I'm jumping ahead a bit in time here, but hopefully, I'll be able to do some catch-up posts in the next couple of days. Anyway, the Lord has decided to bless the O'Hurleys with twins. In addition to the two toddlers already in the house. Thankfully, Matthew is only one day away from aging up. I caved and used the free real estate cheat to buy them a nice big house in Brindleton Bay. Now, I'm off to look into the MC Commander mod since we've almost got a full house already!
I learned the hard way about boundaries a few weeks into my counseling career. One of my group therapy patients told me he'd like to get together with me after he got out of treatment if I were ever visiting the town in which he lived. I knew this wasn't possible but I was new on the job and didn't want to hurt his feelings. Plus, if I'm being completely honest, I wanted him to like me. Instead of being kind and direct I was noncommittal.
After our conversation ended, about 2 minutes later(I kid you not), I was paged to the Treatment Directors office. He told me in no uncertain terms I had to be very clear about my boundaries with every patient. A staff member had overheard our conversation and turned my in for my own good. I felt betrayed and angry because I was hired over a lot of other people and in my eyes I was Queen Bee. Shit! I ate humble pie after that humiliating and well deserved lesson.
Just to put some things in perspective. In Ireland in the 1970s, not only were abortions illegal, so was contraception. This woman really had no choice in the matter of bringing this child into the world. So basically you are arguing that anyone who has ever had sex has a responsibility for a child. Also, we don't know the circumstances under which this child was conceived, how much coercion happened, and how old the parties were. You are really painting people you've never met with a very broad, very severe, anti-woman, anti-sex brush.
And...way to completely turn off new posters from FJ.
I appreciate you putting things into perspective and explaining the climate of 1970’s Ireland better than I could have. My mom was raised in a strict Irish Catholic household and was made to feel incredibly ashamed after she became pregnant. I know this because When I first found out about my brother and my sis and I asked her about it, she admitted it was true and exclaimed, “I’m so ashamed!” I think she carried those feelings of shame with her for her entire life. It’s amazing how different Ireland is today. Many of my cousins live with their significant others and have babies without being married and now it seems to be much more accepted. It’s amazing how much attitudes can change in just a couple of generations.
I think at this point, JB & Michelle have allowed Jana to call these places “her own”. I think she’s given a lot of independence. I believe Jana is happy living at home and it’s a simple case of no one coming along that made her want to leave “her kids”. None of the Duggar daughters have even married real “winners”.
In addition, JB & Michelle have given her a built-in buddy with Laura. She has her needs being met in this living situation. I’m pretty sure she wants to wait for Josie, Jordyn, Jennifer, Jackson, and Johanna get into the young teen years before taking off. This is not a sister relationship, it’s a mother and her children situation basically. Jana remaining in the home, given the fundamentalist Christian quiverfull context, is interesting but it really demonstrates that Michelle wasn’t a “mother figure” to the youngest kids, in my opinion.
On another note, I hope JB & Michelle leave the bulk of their inheritance to Jana. I believe Michelle only truly raised the first 7 with Grandma Duggar’s help. Jana was the 24/7 on-call nanny for years and deserves to be compensated for that. I think the whole family is very generous to her for this reason as well.
@singsingsing David's grandfather who passed away in October had the surname Blom, which sounds like it could be Dutch. I would think that they have some Dutch roots.
Either Dutch or Scandinavian, which both fits with their looks as well.
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Another high pain day. Headache from hell and back pain. I swear by all that's holy if I ever find the bitch that hit me I will make damn good and sure she ends up in as much pain as I am in. I've had enough. I want my life back.
Prayers, good thoughts and positive vibes please. Hubby's blood sugar levels are through the roof and won't come down even with insulin bolus. I'm retesting him at 4:45 PDT and if they're still high we're heading to the hospital. Thanks.