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Mrs. Anna T â€“ â€œDomestic Felicityâ€
Anna writes for Ladies Against Feminism, though Iâ€™ve only rarely checked that site. I stumbled across her blog in pretty much the usual way anyone stumbles across any blog. I was interested, however, because sheâ€™s Jewish Orthodox and living in Israel. I thought the perspective of a woman in Israel would be interesting and it is.
Anna writes well and is multilingual and college educated, with a degree in nutrition. She was raised by a single mother and they were not very devout in their religious practice. In college she dated a man and it sounds like it was a pretty serious relationship, but he was abusive to her. Afterward, she began to turn to her religion and found comfort in it and the traditional gender roles Orthodoxy offered. She remained single for a year or two after college before she met her husband, Yitzhak.
Their first date sounds like it was all business and they measured their interests and values against the otherâ€™s interests and values and they decided they were compatible. From there, it wasnâ€™t long before they were engaged, married, and had a baby girl. After 18 months, another baby girl came along. They have moved quite a bit in their short time together. Some have opined that she lives in an Israeli settlement, but she indicates only that theyâ€™re in the country and that they are in a peaceful area.
One thing about Annaâ€™s blog that stands out is her constant quest for peace. That may partially be due to her knowing that military conflict is near, but it also seems to be some kind of internal craving with her. She doesnâ€™t seem to deal well with much of any kind of pressure. Even having people over for Shabbat, where itâ€™s pot-luck style, seems stressful even though she enjoys the company. Still, the reader gets the impression of a rather introverted woman who likes things to flow smoothly.
Another thing that stands out is her rigidity. She believes women are suited and designed for domestic endeavors and men are to be the providers and leaders. Period. For a woman to have a hobby is to be neglectful of her family. When challenged, she just repeats her beliefs. There doesnâ€™t seem to be any room for â€œdifferent strokes for different folks.â€ (a snark-worthy read is interesting read is the blog of Analytical Adam, a guy who occasionally comments on her more theological posts)
That said, she speaks strongly against a conservative wing of Orthodox Jews where the men study Torah all the time and the women work, have numerous children, and keep the house.
Not long ago, she wrote a post about how, when she was newly married, sheâ€™d hoped to be a mom to many children, but that it was not to be. She didnâ€™t elaborate on why. She desires to homeschool, but expresses nervousness about whether the government will allow it. It seems there are enough hoops to jump through in Israel that it makes homeschooling difficult.
Her family of origin doesnâ€™t seem to be very supportive, but she doesnâ€™t elaborate. She also was disappointed in her hospital birthing experiences, finding them overly clinical, unnecessarily invasive, and brusque (my words, not hers).
I like hearing about their holidays. Because they are Orthodox, they observe them all and thereâ€™s a part of me that finds quite nice that cycle of remembering and celebrating or mourning or whatever. And she makes some delicious-looking meals (oh, she used to be vegetarian but now incorporates some meat in her diet).
My favorite post of hers is the one where she reflects on her reflection in the mirror and what it means and how itâ€™s not always comfortable. Even after being married 5 years, sheâ€™s not yet comfortable seeing herself in a tichel. There had been a picture of her in her headscarf on her blog and I liked that photo. She has a nice smile. I liked learning that someone with such rigid beliefs also has some internal conflict rather than pretending all is always perfect.
There for awhile, she wrote a little story, in segments on her blog, about a girl named Becky who has to go live with her aunt and uncleâ€™s family. Of course, Becky was not religious and wore short skirts and jeans and her aunt and uncleâ€™s family is Orthodox and she has some adjusting to do. Anna hasnâ€™t updated the story in a long time. Though Anna writes well, the story was corny and predictable.
I choose to read her blog as a look into the life of a woman whoâ€™s trying to make sense of life and, like most fundies who choose rigidity, find comfort in shelter offered by religion and prescribed roles.
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Mrs. Anna T continues to search for peacefulness. She really does seem to enjoy what she calls â€œthe simple life at home,â€ baking, crafting, gardening, and chicken-keeping, but things donâ€™t seem to be all that stable.
For starters, she and her family move relatively frequently. She does not elaborate why they move, but she does hint that her husbandâ€™s employment is not altogether reliable.
The â€œcrossroads in (her husbandâ€™s) careerâ€ (as she put it) might indicate that their income is not steady. Given her devout faith, she interprets un-steady income as a means upon which to rely on God and trust in his provisions.
While she had hoped to have a lot of children, she has two daughters. She did not elaborate on why they stopped at two, but a recent post (by another woman) about secondary infertility might be a clue. I donâ€™t know whether she has simply not conceived due to secondary infertility (the author of the piece she shared had that experience) or whether she and Mr. T chose to stop after two for other reasons. In any case, it seems that folks in her community are as meddlesome as they are anywhere else and they question her child spacing â€“ that her youngest is 3 or 4 and thereâ€™s no sign of one on the way. That she shared another womanâ€™s story of being hurt by othersâ€™ meddlesome comments and questions as to why there were no more children when the woman is still of childbearing age makes me wonder if she also feels hurt.
It seems she lives in a â€œsettledâ€ area of Israel and she is currently very worried that this land will get taken away from them (the Jewish people). Being a more â€œmainstreamâ€ Orthodox Jew, it would follow that she believes that God gave the Jewish people Israel and that they are to occupy it. She has said nothing about the Israeli Armyâ€™s bulldozing tactics, so I donâ€™t know whether or not she agrees with their form of border â€œenforcement.â€
Please forgive the more personal opinions in the following paragraph: In the US, when we wish for a peaceful life, we usually mean a life thatâ€™s unhindered by stresses like long commutes, work deadlines, and trying to stay afloat financially. Living where she does, I do believe â€œpeaceâ€ has a more literal connotation, so I really canâ€™t join others in concluding that sheâ€™s somehow avoiding real life. I canâ€™t fault her for wanting peace and stability. However, if she ever comes out with an attempt to justify the Israeli Armyâ€™s actions, my generally positive impression of her will do a 180. She has never come out with anti-Muslim comments, but if they live in an occupied settlement (this is information I gathered via fj; Anna has never shared their whereabouts other than their living in the country), I wonder how neighborly they really feel towards them - and I do recognize that the Israel/Palestine antagonism goes both ways.
The family will be moving again soon (she has not shared where theyâ€™ll be going) and it sounds like theyâ€™re downsizing. I really hope that Mr. T can find stable, profitable employment, as she has put herself in a place where she is dependent upon him, financially. Of course, she sees this as living the way God intended and tries to put on a happy face, but thereâ€™s something about her tone that sounds disappointed. She wants the Orthodox Jewish Woman Dream and itâ€™s not turning out too dreamy.
I like her love of animals and nature, playing with her children, doing crafts (some very pretty crochet work) and intelligence.
@usmcmom, the only time I buy something at the Navy Exchange is when it's on clearance, and then there's a 50% off the clearance price promo going on, usually on a holiday weekend. I've scored several Vera Bradley bags in the past few years for well under $20 that way. I've gotten a couple pairs of Converse that cheap, too, although they're getting harder to find on the clearance tables. The exchanges really seem to cater more to higher level officers and their families these days, than to the average enlisted families.Edited by Loveday
didn't really edit anything, hit the edit button by mistake! D'oh!0
12 minutes ago, usmcmom said:
When I visited the PX while visiting my son on base, I was really surprised at the merchandise. It was mainly high end items, like Downey and Burke purses and designer brand clothing. Granted, the prices are typically about 20% cheaper than civilian stores and there is no sales tax. Still, I found myself wondering how young families on military pay could afford such things. I did treat myself to a Vera Bradley tote bag but I was expecting the merchandise to be more moderate.
Imagine living in Japan and only having access to a NEX for clothing, as you were slightly too big for Japanese sized clothes. And I'm not talking overweight... I'm talking like a size 8 and medium shirt.
This is why I'd spend like 500 dollars shopping each time I came back to the states. The only jeans my nex sold was True Religion or similar styles.1
3 hours ago, usmcmom said:
My husband once had to fire someone who happened to live in our neighborhood. The man he fired did not have all of his office keys, etc with him so Human Resources told him he could just drop it by our house - where I happened to be alone through the day with two small children. They called me to tell me this arrangement. I called my husband and asked him to put a stop to that plan NOW. I did not want a disgruntled ex-emploeee showing up on my doorstep. USMCDAD called the HR office and ripped them a new one.
No snark at all - Ken is foolish for putting his address on the internet like that when his wife is often home alone - sometimes caring for her grandkids. He should list email and phone number only and if he needs to meet with someone, make arrangements in such a way that does not include publicizing his address.
But what do I know - Ken knows all about being the protector and provider and laying down his life...blah, blah, blah. I'm just a foolish woman.
My husband owns a business, knife sharpening and he sells knives and shooting targets. He has a PO Box and he has a website. He doesn't use our home address, because it is just stupid. When he has a sharpening job, he will either meet the client at a neutral location or go to their business (he does a lot of sheers for groomers). The only client that knows our address happens to be our neighbor. Because he isn't stupid. Unlike Ken.0
11 hours ago, Gobsmacked said:
The Tempe police force must have an idea who pp is after the nonsense a few years ago when he was tazered teehee!!)
A chap like pp won't fly under the radar of the local police.
I agree, @Gobsmacked. I wonder if they pass around PP's photo at morning roll call in the Tempe police department. Especially after the killing gays and praying for Obama's death, et al started.0
Just gotta say- I respect this family even more now for their decision to help animals displaced by hurricane Harvey (shown on tonight's episode). I wanted to help victims of Harvey in some way so I made a donation to a non-kill animal shelter in Houston that is taking in our furry friends and finding them homes. Best money I ever spent!0