Gary posted this today:

I am sure, Gary and I would have very different ideas about what needs to be fixed. I do not understand Donnie‘s comment. Is bedumb a reference to public assistance?

I listened to Pastor Baker’s “Never Argue with Your Spouse” video. I find him really annoying, but his communication tips were actually very good except for one part. He said couples should agree on an opening line for talking about a problem. The husband’s opening line should always be something expressing love because that’s what women want. The wife’s should be something showing respect because that’s what men want. With one couple he counseled, the husband wanted the wife to say, “Sir, we need to talk…” The wife didn’t like that, and Baker told her to be thankful that the husband didn’t want her to call him lord like Sarah called Abraham in the Bible. 

Baker urges couples to seek coaches for problems they’ve tabled and can’t agree on. He and Laura have had a marriage coach since their honeymoon even though they didn’t really need it until a few years ago. He then makes a really bad joke about how she was beating him again. I don’t know why he thinks spousal abuse is humorous. He says his marriage communication tips worked for couples he really had little hope for. One wife was so angry after a counseling session that she tried to run Pastor Dave over with her car. 15 years later, that couple is still together!

And on another note not really related to Gary, if a fundie (Gary twice removed friend) mentions his only sin in a marriage was seeing two adulterers on a computer screen, does that mean he looked at pornography? It seemed like such a strange euphemism.

On 4/11/2024 at 3:40 PM, JermajestyDuggar said:

Karissa says her kids don’t like to read. I’m sorry but that’s a huge red flag. If homeschool kids don’t like to read, it’s because there’s a problem. 

Not even the homeschooling part, the statement that ALL of them "don't like to read." Out of how many, none? That seems hinky to me.

7 minutes ago, JermajestyDuggar said:

It could be that too. Either she doesn’t want to talk about how she won’t have sex with her husband for months after birth or she doesn’t want to talk about pulling out. Because both of those things could be looked down upon by other fundies in her circle. 

But it's certainly implied that she's doing *something*. But no, she won't say more lest she is thought to be a bad Christian. 🙄

11 minutes ago, marmalade said:

The second to last slide sounds like no sexy times for a while between kids. 

It could be that too. Either she doesn’t want to talk about how she won’t have sex with her husband for months after birth or she doesn’t want to talk about pulling out. Because both of those things could be looked down upon by other fundies in her circle. 

The second to last slide sounds like no sexy times for a while between kids.