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  • Summary provided by: Sister Mozz

     

     

    Young Ladies Christian Fellowship (YLCF.org, renamed in 2013 to Kindred Grace) was a website started in 1998 by Gretchen Glaser. Originally an off-shoot of a print newsletter, it eventually moved completely online and became one of the first and most well-known sites dedicated to Christian young ladies. It focused on the innocence and purity of girlhood and was the home of what they titled THE Index of Courtship Stories (http://web.archive.org/web/200607102122 ... p-stories/).

     

    Early in the 2000's, Gretchen's YLCF Team Members grew to include her best friend Natalie Nyquist. The girls addressed each other as "sissy" and pictures of their occasional in-person meetings were highlighted all over the site. Natalie wrote and published "Quest for the High Places: Encouragement for the Waiting Heart" (http://web.archive.org/web/200607102122 ... tthoughts/) in 2005.

     

    Gretchen was married in 2006 to Merritt Acheson, and their wedding was The Event for YLCF that year (http://web.archive.org/web/201205220316 ... n-wedding/)! Gretchen handed over the reigns of YLCF to Natalie, and she began her own blog (The Little Pink House gretchenlouise.com/little-pink-house/, now GretchenLouise.com). At the time of this writing Gretchen has three children and writes on glorious topics such as laundry, rhapsodizing on the joys of wife- and motherhood, while dropping hints that life may not be quite as glorious as she paints it to be.

     

    The Event for YLCF in 2007 was Natalie's marriage to Rick Klein (http://web.archive.org/web/200712242156 ... /klein.htm). Their wedding was in October (http://web.archive.org/web/200710071258 ... .ylcf.org/). Natalie's father officiated their wedding and said that giving his only daughter in marriage was akin to "handing a Stradivarius to a gorilla". Rick seems to have been more of a gorilla than ever imagined, as the couple were separated by January and divorced a few months later.

     

    Natalie spiraled after the divorce. Gretchen took back over at YLCF, commenting on the failure of Natalie's marriage by saying she believed that one day Natalie would find someone else, and she looked forward to dancing at their wedding. Natalie almost completely dropped offline, dealing with depression from the shattering of her much-dreamed-of marriage, and it has been hinted that she dealt with a mental illness even beyond depression during this time.

     

    In late 2008 or early 2009, Natalie met James Ference (jamesferenceisaliar.blogspot.com/) at their church. After romancing her in whirlwind fashion, and not bothering to tell her he was still married to Wife #3, they made vows to each other and were "married" in April 2009, without telling any of Natalie's family or abundance of friends. Once his divorce was final from Wife #3 that summer, James and Natalie procured their marriage license in July.

     

    Almost without explanation, in April 2009 most of Natalie's writings for YLCF had been scrubbed off the site. In May Natalie posted a statement in response (a link to which can be seen in the comments of this post: everlypleasant.com/2009/05/24/lost-or-just-misplaced/). Questioners have wondered how much about James Ference Gretchen knew to have pulled the plug so quickly, or if their scrubbing of Natalie had to do with the fact that Natalie married James without a courtship and without permission or even knowledge of her family. All ties between Gretchen and Natalie seem to have been severed at the time of Natalie's second marriage.

     

    Natalie and James started their own blog at pursuethebeauty.com, which Natalie still maintains. FreeJinger caught wind that things were fishy with their marriage as early as April 2010 (http://freejinger.yuku.com/topic/1589/L ... yle?page=1). Natalie turned a blind eye to anyone who contacted her about what was being posted online about James. The couple welcomed a son in December 2010. In January 2011 Natalie finally had enough suspicions to check out what people were saying, and confronted James about what she read online. They separated that month and divorced later that year through publication, as scumbag James was nowhere to be located.

     

    Natalie came to FreeJinger to answer questions in this long thread: http://freejinger.yuku.com/reply/137292 ... ip-stories. She now occasionally posts on the raptured FJ as well.

     

    After leaving James, Natalie moved to Chicago with her infant son to be near her parents. Her father is currently president of Moody Bible Institute (moody.edu/edu_MainPage.aspx?id=956). She has since converted to Orthodoxy, is taking classes to begin a career, and has taken a pen name under which she plans to eventually publish books.

     

    Other YLCF Team Members back in the Natalie years were Ashleigh Baker (ashleighbaker.net/), who has since had her own world shaken and is unsure about her faith. In one of the FreeJinger threads Ashleigh makes an unwise appearance, accusing Natalie's mental illnesses of skewing her view. Also Lanier Ivester (laniersbooks.com/), Natalie's former "mentor," a childless wife who runs a small farm in her suburban Georgia home. Lanier's writing is wordy but nearly unreadable with its vagueness.

  • Update 5/30/2014:

     

    Since Feb. 2013 there have been some significant updates in Natalie's life:

     

    Natalie has left the Orthodox church (http://www.prodigalmagazine.com/i-dont-like-church/). The type of church she currently attends, if she attends anywhere, is unknown.

     

    In April 2013 Natalie revealed that she suffers from both retrograde and anterograde amnesia (http://pursuethebeauty.com/2013/04/21/amnesia-life/).

     

    She graduated with a degree from the University of Chicago and now works as a proofreader for Moody Publishers. Her father is still president of Moody Bible Institute.

     

    While one can no longer find any traces online of the pen name (Natalie Jacobs) she had chosen under which to pursue writing, except for archived snark discussions about it, Natalie is currently active in the process or writing and pitching her book to publishers under her real name. Presumably the book will be titled "Pursue the Beauty," the same as her website, and will focus on young Christian women overcoming life difficulties.

     

    In April 2014 Natalie was published in HuffPo in an article called What It's Like To Be A Twice-Divorced Mom at 28 (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/04/3 ... ir=Divorce). Free Jinger readers felt the article was inherently dishonest because it failed to mention how courtship and the purity culture played a major part in both of her marriages (viewtopic.php?f=8&t=21723&hilit=natalie).

     

    Natalie keeps very quiet on the subject of her son (3.5 years old as of this update) and does not publish pictures of him online, which is probably smart considering who is father is.

     

    Speaking of James Ference, he appears to still be living with Wife #5, whom he "married" in a fake ceremony on Oct. 31, 2011 (http://jamesferenceisaliar.blogspot.com ... hhhhh.html), and then legally married in June 2013 (http://jamesferenceisaliar.blogspot.com ... up-we.html). The two seem to have had a son around the same time as their legal marriage (viewtopic.php?f=134&t=19607).

     

    Free Jinger's Discussion

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    • Kangaroo

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      I think last week during the Facebook chat they mentioned that Gil was up in Chicago visiting Michael and Brandon, so if they do have some good news that could explain him going to visit without anyone else.

      I'd say if that's the case it would either be Michael is pregnant, or they have adopted a child. I'm not sure how long the adoption process takes in the US, but depending on how long ago they learnt they couldn't have biological children I guess that could be a possibility.

      I'd say the only other pregnancy announcement would be Erin. Whitney recently started working (Would she take a job knowing she was pregnant?) And the recent photos of Alyssa don't suggest she's pregnant either.

      Other than Tori getting engaged, I don't think they'd announce anything else right now. No point in announcing a new special friend or courtship when they can wait for the show return.

       

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    • Antimony

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      1 hour ago, SoGladIWasCofE said:

      The thing that gets me about ear piercing on infants isn't really the parent making the decision for the kid, that's a pretty minor thing compared to eg. naming them.

      It's that it's purely decorative, and causing a kid pain (even temporary) for aesthetic purposes seems off.

      I mean, it's obviously a really minor thing in the scheme of things, but it's not risk free.

      I have two biggest gripes with piercing the ears of a baby...

      1. Most people will go to a place that uses a gun and this causes unnecessary damage. There are all kinds of articles on this. I had my ears pierced this way (age 9, and again at 13 for a second hole) and I regret it. 

      2. Biggest thing - babies cannot talk. Ear piercings can get infected. Babies cannot tell you that their earlobe feels warm or slightly swollen. You should be checking if you decide to do this but there are so many aspects of feeling "wrong" that you aren't even good at describing as an adult. 

      As far as Jill goes, though, I'm shocked anybody thought Nurie was ever a boy! Jill seems the type to dress a girl baby in all pink and tape as many flower-bows on their head as needed. 

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    • allthegoodnamesrgone

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      Watching last nights show. 

      FFS, Kendra, UGH! :my_sick:   She makes Joy look like a Rhodes Scholar. 

      Jackson, you keep doin you. 

      James with no F to give. :my_biggrin:

      I"m dying here because Joy & Austin at the cake tasting were my husband and I  It was a foreboding of the fact that the man cannot make decision to save his life. Wedding cake tasting was fun but only because 2 of my friends were there and we were just stuffing our faces with cake, because they had the BEST cake. Any one from the Des Moines area remember Lovejoy's in Carlisle?  So sad when they closed.  But I digress... That scene had me and my husband laughing, he said "I remember doing exactly that" I wasn't  overly fussed with details I knew what I didn't want but didn't want, ad we were that lovey dovy; you, no you, nooooo yoooooooouu. Stuff that those two were doing.  I have  feeling the cake lady was unfazed by Joy & Austin's interactions.  I'm just astounded that Michelle did so much with the Wedding. 

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    • Flossie

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      Well, John's been having it rough.  That guy died and his wife moved away so he can't consider her to be a new recruite.  She's only a woman, anyway.  But his past converts are mostly done with him, he's got to travel farther to find anyone who'll even pretend to listen to him, and I think he's getting a case of the sads.  

      I bet he decided to call Daddy and get more money, because spending money always makes John smile.  But Daddy got testy with him and said that he's not bringing in much himself these days because so many of his congregation are donating extra money to help with the hurricanes.  John probably stupidly asked "What hurricanes?  We don't get those here.", causing Daddy to get even more testy.  

      Since John has been denied his Retail Therapy, and banging Esther isn't as much fun when she's already pregnant, he's got to go on Face Book and make a suitably vague post letting everyone know that he's having trouble, he's been betrayed by his own flesh (and blood?), Satan's got him by the short and curly's again, and he's in need of internet hugs, prayers, and some money wouldn't go amiss, either.  He's probably waiting in his bed for his leg humpers to lift his spirits.

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    • lilwriter85

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      2 minutes ago, fundamentallyfearless said:

      THIS IS A NEW LOW EVEN FOR LORI. I CAN'T EVEN.

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      I don't think she understands slavery... like, at all...

      Ugh, what a fucking moron.  As long employers are treating their employees well by legal and safety standards and the work environment isn't hostile- that's not slavery. 

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