly
• I enjoy sewing and have made some of my own clothes
• I enjoy crafting and other Pinterest-y things
• I'm starting a home-based business soon
• I would love to have several kids
• Currently live at home with my parents
• Wouldn't mind being a SAHM
• Have long, curly hair
• Would like a mostly traditional wedding, if I were ever to get married

Not fundie:

• I love fantasy and sci-fi novels, TV shows, and movies
• Currently the dungeon master for a game of D&D
• The majority of my sewing has been for fantasy/Halloween costumes
• I prefer erotic romance novels over chaste ones
• Never been married, not a virgin
• Pretty much an atheist
• Liberal
• I work a full-time job outside the home
• I have two degrees from accredited secular universities
• Never seriously read the Bible, just some bits and pieces
• Can count on one hand the number of times I've been to a church service (not including weddings)
• Love to dance
• Listen to very mainstream music
• Occasionally swear, usually by taking the Lord's name in vain
• Wear pants about 95% of the time
• Believe in evolution and science in general
• Probably a bunch of other things I'm not thinking of right now

[smittykins]

The only "fundie" things about me are that I don't smoke or drink(except Communion wine)and that I was a virgin on my wedding night.

Non-fundie:

Wear pants

Swear(I was married to a champion swearer), although I won't drop an F-bomb around my mother 

Didn't submit to my husband 

Consider myself a progressive Christian and moderate-to-liberal politically 

Was on the Pill during my marriage(and before due to PCOS, even though I was a virgin)

Decided not to have children due to financial and medical reasons 

Write my own erotica 

believe in science and evolution

pro-choice and support comprehensive sex ed

Worked(although currently laid off)

Receive the ebil SSD and Medicaid 

Etc.

 

[Closed Womb]

Fundie: 

Paid cash for current home. 

Wanted to be SAHM through my 20s and mid 30s (married late, widowed young, no kids.)  

Own firearms.

Totally enjoy casseroles.

Skirts are fine.

Have read Bible cover to cover 3 times  (but only once in KJV).

Registered Republican  (although in order to vote againt Trump in a closed primary election).

Long hair.

 

Not-Fundie: 

Educated.

College Professor; teach men, women, trans folks, green haired people, etc (gasp).

Wear pants.

That house I own?  I live in it alone, without headship.  I had a mortgage on a previous property and rented before hand, all without the authority of a man.

Not wedding night virgin, actively seeking sex partner now (not going well...pray to Rufus for me, please).

Egalitarian marriage; Late husband did all of the cooking, most other chores were shared.  Equal in all ways.

Not fundie in many, many other ways.  Many.

[Tangy Bee]

Let's talk about the big ass bow Suri Holmes is wearing in her 11th bday pic. Wait...is her dad even considered a fundie scientologist?? Well, I assume her mom is not raising her with scientology beliefs. But Suri has been spotted with these big, colorfull bows in her hair. Non fundie, using fundie accessories??

[ADoyle90815]

Fundie:

Like some casseroles, but the only potato casseroles I like call for raw potatoes, sliced so they cook while the casserole is baking.

Cook other things from scratch

Into sewing and embroidery.

 

Not fundie:

Wears pants most of the time

Divorced an abusive ex-husband instead of submitting to him

Believes in evolution and science

Feminist

Prefers to work outside the home

Hair no longer than shoulder length

Shorts in the summer, even if they're Bermuda shorts because I don't really like shaving my upper legs

Shows off shoulders

Have the Paraguard IUD since the beginning of March, and love not having to worry about birth control other than monthly string checks for 10 years.

Child-free by choice

Swears

Only goes to church for weddings or funerals

Wears shoes appropriate for the occasion/activity.

2 piercings in each ear

Relies on modern medicine instead of essential oils, prayers, or other quack treatments.

Loves dancing, and listening to mainstream music

Prefers diversity

[RosyDaisy]

Fundie:
SAHW
Love to cook
Don't drink
Don't smoke
No tattoos

Non-Fundie:
Not a virgin on my wedding night
Non-submissive
Liberal
Pro-choice, sex ed, birth control
Believe in equal rights for all
Wear pants
Short hair
Cuss
Never wanted kids
Mainstream music
Dancing
Yoga
Not debt free
Went to public school and college
Had real jobs

There's probably more that escaped me

[Triplet3]

Fundie:

Didn't have sex before marriage 

Enjoy cooking from scratch

Have several siblings and am glad to have that many

Would like to have children

Love making preserves, particularly out of produce I've picked for free in the wild, have grown in my garden or have been given from relatives' gardens

Love classical music and play several musical instruments

Am naturally thrifty 

Family is important to me

Like tradition (non-harmful)

Appreciate the rich, poetic language of the KJV

Don't smoke or do illegal drugs

Don't have any tattoos and don't want any

 

Not fundie:

Have an equal relationship with my husband 

Agnostic, would like to believe in God but can't, and even if I could then I would be liberal mid-church (I.e. not 'high' or 'low church') Anglican, not evangelical

Was married by a female priest

Wear trousers as well as skirts

Fully accept science, including evolution, and would do so even if I was fully Christian 

Work outside the home

Have two degrees

Earn more than my husband, and this doesn't affect his feeling of masculinity or my feeling of femininity

Was brought up to have critical thinking abilities 

Very pro-gun control

[nausicaa]

Fundie:

-Like longer skirts, modest blouses, and a lot of traditionally feminine attire

-Have long hair

-Really like sewing and want to start sewing all my own clothes

-Like to be at home and like interior design and Pinterest projects

-Cook most of my own food, try to eat healthy, like to exercise

-Like the KJV Bible for its poetry and flow

-No tattoos, no piercings (not even ears), hair is a natural looking color

-Go to church and am active in a 20s/30s group through a church

 

Not Fundie:

-Work outside the home

-Am 32 and single

-Am not a virgin

-Own some pretty skanky club dresses

-Love all types of music

-Can swear a LOT, especially while driving

-Very liberal on social issues-- pro-choice, against prayer in public schools, pro-marriage equality, pro-comprehensive sex ed

[ladyamylynn]

Fundie:

Long hair

Bible knowledge leftover from childhood

Fairly debt-adverse

Non fundie:

Literally everything else

 

[Kariina]

Hahahaha I love this idea.

Fundie:

• I like the long hair/cardigan/statement necklace/skirt look.
• I married before 25
• I stayed at home to go to college so that I didn't have to take on student loans (semi-fundie I guess)
• I want to be a stay at home homeschooling mom to 3-4 kids (non-fundie: stopping there)
• DH and I live debt-free (but when we buy a house we'll take on a mortgage, not Maxwelling it)
• I think it's OK to help your kids out with housing (ala the Duggars) when they're starting out as long as you're not otherwise babying or controlling them

Non-fundie:

• College-educated
• Have an IUD and want abortion freely accessible
• I have my own benefited full-time job
• Admit my own bisexuality
• I cook consciously from scratch and eat intuitively

[Bazinga]

Fundie

• I love children (currently have 3 and am cut off. If we were rollin' in the money I would have many more!)
• I homeschool (though I'm an educated teacher and have worked in the public school system for many, many years. I take education very seriously. I also don't view homeschool as an end all be all. It works for now, but if we moved to a better area I would be more then willing to put my children in PS).
• I don't wear shorts or two-piece swimsuits (thank you blessed children for ruining my body)
• Attend church
• I monitor what my children watch and limit their screen times.
• My husband and I both value a close knit family. We try hard to schedule family game nights/outings. We also try to eat all together at the dinner table regularly.
• We are frugal- kind of have to be when we are only on one income.
• I don't like debt. The only debt we have is our mortgage.
• I don't drink or smoke (have in the past when I was younger, but it's no longer my jam)

Non-Fundie

• I wear skinny jeans or yoga pants daily. I think I own 1 dress.
• I also wear closed toed shoes daily too (ha!)
• My hair is often up in a messy bun. Sorry, no flowing curls for me.
• My husband and I love dark humor. We are also pretty drawn to crime/detective type shows.
• I was not a virgin when I was married.
• I use birth control.
• My husband does not expect me to be submissive, nor will I be.
• My husband does all the cooking, but to be fair I do most of the cleaning. Equal partnership here.
• I can cuss like a sailor (when little ears aren't listening)
• The beast hangs proudly on my living room wall.
• I hope all my children go to college.
• I expect my children to be adults and move out on their own, even if they aren't in relationships or married (though as a side- I'm not kicking them out when they are 18. I just don't expect my 30 year old to still be living at home).
• I hope my daughters will be get jobs that fulfill them. If they want to stay home when they have children, I will support/encourage them, if they want to have a career when they have children, I will support them with that as well. I did both in their short lives already. Neither is right or wrong.
• My kids participate in sports. It's good and healthy for them.

I'm sure there is more, but the list would probably go on and on. This was fun. Thanks OP for starting this thread.

[Carm_88]

Fundie: 

• Long Hair; it could be wavy but I chose to straighten it. 
• Like to cook and love to do laundry
• I do like skirts and dresses
• No tattoos, no piercings, 
• My hair is a natural colour
• Can be a bit trusting and gullible
• I will say "God bless you" when you sneeze
•  I do pray 
• I go to church pretty regularly 

Non-Fundie

• Wine is a life sustaining beverage
• Catholic
• Live alone
• 2 lovely degrees from a public university
• Feminist 
• Pro Choice
• Big supporter of Planned Parenthood
• Essential oils are crap
• MLMS suck
• Some pretty skanky clothes
• Pants/shorts/the tightest brightest yoga pants, hell yes! 
• No kids and no headship on the horizon 
• Birth Control since I was 16
• Not a virgin, that ship has sailed 
• Love is love and I'm not going to judge that! 
• Swear like a sailor and add in some pretty heavy blasphemy
• Once looked at the stations of the cross and admired Jesus' abs