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Life recap

HerNameIsBuffy

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Just checking in.  Have been crazy busy for the last month or so.  Doing what? (Asks no one...)

  • working long hours on the biggest project of my career.
  • dealing with the logistics of my divorce including now having to pump my own gas, which is ridiculous.
  • keeping a low profile so until I'm capable of communicating without bleeding my barely contained messy psyche over even innocuous comments.  (You're welcome)
  • coming to grips with my full blown Cinderella complex which is an affliction I've always had, but completely forgot about until it flared up and took over my life
  • getting slapped in the face with shitty messages from the universe which are crystal clear and unambiguous and even I can only ignore for so long before I need to accept.  And respond...

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I'm sorry there is so much suckage in your life right now. Thinking happy thoughts for you and Hello Kitty cupcakes for your return. 

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HerNameIsBuffy

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Hello Kitty cupcakes make me smile no matter what.  I'm convinced I could be in the process of being murdered by a giant squid and still have a surge of happy if someone waved HK deliciousness at me.  :) 

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I'd chop the squid and make calamari for days! I'm from Jersey so pumping gas isn't my thing, either.

It's settled.  Cupcakes and maybe a knitted plushie. With glitter yarn.

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Karma

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I don't mind pumping gas/putting petrol in the car.  It's pumping up the tyres that I really hate.  And I'm so relieved that they check the oil and water at the yearly service so I don't have to,

But seriously, I hope that the universe gives you a break soon, buffy.  In the meantime, cupcakes sound like a good plan.  Hugs.  :hello-kitty-clap:  (I can never find the hug emoticon despite every other poster on fj finding multiple ones, but this one kind of looks like a hello Kitty is trying to hug you)

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MarblesMom

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Glad to see you surface  - this crap will pass, eventually...!  

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clueliss

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Note that the dadgummed thing is DEAD in this.  @HerNameIsBuffy may be perfectly reasonable in her fear of Squid 

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Odori-don is a Japanese dish that literally means ‘dancing squid and rice bowl.’ Pouring soy sauce over a recently dead squid or cuttlefish makes it 'dance’ because although it is deceased, the tissues are still alive and reacting to the high sodium content.

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HerNameIsBuffy

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Were that served to me idk if I'd be more horrified by it trying to murder me for the afterlife (squid zombie) or the fact that I would have just wet myself in public.

you win the Internet!

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Destiny

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<3 you b. You are gonna get through this. 

Also, FUCK THAT SQUID SHIT NO NO NO NO NO!

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Cartmann99

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I'm sorry to hear that things are so challenging for you right now. :pb_sad:

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formergothardite

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Giant hugs to Buffy. Sometimes life just sucks. I also hate pumping gas. I can't think of why, but I just do. 

The squid is going to give me nightmares. How could anyone EAT that?!!!!!!!!!

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SilverBeach

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I've been thinking about you Buffy, figured you were busy with the divorce. Miss you in the threads.

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WhatWouldJohnCrichtonDo?

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I'm really glad to see you around. :romance-heartsmiley:

And I am NOT clicking that dancing squid video. Nope!

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Karma

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Ugh, I did click on it. And I'm in bed, about to try to go to sleep.  Aargh, I wish I hadn't clicked...

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EyeQueue

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Kind of in the same boat. Having to now learn how to deal with my own finances b/c someone else has been doing it for me for the last 13 years. It really sucks. :tw_bawling:

I don't even know how to deal with the Internet going down or if the computer stops working or if eleventy hundred other things go wrong.

I told my fears to my daughter (who just turned 18 2 weeks ago), and she said: "Mom, it will be fine. We'll get a landline like no one has anymore and we'll get a fucking Mickey Mouse phone and we'll be fine." :pb_lol:

It will get better. Just remember that. It's hard right now, but it will get better.

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nst

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Any idea on how to quit a job with a boss who is getting onset dementia who was once a brilliant professor 

I can't stay there anymore 

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Grimalkin

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   Buffy, thinking of you and wishing you the best. The weather will warm up soon and pumping gas won't suck as much! Your clever as fuck, and highly capeable. Don't forget that there are tons of internet strangers that care for you and your well being.

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sawasdee

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:hug: Buffy! So sorry that life sucks at the moment.

On another note - I learnt to drive here in Thailand at the age of 50 - and I don't KNOW how to pump gas - all stations here are full service - FSM help me if that ever changes.......

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AliceInFundyland

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Oh Buffy. I had to surface myself to give you :hug:.

This was literally the first thing I saw after not being over here in couple weeks.

Much love.

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      Notice that it doesn’t say “Husbands, love your wives as the Church loves Christ.” Why is this? Because marriage is a display of the covenant love that Christ has for his Church, and because the love that Christ has for his Church will always be stronger, purer, and more enduring than the love that the Church has for Christ.

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      That is why we are pointed to Jesus’ love and not our own as the example that we are to follow and pursue.

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      Yet submission "as the church submits to Christ" is always from the wife to the husband.  Always. Mutual submission doesn't exist because gender roles. Because we need to paint the picture right. Well... what picture? 

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